so...what if I like you?

If I have a great time with a provider, and she sends me a PM telling me she had a great time too and would like to see me again, I would be flattered, and it would likely influence me to see her again.

You just have to be careful not to overdo it or you may drive them away, if you send them texts in the middle of the night, or repeated requests to come see you. It becomes a turn-off.

Yes, slippery slope for sure.

Im extremely worried about having a session with Gemma because I know Id want to french kiss her for at least 30 minutes, then Im going to fall in love with her.

I don't think it would hurt to send him a message saying you genuinely enjoyed your time together but this can be tricky. There's a fine line between letting somebody know you had fun and want to do it again sometime, and just trolling for appointments. A request to get together because you had fun is flattering, trolling for appointments is a turn off.

If there really was some good sexual chemistry (i.e. he fucked your brains out exactly the way you like your brains fucked out) then he probably knows it.

For every provider who's worried that a john may be wishing to have her in the happily ever after scenario, there is a john who's worried that a provider may be wishing to be part of his RW life...

The heart can always find a way to jeopardize reason and this board isn't eharmony - be careful...

Maybe best to discuss next time you have a date so clear expectations may be set...



Really Savannah, Bora Bora - is that..........that bad?!?!?

hope this doesn't piss off any of my fellow members, but the easiest way to be friends with a client is to NOT start in with anything to do with money, discounts (that you don't normally provide to regulars) or freebies. That tells them that even though you like to fuck them, you like the way the respect you, or anything else that attracts you to them, but you are working and you need to be paid. Helps keep it from becoming more. I have a few friends who go to dinner, gambling or drinks with me after a session OTC, but all sessions are paid for. Works good for me, there is no negotiating or worrying about hurt feelings to get in the way of being hobby friends. You can let them know you like to spend work time with them in lots of other ways like how you do a little extra prep for a session or the level of IOP you give. Texts right after are really cool to receive. Always ask if is OK to text at times they do not initiate communication to make sure you don't text them in a RL bad time

I love it when a woman tells me I'm better at something than most of the other guys it's a huge ego boost for me..... personally if a provider went out of her way to tell me that she had a wonderful time with me and couldn't wait to do it again that would probably be enough to have me coming back for more it's much more enjoyable when everyone's having fun...... girls with no enthusiasm suck lol .......so ladies if you see me and we have a great time and you wanna do it again feel free to tell me you will probably end up with me as a new regular......... we like to heat that shit and most of us keep it professional Originally Posted by lovethickgirls

Was contemplating writing a response, and then saw ltg's response. It pretty much sums it up for me. Although we can generally tell the difference between the BS "you-were-the-best-I-ever-had", and the sincere compliments, we do like to hear them either way, anyways. Those are the ones I want to become regulars.. (Damn, I miss my retired regular!)

If you want to tell him you had a great time, then tell him! I guarantee that will excite him to see you again! Originally Posted by Gemma34

Gemma, Gemma, Gemma... you can't tell me you had a good time with me until we have our first time... Get your sweet butt up to Kansas City!!! LOL

ok now thats what i am talking about! so if i PM you or text you its really because i have been thinking about your great talents and our chemistry...i will not message every guy just to get business. that is not classy. i love this job and i want you guys to know it!

ok now thats what i am talking about! so if i PM you or text you its really because i have been thinking about your great talents and our chemistry...i will not message every guy just to get business. that is not classy. i love this job and i want you guys to know it! Originally Posted by SweetSuzanna

So to get this straight if a guy doesn't get a text he should assume what?

Irregardless that you just said you arent gonna text every guy....

Ya see now that you posted this some knuckleheads are gonna be sitting there thinking I didn't get a text...wait and see what happens..

If I have a great time with a provider, and she sends me a PM telling me she had a great time too and would like to see me again, I would be flattered, and it would likely influence me to see her again. Originally Posted by woody4eroticfun

I agree, no question about it!

So to get this straight if a guy doesn't get a text he should assume what? Originally Posted by BigDeal

If I don't get a text from a provider I have seen, I assume she has discretion, understands privacy, and....

...she sends me a PM telling me she had a great time too and would like to see me again Originally Posted by woody4eroticfun

That's what'll get ME back to see her...!

I have gotten a couple PMs thanking me for seeing them or a quick text right after I left saying how much they enjoyed our time together. These types of messages made me feel great. Timing is a big part of this. Don't cold call someone two weeks after they visited.

Really Savannah, Bora Bora - is that..........that bad?!?!?[/QUOTE]
Never bad, that's my RL/RW retirement destination... that WILL HAPPEN, but with a client, probably not my goal in life heheheee

Ok, i guess that came out wrong. What i meant was what if i think you are hot and i want to f your brains out!
You are a good customer, we had an amazing time. Can i tell u or pm you and ask to see u? Or just wait by the phone and hope your sexy ass calls me!
No, i didnt mean like a relationship Originally Posted by SweetSuzanna

I hope to shine a light on the differences between sex and a relationship; life is best when we have both together. I have talked enough about this. So here it goes again.

We all deeply need and want sex. All of us.
We all hurt without a family, or a close relationship.
We all learn about our feelings, and ourselves as we age.

I lost my high school sweetheart and my first wife - breast cancer
Loss hurts, and without sex that hurts too until a friend explained the basic need of all of us - I needed to get laid. But, I had two kids to see about.

Thank you to all the ladies for providing sex when there was no relationship that provided sex.

Found another lady who became my second wife; the hobby stopped.

She died; I still miss her and still see her children. So I gained a second family. Damn, I still wanted sex; I also have family responsibility.

Thank you to all the ladies for providing sex when there was no relationship that provided sex.


Relationships are very important to all of us. It is about looking out for others, and looking after yourself. If you have children and grandchildren, step children and step grandchildren, you know how important they are to you.

Confused about the two. Relax, all of us are.

JR Lawrence

Never bad, that's my RL/RW retirement destination... that WILL HAPPEN, but with a client, probably not my goal in life heheheee Originally Posted by Savannah Moon

SHHHH dont tell everyone!!

SHHHH dont tell everyone!! Originally Posted by BigDeal

SNAPCHAT??? From Bora Bora? Can I ♡♡♡