A Letter To My Upscale Respectful Brothers

Had a good documentary on TV called " Dark Women". Seems like the brothers prefer light brights, and dump on dark skinned black women. Is that racist? Originally Posted by i'va biggen

This may be true for some black men, but again you are relying on a documentary you saw on TV to paint a broad picture of what black men prefer. There are so many shades of black people, how in the world is it possible to say with absolute certainty that black men do not like dark skin women or prefer light skin women. This is the crazy logic that I'm talking about.

This may be true for some black men, but again you are relying on a documentary you saw on TV to paint a broad picture of what black men prefer. There are so many shades of black people, how in the world is it possible to say with absolute certainty that black men do not like dark skin women or prefer light skin women. This is the crazy logic that I'm talking about. Originally Posted by Agreen7

Filmmakers Bill Duke, and D Channsin Berry were the ones making Dark girls (think I said women) if you have issue on what they presented or the women interviewed, then you should contact them.

This thread is destined to be an epic fail. Nothing good or informative will come of anything posted here. Mods, please close this thread. Originally Posted by Cleo

Without a doubt!

Had a good documentary on TV called " Dark Women". Seems like the brothers prefer light brights, and dump on dark skinned black women. Is that racist? Originally Posted by i'va biggen

Seems like is the optimum phrase. Having a particular preference does not constitute being a racist. One is choosing between black women; light skinned and dark skinned.

I remember reading the book "Patterns of Culture" by Margaret Mead in about 1964. (when ever I took that stupid class) Wow, it opened my eyes. She claimed that research showed that black people all prefer lighter skinned people as mates.

Talk about prejudice.



But then to be fair about it: would you want your kids to be black? Originally Posted by JRLawrence

She claimed is the optimum phrase. One would have to research an enormous amount of guys before I'd be willing to sign off on this one.

As usual, this is my 2 cents...take it for what it's worth.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VIVfD0ZA6jE

Without a doubt!


Having a particular preference does not constitute being a racist.




. Originally Posted by whatstheplay

see now here is one thing i would like to point out. in just about every thread i read about a lady who has an nba policy. when a white guy says that it her preference to see who she wants. there is always and i repeat always a black guy who cries its racist because she is any other color but black for her to have an nba policy! why in this case is preference not racist?

now wtp idk if your white black yellow speckled or a spotted cow or a bald eagle and honestly idc. but this is exactly where the whole race thing gets blurred!

I remember reading the book "Patterns of Culture" by Margaret Mead in about 1964. (when ever I took that stupid class) Wow, it opened my eyes. She claimed that research showed that black people all prefer lighter skinned people as mates.

Talk about prejudice.

But then to be fair about it: would you want your kids to be black? Originally Posted by JRLawrence

Margaret Mead did not write "Patterns of Culture", her lover Ruth Benedict was the author of that book. What's ironic to me is that both of these ladies spent their career in Anthropology working to debunk racism and stereotypes. Ruth did not say All black men prefer light complected women over dark skin women. She said in some segments of black culture this preference exists (the word of emphasis is "some"). Just like some men prefer brunettes over blondes. You can't then say ALL men prefer brunettes.

Here is a great quote from Ruth Benedict's, In Harry's Backyard: Races in Mankind"

“Oh,” said Henry, “I’m beginning to get it . . . we’re not born haters. Our Green Devils of prejudice and fear grow inside us . . . because we are worried and afraid.”

[QUOTE=i'va biggen;1058534479]Filmmakers Bill Duke, and D Channsin Berry were the ones making Dark girls (think I said women) if you have issue on what they presented or the women interviewed, then you should contact them.[/

I'm taking it up with you because you cited it to support a point you were trying to make. What I'm simply trying to communicate to you is that just because a handful of people in a documentary give an opinion or have an experience, it doesn't mean it represents an entire race. It can't be that hard for you to acknowledge that.

see now here is one thing i would like to point out. in just about every thread i read about a lady who has an nba policy. when a white guy says that it her preference to see who she wants. there is always and i repeat always a black guy who cries its racist because she is any other color but black for her to have an nba policy! why in this case is preference not racist?

now wtp idk if your white black yellow speckled or a spotted cow or a bald eagle and honestly idc. but this is exactly where the whole race thing gets blurred! Originally Posted by satan666

Perhaps we'll never know. Why is it, truly, that ladies have a NBA policy. I don't really care, only those particular providers know. What I am sure of, is that some ladies that have a NBA policy do/will see AA's.

