Why are some providers so iffy about DATY?

I'm Full GFE, and I Love DATY, but recently this guy used his Teeth and it hurt me down there for 3 days! Be Gentle SMH! Originally Posted by alexissweet69

So then, oh hell no, if he starts putting a place mat under your ass and a napkin around his neck.

I'm Full GFE, and I Love DATY, but recently this guy used his Teeth and it hurt me down there for 3 days! Be Gentle SMH! Originally Posted by alexissweet69

What the hell? Why the hell would a guy do that?

The provider that I started off the thread in mind, she hadn't seen anybody for a couple weeks as she was on vacation before that, so I was the first in the day for her that day. She wasn't offering GFE though, just an "escort" experience as she called it after a FBSM, she was definitely enjoying the DATY as I could feel her clit swelling and her legs shaking towards the end. She also asked me to continue doing it directly after being in a 69, I don't think she'd ask me to continue if she wasn't feeling it.

She didn't seem to be clock watching. Before we started, she poured me a drink and we just hung out and chatted for maybe a half hour or so, she said it wouldn't be on the clock, and we ended up having a really cool conversation.

The other weird thing was that she didn't want me posting a review about the DATY experience with her, as she mentioned she's had regulars for a few years that she doesn't allow to perform DATY, so I seemed to be the exception rather than the norm. I think the only explanation in the thread so far that makes sense, at least in my scenario, is the provider who felt it was too personal.

Just wondering about the providers that are otherwise full service / not GFE that are against allowing for DATY? I saw one recently like that and ended up convincing her to allow it and she enjoyed it but wanted me to not put it in a review since she doesn't normally allow it. Is it because it's considered to be GFE? Originally Posted by cherno

With me if your teeth aren't jacked and your breath doesn't reek you're good to go.

In her case if it was a rare thing for her to do then her asking you to not review about it is just asking for discretion. PLUS guys she's yet to meet or even some regulars of her might read that review and see that she let you do it but never let them and it might cause problems with them for her.

We are sometimes "iffy" about DATY because some guys have NO clue how to eat pussy. I have had to stop a guy or two because it was painful and not even remotely pleasurable. Teeth should NEVER be used and super hard sucking on the clit is out too. I do understand that there are some ladies who like things a bit more rough...but, one should tread carefully or hell just ASK us our preference. That'll take the guess work out for sure.

Being safe comes to mind.

We are sometimes "iffy" about DATY because some guys have NO clue how to eat pussy. I have had to stop a guy or two because it was painful and not even remotely pleasurable. Teeth should NEVER be used and super hard sucking on the clit is out too. I do understand that there are some ladies who like things a bit more rough...but, one should tread carefully or hell just ASK us our preference. That'll take the guess work out for sure. Originally Posted by Kendall4U

Interesting and I suppose it makes more sense now. It took me years to learn how to do it right (in the beginning I was always too forceful), so I can see guys that aren't used to technique messing it up.

What percentage of guys seem to do it correctly in your opinion?

If she has genital Herpes, and her married client ends up looking like



she knows she is going to be in for a world of drama and can start looking for another job.

That would be a pretty good reason to deny clients DATY.

She has something she doesn't want to pass to your mouth......as finding out could be bad for business........

Interesting and I suppose it makes more sense now. It took me years to learn how to do it right (in the beginning I was always too forceful), so I can see guys that aren't used to technique messing it up.

What percentage of guys seem to do it correctly in your opinion? Originally Posted by cherno

I would say that the majority of guys, if they take direction or pay attention to a ladies body language, do a good job. It's the few that are awful that REALLY stand out. Ugh

Also, the STD thing mentioned earlier could be part of it. Yikes!

There are always dental dams (or saran wrap) for those who fear catching anything.

But I have never had a provider use one on me nor ask me to use one on her. This hobby is not for the squeamish or the germaphobes.
Everything associated with this hobby is risky, from possible LE traps up to STD possibilities. Everybody has to decide what risk they can live with and move on from there.

Because some guys think that they are literally supposed to "eat" pussy. Um, no. Lick, kiss, suck gently, etc. No teeth and no biting. Like a blowjob really involves no blowing - should have been called a suckjob.

She has no want to be kissed by you, does not want you to fuck her, lick her, touch her. She gets paid to tolerate you. Women love oral sex from the right guy, that is not us as we pay them. Best part of the session for her is getting paid after that it is all not wanted by her. Prostitutes that don't do DATY typically are new to the profession, through time she will start tolerating more and more acts she finds disgusting just to keep the money coming. A prostitute is paid to tolerate you. She does not even know you and cannot be close with you, so she does not want you licking her. It is gross to her. Ask yourself why so any prostitutes indulge in other vices, because she hates herself for letting you lick her, fuck her, and do disgusting acts to her. Why do sexually abused victims feel so violated, because it was gross to her and disgusting. Originally Posted by Boudin3112

this guy again!

Probably because so many guys are so bad at it. Originally Posted by DakineOne777

There is truth in your statement! Not so many.. MOST!

Well it would seem most guys struggle with performing good daty. This would be an opportune time for the ladies to instruct the guys on how to do it. We can't read your minds. If you're getting bad daty and don't say anything then you'll likely keep getting bad daty. You can't rely on the guy to know how you like it done. Same goes for bj's. A lot of gals don't know how to give an erotic bj. If a guy doesn't like the bj's he's getting he has to say something. We can never assume we know how the other person likes it. A little communication can probably solve the oral problem.

I was with a lady one time, and had been kissing her breasts. I trailed kisses down her abdomen, and when I was positioned for DATY, I looked up into her eyes and asked "May I?", to which she replied "Noooo. It'll tickle!"
So that may be another reason.