Saying "Hi" in public??

CoHorn's Avatar
As a Walmart greeter, I guess I should stop saying hi to the providers when they come by.

As for the idiot, I hope he gets what's coming to him.
Sleepy363's Avatar
There are some real dumb motherfuckers out there.

fun.time.hobbyist's Avatar
Discretion is huge in this business. I ran into a now retired provider a few nights ago. We made eye contact as she walked by and that was the end of it. There was a look if shock on both our faces. At no point did I attempt to say hi to her. As luck would have it, I ended up being seated a couple of tables away. I avoided all contact. She was with her bf and didn't need some guy walking up to her and the million questions afterwards for her. We respected our privacy and that was the end of it. Use your judgement out there. Would you want to answer questions of how you know someone?

The guy who blocked you in sounds line a really big dumbass.
ALWAYS give guys like that the cold shoulder.

Next time, just get in the car without responding. Roll up the windows.

Then start backing out. He'll get the idea when he sees your backup lights brighten.

If he doesn't - and you have good insurance - consider backing into him. A dented door panel will make sure he never makes that mistake again.

If he tries to make a fuss, just claim you didn't see him and you have no insurance. If he says he will call the police to make a report, tell him once you get his address information from the insurance and police report, you'll make sure his wife finds out about ALL the relevant circumstances.

At some point, he will cut his losses and leave.
Bobave's Avatar
You folks keep spelling it wrong. That guy isn't a DUMB ASS... he is an ASS HOLE.
Wow I thought it was understood. If you see a provider in public, a wink, a nod, a wave, or maybe hello pending the situation or even best no acknowledgement and speak to the provider at a later time
Sleepy363's Avatar
Wow I thought it was understood. If you see a provider in public, a wink, a nod, a wave, or maybe hello pending the situation Originally Posted by Thatdude
no, no, no, and no. Don't do ANY of those.

The last part of your statement was correct... no acknowledgement!

Is this really difficult for some guys to grasp?
Sasquatch's Avatar
A well known provider visits my place of business every few months. We all know she is a provider. I speak with her and visualize her showcase photos while remaining totally professional. She then signs for the day's business transaction and exits my business. Not sure if she realizes that every Tom, Dick & Harry working there knows all about her. Then again, who really cares?
OMG. You should have given him the "Are ya dumb or stupid?" look. But, it sounds like this fool was beyond clueless and wouldn't have gotten the hint if you gave him the finger and cussed him out.

No, you never acknowledge a Provider/Hobbyist's presence when running into them publicly, at least not when either one of you have civilians in tow. I remember a couple years back a Hobby buddy of mine and his brother (who was not a hobbyist) were throwing back a few 'ritas at a bar in a restaurant. A whole bunch of Providers that we knew walked in and took up residence at a couple of tables just a few feet away. He and I made eye contact with the ladies a few times which his brother noticed. His brother was then all about trying to talk us into easing our way over there and chatting the ladies up. He thought maybe we could get "lucky"! We had to make all kinds of excuses why we shouldn't go over there and finally left with the brother frustrated at our lack of nerve. The whole experience was funny and uncomfortable at the same time.
Randall Creed's Avatar
no, no, no, and no. Don't do ANY of those.

The last part of your statement was correct... no acknowledgement!

Is this really difficult for some guys to grasp? Originally Posted by still-asleep
He did say PENDING THE SITUATION. Nothing wrong with a subtle acknowledgement of each other, IF THE SITUATION ALLOWS, meaning there are no others around that could catch on or figure something out.

Pretending you don't know me, AT ALL, when it's just us two passing each other, that would come off as tacky to me.
Considering the fact that I am single, I do not mind someone that I am familiar with acknowledging me in public. Of course, I prefer a wave, nod or wink as opposed to someone yelling across a room, "REEEESE". Anyone with me, might think it strange that I know someone and they aren't calling my by my given name.

Now someone that I have never met before, that is a whole other subject. Anyone running up to me saying, "You are RF right? I saw your pics!...blah blah blah..." will be ignored and possibly kicked in the balls...depending on how creepy they are about it.

I, would never say anything to a gentleman in public, unless he has expressed that it wouldn't be a problem for him.

I, would never say anything to a gentleman in public, unless he has expressed that it wouldn't be a problem for him. Originally Posted by Reese Foster
Just for the record it wouldn't be a problem with me. In fact, if I'm with a girl come over and make her jealous for me.
I, would never say anything to a gentleman in public, unless he has expressed that it wouldn't be a problem for him. Originally Posted by Reese Foster
Like TWD said, it would be an honor for any, ANY of you ladies to come up to me and say hi!
Well said Reese! I feel very much the same. Especially-
I, would never say anything to a gentleman in public, unless he has expressed that it wouldn't be a problem for him. Originally Posted by Reese Foster
Exactly! Along with being carefull of how familiar I behave in body language.

I am a single woman also at the moment, but even when I am not it would not be unusual at all for me to get a wink or nod from a male while out and about on any given day. If I was out in a bar or someplace similar and a gent I already knew was to discreetly say hello without referring to me as Elysa or lingering in the company of my friends, it would not be all that unusual for me or to anyone that knows me.

However, sighting me then calling out "Elysa.." would be a problem for sure. Rehashing BCD memories out loud in public when unexpectedly crossing paths is also a problem. Approaching me in public without ever meeting me prior and bringing up anything hobby related is uncomfortable.