It is indeed, a ladies preference to see whomever they want and nothing will ever change that. Is is because they have no attraction to blacks, is it a matter of safety, who knows. Those seem to be the reasons that come up in these never ending, constantly rehashed treads.

why in this case is preference not racist?

I guess I can look at each side of the coin, but I will say, the 'black guy who cries its racist' should also add, there are quite a few AA providers that also have a NBA policy.

It's time to boycott platforms like Eccie and Backpage. In fact, it's time to boycott this hobby all together.

Let's devote our dollars, time, and energy to platforms, activities, and endeavors that provide a mutual respect!
Originally Posted by Agreen7

Having written that.... writing anything afterward, other than "Mods please delete my account" is just silly.

Any time a decision, action, or choice is based on the race of someone, that in and of itself is a racist thing to do, no matter what race you are. Here in this hobby and a few other places in life, we have the right to do just that. It doesn't change what we've done, it's not an excuse nor is it even right. It just is.

This is not the workplace, a place of legitimate business, or anything in the public sector where we have clearly decided that racist acts and choices are unacceptable.

For me and those like me if there are any, I have accepted this and have established my own way of dealing with it. If a provider excludes a race, any race, I place her on my ignore list (and there are a few girls who are on that list for excluding races other than my own, though my race seems to be the one that's most excluded). I do this because just as it is their choice, it is also my choice to not meet with them.

This thread appears to have begun with an impassioned and emotional rant coming from a place of total frustration and it is understandable. I feel those same frustrations. But speaking from that place naturally puts everyone on the defensive and leaves us nowhere to go with regards to having a fruitful dialogue about a very real issue.

Maybe one day we will be able to discuss this issue from a better place when emotions, frustration, and defensive posturing are removed. At that time, maybe real communicating and listening will be able to occur. But as for this thread, it got started in the basement and will continue to spiral downward. Any time now mods?

Oh and on a side note, I hope someone took that bottle from Kitana. Good Lawd girl!!!

While this thread took a completely predictable turn, I would like to see more threads on the black hobby experience.

For starters, does anyone actually pursue provider's that say no AA. Granted it's not an insignificant number with that criterion, but personally I have no interest in meeting providers like that.

Had a good documentary on TV called " Dark Women". Seems like the brothers prefer light brights, and dump on dark skinned black women. Is that racist? Originally Posted by i'va biggen

[QUOTE=Agreen7;1058534611]

Filmmakers Bill Duke, and D Channsin Berry were the ones making Dark girls (think I said women) if you have issue on what they presented or the women interviewed, then you should contact them.[/

I'm taking it up with you because you cited it to support a point you were trying to make. What I'm simply trying to communicate to you is that just because a handful of people in a documentary give an opinion or have an experience, it doesn't mean it represents an entire race. It can't be that hard for you to acknowledge that. Originally Posted by i'va biggen

Well if you are taking issue with me, answer the question. Seeing it was a question rather than a opinion.

Oh and on a side note, I hope someone took that bottle from Kitana. Good Lawd girl!!! Originally Posted by Cleo

Surely, you didn't take the time to read and decipher that mind numbing post. You'd need bifocal goggles to keep from getting permanently cross-eyed.

Gemma No disrespect sweetie but your showcase says mixed but you keep calling yourself black....why?
Are you black or white or what?
Why cant you be white or any other half of any other race?
But you are very pretty Originally Posted by BigDeal

Thank you I am black Sicilian and potowatami. My mothers family is black but emigrated from Sicily just two generations ago while my fathers side is mixed black and native. I am mixed, but I also refer to myself as black and native. Not half of anything.