a lover versus just fuckin?

Being a companion who offers PSE, BDSM, and GFE I know from firsthand experience that a penchant for occasional sport fucking or kinky exploration does not inherently mean a lady is incapable of cultivating an emotional connection. And I understand that the meaning of GFE is often disputed, but in my mind it partly means an escort has the ability and desire to engage in inspiring conversation, and stimulate her partner's body and mind. If one is in search of a warmhearted provider who can bless you with sweet, gentle kisses, love up on you tenderly, and embrace you while listening intently to your interests, we exist !
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I can offer both types of sessions. But it also depends on what the guy wants.
I can take and enjoy a good, hard PSE fucking, but also enjoy the slow, sensual exploration that would be considered more like love making.
It is best to talk before meeting to see if there is a connection. But also to make sure that you have made your desires known.

I feel that I'm friends with my regulars, so it's not all about the money when we chat. I'll contact guys that I've seen or talked to just to say hi and not expect to see them with that simple greeting. But that makes it more personal. Yes, it's business, but it does not have to be all about money and impersonal.
I'm sexually moody and like for guys to know what I'm up for. Some days I feel like a dirty pse slut. Sometimes I want the engaging conversation, slower sensual intimacy etc. And some days I straight up just want you to walk in my door and pound me or give me a cock to pop! I will say since my libido has come out in full force like a horny slut demon... I wanna go at it like crazy then cuddle and talk!
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Like I always say "This isn't a dating site ". Originally Posted by FirePhoenix
Really? Isn't that what you blew up about recently when the guy you loved wandered off the range to fuck others?
FirePhoenix's Avatar
Oh whimpy 2.0 slow Lmfao!!! How wrong you are. No,no,no I helped him in a number of different ways on getting laid by others. But that is why I call you 2.0 slow. Please dear 2.0 slow get at least 1 fact right at least 1 time.
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we all have our different "needs and wants" Most times I'm looking for a sweet Lover Versus that PSE bullshit. I'll admit, from time to time I just wanna fuck, but not so much anymore. Seems like the Ladies in our hobby world are more looking for that "stud horse fuckin" and it's just not my thing anymore. Is this a normal mid 50's thing? Men and Ladies? Originally Posted by sydmo
Viva la variety. GFE, hardcore PSE or a mix.
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Your lack of tactile sensuality in appointments isn't likely because we as providers always want Hard Core Stallion Cock Fucking To The Gods but rather because that type of session is most expected by clients and a smart businesswoman attempts to deliver what the majority of her clients want.

A truly sensual and connected hour is almost impossible to fake, and usually requires a genuine physical attraction on the part of the provider. There is some skill to roughly impaling your lady mitten on a random rod and breathily crying out "Oh yes, fuck me harder, that's right!!!" But intimacy with a hint of connection??? That's a whole different skill set entirely.

Again, keeping in mind that this type of appointment is extraordinarily rare. In my personal experience, it's been asked of me twice. TWICE in two years and I am known as a very feminine and deeply sensual woman. One's skills are honed by demand and experience. A gal is bound to get rusty if this is rarely required.

This is a very tall order for a woman you've only just met a few minutes before, or perhaps once or twice before, and one you may see for an hour (or two as you say) and likely not see again-because A: you did not find the satisfaction you sought in the first place. B: You like to keep your stable of new ladies rotating. This is not c-list acting you want, in the hooker-john world it is absolute Grand Theatre.

Perhaps you can find a few with whom you felt a connection and explore this with them. Develop a connection (deeper but always professional) instead of looking for, and being disappointed in the fact you can't find a Meryl Streep Oscar Sweeping Actress-Hooker amongst the eccie stable feed lot.
  • sydmo
  • 12-27-2016, 11:25 AM
Good stuff Pretty Lady, very good stuff. Thank you and I .. kinda Love you now see you soon Beautiful
I'm looking for someone, who's looking for a Latin Lover...
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we all have our different "needs and wants" Most times I'm looking for a sweet Lover Versus that PSE bullshit. I'll admit, from time to time I just wanna fuck, but not so much anymore. Seems like the Ladies in our hobby world are more looking for that "stud horse fuckin" and it's just not my thing anymore. Is this a normal mid 50's thing? Men and Ladies? Originally Posted by sydmo
Actually, what you are searching for is very normal. You just unfortunately will never really see anyone posting about it.

