I've given you this speech via PM.. so now I'm going to give it to you out here. Stop spending so much time and energy on someone who will never spend a dime on you and stop thinking that material things are going to elevate your status. There are 2 things most people here don't care about--- trolls and how much money a hook has. They aren't going to pay attention to either one.
No-- his posts don't affect your income. Your past, however, does. Most everything that has been said has been mentioned in your very old drama threads. Some people have the ability to get past that and see you're making changes-- hell, even I've complimented your more recent choices and actions-- and others are just going to feel like you're too much of a risk even now. That is life and that is what happens when you allow yourself to get dragged under for a little while.
I'll say it here-- gents... if you're concerned about seeing Kitty due to the drama you've seen--- give her a shot. From what I can see, she has put most if not all the drama behind her and is doing a good job of rebuilding her life. Concerned about her "real looks"? Ask her for a short video-- she has always been willing to oblige.
Originally Posted by GracePreston
Perfect response. I agree.
I am in total agreement with Grace and E214.....you should have heeded her advice and not given him the time of day. You started this threAD and it will not go in the direction you want it to. Yes, Eccie is how you pay your bills but you make it much more than that and the trolls see this. You have given them more than enough ammunition to send you into a spiraling downfall because you are entirely too emotional. You should have just come back with a new and refreshed outlook and stayed off the boards and out of the discussions. You TRY way too hard and it backfires on you every time. I truly hate that for you. I am going to suggest that you stop responding on this thread or any other thread trying to defend yourself. Just because bait is laid doesn't mean you have to take it. Just do you Kitty. Leave the Eccie wolves to themselves. Btw, I think it's great that you have gotten things back on track....you just need to make use of the ignore option now.
Originally Posted by Kendall4U
+10000000
The ignore button works, try it
Originally Posted by Jules Jaguar
I had NEVER used the ignore button until last Fall. There were members that were giving me grief, and a few that weren't but were getting on my last nerve.
So for a few months, well, actually until a few months ago ... I had 3-5 people on ignore for awhile.
Now, I do not. However, putting people on ignore is empowering. It's great. And it'll give you some breathing room and helps you to
ignore certain folks.
You've mentioned before about the self confidence. Girl, people are paying to be with you and fuck you, sounds pretty damn empowering to me. I cannot put myself in your situation to imagine your struggles, but I think the best thing for you is the ignore button and finding friends and a life outside of the hobby. Not saying to leave the hobby, but to have a life outside of it.
Originally Posted by TheEccie214
You've gotten some very good advice. But I would like to add one more thought.
I have pretty much always been in your corner, Kitty. And I can see where you've trying to get everything squared away in your life and well ... bravo for that.
But I would be very careful posting pictures even if they don't give identifying information. I know that you've posted pictures of you being in a hotel room in the past, but this is a bit different.
This is your HOME. And some people have an almost magical way of finding out/hacking where that picture was taken. Or you've just let people know too much about yourself. Your car, etc.
And like Grace mentioned, it really doesn't matter. People don't care about the personal stuff like one would think that they do.
Most people, generally, wish to know that you're doing alright ... and if they can see you for an appointment (or lunch or any type of rendezvous) and not get ripped off.
I would make a gentle suggestion. I'd ask a local moderator to remove all of those pictures except ... well, maybe the one of your cat. That is a very cute (cute!) kitty.
You know, kindof like yourself!
Best of luck to you!
Sincerely,
Elisabeth
P.S. A bit of a disclaimer: I've considered posting pictures of my dog, and cats, on Eccie in the past. They're cute and there have been a few ideas that I've had for topics, that include pictures of beloved family pets. However, I've not done so for the reasons I've listed above. So if you have those pics removed, consider having them ALL removed. Just an idea. Again ... take care and good luck to you!!!