Ever dated a provider?

Interesting thread. I am seriously involved with a provider and she continues in the business with a select few of her regulars. I find it erotic and oddly stimulating to know that other guys find her so desirable but that she'll be spending the night with me. She compartmentalizes her activities as "her job", the income is nice, she's her own boss and she is free to set her own hours. I'm sure that the adoration and attention she receives from her clients acts as a boost to her ego. I have not seen any other ladies during our entire relationship because I just don't want to. The present setup is working good for both of us.

I'm too freakin' ugly for a provider to want to date. Isn't that why I'm paying them? Originally Posted by janwalshs

Put on a Fabio mask and draw a six pack on your stomach with a magic marker. That works for me.

I have not and would not, but a fuck buddy, now that I could handle.

I've never dated a provider but I would if we clicked like that. The caveat would be that she would have to stop providing, which is why it's likely to never happen. I believe in monogamous relationships and think they are important for a trusting and lasting relationship. My guess is that would be a hard thing to find between a hobbyist and a provider.

I've never dated a provider, but had perhaps two opportunities to do so (interestingly enough, those providers were sisters...fascinating!). I suppose I wouldn't be opposed to dating a provider, or having something on the side, but it's not something that I'd pursue. To me it would be like hitting on a waitress; poor protocol. I'm sure providers get hit on all the time, and isn't something they are generally interested in, not to mention that it would be difficult to tell whether the woman was really interested in me as a personl. Hypothetically, if I were to end up dating a provider, I wouldn't expect her to quit providing. I bring my political principles of freedom and liberty to personal relationships as well.

I agree with Philhelm's post, especially the middle part. That's why I believe that any potential relationship would have to be initiated by the provider, not the client.

I guess I'm a little different... If a lady I find out a woman I am seeing is a provider or openly date one, I wouldn'texpect her to quit her job unless she had something else/better lined up. I believe in emotional & spiritual monogomy. But, feels it is foolish to believe you're going to be the only person your partnr will want to have sex with.

I'm too freakin' ugly for a provider to want to date. Originally Posted by janwalshs

I hear you janwalshs. My heart sinks a little bit when I open the door to a new provider and I see the disappointment (and sometimes disgust) on her face when she see me.

Of the providers i've seen that I consider to have their act together, none of them are in a relationship. They like meeting men and are open to starting a relationship but are in no hurry. They work very aggressively in the hobby and really don't have the time or energy for a relationship outside of the hobby. They're usually pretty smart too. I think when they deceide on a guy, they'll know more about him than you will know about her.

Yep. I was for about 2 years. She wanted more. Got real jealous of my wife. Then got psycho if I wanted to see another provider. She was well known and liked. For reasons I will not disclose, I had to leave her. I do miss her. She provided top notch service.

Pretty good observation by jerl0187. I was crazy about this provider from the start and we had a professional relationship for a couple of years before I started letting on how I had come to feel about her. Several more months elapsed before she got to the point where she believed that I was starting to really mean something to her. She knew enough to realize that any relationship would be encountering risky odds and she didn't make any commitment until she felt she knew me really well.

I dont think I could. Mostly because of the way we met, I wouldnt be able to build that trust with them the same as if we were to meet in a different way. I dated a guy who saw providers here and there, paying or not, he saw them and it didnt settle well with me in the long run.

Autum,
I can't even imagine the provider's insight on this topic. The reason I do what I do and the reason you do what you do are entirely different. When I get lucky enough to have a session with an emotional connection that makes this thing great. But the important thing is that I can walk away with no lies or deception and continue my civilian life like nothing happened. I don't want a divorce or a girl friend, that's why I do this (and because I'm as ugly as a mud fence).

Yes and no. We would go to dinner, movies etc. off the clock. But business was business.

Such a hypocrite but I would only date a client if he stopped seeing providers lol. Originally Posted by SillyGirl

Not a hypocrite! That was my first condition when someone asked me for our first civvie date.

Lina