I specialize in this sort of encounter. As a result, my business is comprised mainly of regulars. I have clients who have known me for years, some since I started out back in 2010.

In my case, I really don't appreciate "Review Culture". I have found hobbyists who review typically prefer to make one visit. The sort of intimacy you describe is often found during more frequent visits. Too expensive if the rates are prohibitively high.

From what I read on ECCIE, I gather that the more mature providers are more encouraging of romantic minded adventures than a younger provider may be. The way I decide personally to take a client or not is if I would either want them as a friend in a civilian way or if I would feel safe trapped in an elevator with them. Sounds weird, I know but so far it has helped.
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Actually, what you are searching for is very normal. You just unfortunately will never really see anyone posting about it.

I specialize in this sort of encounter. As a result, my business is comprised mainly of regulars. I have clients who have known me for years, some since I started out back in 2010.

In my case, I really don't appreciate "Review Culture". I have found hobbyists who review typically prefer to make one visit. The sort of intimacy you describe is often found during more frequent visits. Too expensive if the rates are prohibitively high.

From what I read on ECCIE, I gather that the more mature providers are more encouraging of romantic minded adventures than a younger provider may be. The way I decide personally to take a client or not is if I would either want them as a friend in a civilian way or if I would feel safe trapped in an elevator with them. Sounds weird, I know but so far it has helped. Originally Posted by cinderbella
What you describe is also what I do most of the time. I mostly see regulars and also specialize in having a more intimate connection than a one and done. I've seen people say before that it's young providers or new providers who have no passion and are dead behind the eyes and in it for the money but I know for me (and at least a few other girls around my age), this is not the case. I've seen threads on the board before talking shit about young girls (I don't think this is what you're doing I'm just adding this) and it discourages me, that at 23 I may not get clients looking for a more romantic session because they don't think I would be able to offer that.
I'm with you man, that's why I enjoyed having my sugar baby. There was a connection every time we saw each other. Plus she DFKd me more than any girl I dated ever did which I haven't found anything here like that. I can't blame the girls here I wouldn't want to DFK hobbyists either.
Like a Claire said "a connection" we walk through this life for a short time so connections should be cherished. For me I enjoy sharing what's going on life and a feeling of mutual respect. All the ladies I've seen will always say I made them feel like a person not a piece of meat. (Even though I like kinky shit) lol
I'm with you man, that's why I enjoyed having my sugar baby. There was a connection every time we saw each other. Plus she DFKd me more than any girl I dated ever did which I haven't found anything here like that. I can't blame the girls here I wouldn't want to DFK hobbyists either.
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A truly sensual and connected hour is almost impossible to fake, and usually requires a genuine physical attraction on the part of the provider. There is some skill to roughly impaling your lady mitten on a random rod and breathily crying out "Oh yes, fuck me harder, that's right!!!" But intimacy with a hint of connection??? That's a whole different skill set entirely.

Are you still mad I wore sweet stained khaki pants the last time?
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What you describe is also what I do most of the time. I mostly see regulars and also specialize in having a more intimate connection than a one and done. I've seen people say before that it's young providers or new providers who have no passion and are dead behind the eyes and in it for the money but I know for me (and at least a few other girls around my age), this is not the case. I've seen threads on the board before talking shit about young girls (I don't think this is what you're doing I'm just adding this) and it discourages me, that at 23 I may not get clients looking for a more romantic session because they don't think I would be able to offer that. Originally Posted by ivy_rose
I am definitely NOT "talking shit", nor do I use that sort of terminology. Congratulations for finding this aspect out in your 20's. Sky is the limit.