I have had several S/O contact me. I've had some text me explaining to me how heart broken they was and just needed clarification on what they already discovered. I've also had some threaten to find me and do bodily harm to me. Every text gets completely ignored. Guys, It's best to use a different number or phone for the hobby. I strongly suggest that you leave it locked in your office or a place that only you have access to.
One reason why screening is so important, I had one wife contact me about her husband pretending to be a provider. She sent me his information and totally acted as if she wanted a reference for him. The way she texted me and the fact that her name or number didn't bring up any information on the provider name she gave me let me know that it was his wife.
That same gentleman contacted me a week later and thanked me for not answering his wife's text messages. Needless to say, he tipped me great on our next meeting.
That's why it's important for you guys to give us a heads up when you need a reference and when another provider will be reaching out for a reference on your behalf. That would greatly decrease the chances of you getting caught up like this. Guys please be careful and try to be discreet as possible!