Ease, convenience, sense of control, lower standard of expectations and emotional baggage.
Originally Posted by SweetDulce
That's not a real conversation. That's like paying someone to play chess with you but they will never try to beat you because they are afraid you will stop paying them. If I truly was desperate enough to pay someone just to talk to me, I gaurantee I could find a ton of women willing to do it for under $50/hour.
Op has never insinuated he wants to find a RW SO.
Originally Posted by SweetDulce
I didn't say he wants a SO. I said he doesn't have to pay women to talk to him. It's easy to find women to talk to almost any where you go.
Props to him for not playing with the emotions a scared divorecee, because we all know us woman don't need sex in the equation to get emotionally hurt.
Originally Posted by SweetDulce
I never suggested he lie to anyone. If you date and never agree to be exclusive, whether I'm screwing a civvie or a hooker is none of her business. She's welcome to shag whomever she wants.
There you go again with the Pretty Woman movie reference
Originally Posted by SweetDulce
I use the movie reference because it's frequently fitting, unfortunately. It's not that I think providers and hobbiest aren't deserving of finding that special someone, I just think relationships are hard enough and most of the guys on here don't have the mental toughness to survive discovery of her past. Think of all the guys too scared to give a girl a no on a review or post a NCNS thread because of the drama. Do you want one of those guys standing by your side when the neighbors find out?
95% of all the providers I've seen are around 24-26 or so. What if I started spending a lot of time with one and we started having feelings for each other. What if she wants kids? Most of us are 45-60. We aren't going to do that. Hell, I might even be older than her parents.
When I see guys spending a lot of time with providers (paid or not), I just think they are setting themselves up for pain and drama. Almost any guy wanting to go to a hooker social fall into this group.