Let's Have Some Dialogue...

Nikki as always you are a voice of reason and calm and you are correct in that the mood has been heated as of late. The ROS is a very useful tool if utilized and honestly I don't think any additional threads or charts or pie graphs will make a noticeable difference.

Truthfully if providers were selling hamburgers things like reviews would be much easier to interpret and utilize. However the product being offered is much more personal in nature than a Big Mac so things like a providers mood and chemistry between her and the john play into the equation. As much as guys hate hearing it YMMV is for most providers a universal truth of this type of business.

Interaction on the boards is good for the community...but, some ladies prefer to *not* participate...which is understandable. So, if someone is a new provider...she is going to need some input.

Good hygiene is a MUST...on both sides! If a provider asks you if you would like to *refreshen up* please take that as a *hint* to jump in! (lol) Not because you smell...but, it may be her preference before you get comfy.

The other issue I forgot to mention...ORAL HYGIENE! Ok, I know this is a very touchy subject...as of late...but, this is a major issue. First off...EVERYONE has some kind of odor....but, it's difficult to smell your own breath sometimes. Do the hand test...lick the top of your hand during the day...and take a whiff. If it's not to your liking...then, it's not going to be pleasant to anyone else either!

Some people have major breath issues due to many factors...but, if you've eaten during the day...drank coffee...or smoked...brush your teeth and gargle! If you have bad teeth, allergies, diabetes or stomach ailments...the odor will not go away, but you can still chew gum or mints and take mouthwash with you.

Men and ladies...those of you with a healthy backside...when you shower, use a washcloth and get in between the crack! Water running between the crack is not going to clean the *sh#t* or smell out! (lol) Originally Posted by Likinikki

I LOVE hygene talk! Lets talk about breath. OMG I would say 99% of the fellows I've met have stinky breath. I figured it out. It's the tongue thats dirty. YOU NEED TO CLEAN AND SCRUB YOUR TONGUE OR ELSE YOUR BREATH WILL STILL STINK. I scrub my tongue and tons of stuff comes off it, and then my breath smells clean. I also use a wash cloth and when showering I shove the cloth up my butt hole because some guys like to lick me there. Water and soap are ok if your taking a quick shower before going to bed, but before seeing someone you should use a washcloth it gets you so much more cleaner and exfoliates your skin. A great, cheap bar soap for women to use is Dove. It won't irritate your privates like some other soaps might.

Ugh. I know this started with good intentions, and that's great. I wasn't sure it was going to be useful, but if you're looking to improve in some way, or any way at all that's always great.

But I'm not liking the turn it's taking in regards to personal hygiene.

Malachaii is spot on.

Just my opinion so take it as such:

If you want to be judged on more than just your reviews which may or may not be truthful (on the good side or on the bad side), you have to be active on the board and create more of a total persona. If reviews are all I have got, that is what I have to go on. I may post something in the Men's section, but that will be biased as well.

Use of the forums, chat and ads can give a sense of the deeper you. I have seen some girls that through reviews and pictures would not have been my type, but after seeing posts to threads like this, more lighthearted threads and playful ads, I have seen them and had a great time. Others who's pics and reviews would have me go see them have similarly posted and proved we would not be compatable. But I am sure they are very compatable with others and will do well.

To me it comes down to being the true you (don't try to please everyone), and let that be seen through this site.

I think chemistry is a very important part of the whole thing. And chemistry takes a bit of time to discover - maybe that is what makes ATFs so precious. Things that have always mattered to me -
Hygiene (kind of doh)
Attitude (for me more important than looks)
Aptitude or skill

Yes, I put attitude ahead of skill, but I have also found that if the attitude is there, I have never been disappointed by skills.

As for improvement, well, I need to loss some weight, and stop procrastinating on a variety of items - including booking a meeting with my SA ATF . . .

I think if the hobbiest would privately contact the provider with any greif about his experience wether it was pleasant or not. Situations would never spiral out of control. No way to better your skills or business if you have no clue what went wrong.

You hit it right on the nail COMMUNICATION is the key!!

Ive been seeing a Dentist for years on and off this board....Boy he sure would be insulted if anyone talked about his work.... I love my teeth and my driller LOL

Likinikki AWESOME THREAD!!! KUDDOS TO YOU!!!