Being that I'm one of the youngest hobbyists here, still in my 20s, I don't really have the same problem as you but it does sometimes take a while for my buddy to wake up. I have had problems that guys have experienced, with a porn star no less. My one chance to have fun with a lady that definitely knows her way around a stiffy and I couldn't finish. She seemed pretty let down about it but it happens to the best of us.
Anyway I think if you're up front about it, most ladies wont sweat it if you can't rise to the occasion. As long as they know you're enjoying yourself all should be good.
sometimes intimacy doesn't always mean penetration...jmo
Originally Posted by kami405
I definitely agree, I've enjoyed time with the ladies I've seen while between the sheets but most of the most intimate times I've had were usually after the fact when you get to just enjoy each other on an intellectual level. One of the most intimate moments I've had and one of my favorite memories is sitting in a bath with a provider friend of mine, giving her a back rub while we just talked, nothing extremely sexual about it but very intimate none the less.