Traveling relations...

Put such a requirement for prepayment in your showcase and then you're covered from here on out.

If you don't know him personally... sounds too good to be true... buyer beware.

For me - If I am not willing to pay for someone to come personally I then ask when or if there planning to come... that way no hurt feelings and I plan my schedule accordingly. This way leaving you the provider in control. Otherwise I need to pay leaving me in control of the visit and timing. Whom ever foots the travel is basically in charge of what's going on in my opinion. If you are footing this bill upfront set your vacation accordingly.

You are stuck at risk now. Better to ask than get stiffeed on the fee, even if it offends the client. You can then try and make it up to him. Better than risking no compensation for services provided.

In hindsight, it would seem a prepaid round trip ticket AND you get you 1/2 when you arrive would be reasonable. He knows you have an incentive to stay and if thinks go wrong, you get to fly home with some compensation and he isn't stuck with a full bill.

The risk is too high for you, just stay home and do business in your locale. Risk is low and you won't have to worry about things related to flying, getting a ride, finding a place to stay, where to eat, etc.

He's setting you up and you are setting him up for this expectation that might not even be worth a good review. You might end up getting a NO review at the end. Haha. Then start typing like ghetto speak.

Sounds like you have never done this before and the dude may have done it in the past. So he might be playing you because this is your first time.

If I were in your shoes, I'd think of it in a different way and setup a
"business plan" around it.

Feel him out by having a convo on the phone, then if it is still a GO then move it forward, do a video chat and see how he reacts.

Get it up front, I got screwed before like that (in Florida)

Trinity,

Fuck the references. Do you know them or their reputations? Get the ticket in hand and at least 50% of your donation before you even pack a bag. If the deal sounds too good to be true, it probably is ... Scammers like he may be even horse around the ladies who have been around for a long time. Originally Posted by pyramider

I've had similar situations where someone has offered a ticket, but hasn't wanted to cough up a deposit ahead of time.

You do NOT want to get stuck. And it happens.

I know that I've turned down a LOT of opportunities that could have been alright. But it wasn't worth the risk.

And I've accepted a few "proposals" that I shouldn't have.

It all works out in the wash. But to travel to visit with someone that you haven't met before, well it's done.

But you need to have all of HIS information in hand, and enough to at least cover your expenses (and getting back home) before going forward.

Experienced men know this. But like what has been said, there are some guys who LIVE to screw with sex workers. They've made it into a skill set.

And generally, guys like that are ones that will target ladies who are out of town. They'll get a woman all excited about making a big bank ... then ... nothing.

Just be safe. If you do not know the references, don't trust them. Check to see if they even have an online presence. If they do not, don't accept a reference from them at all.

If they do have an online presence, figure out where they're coming from before believing what they share.

I've known ladies to get arrested trusting an unknown source for a reference.

Finally, not all money is good money. It's an old yarn but it works.

Good luck!!!

Side note: This IS a business transaction. And once the business is taken care of, then you can enjoy your time with someone.

The business part is who we are. Sure, it's nice to be kind and completely enjoy his company. I adore my clients. But first, it's a business.

So this situation is a prime example of that.

Now .. excuse me while I try to follow my own advice (sometimes, I do not!).

Best,
Elisabeth

Anyone in this hobby should always trust their spidey senses. Y'all ain't dating, he needs to send the funds up front. Tough titty if he gets his feelings hurt.

50% deposit is required up front in addition to travel expenses. It's the safe thing to do.

You did say he paid the round trip airfare, right?!

For traveling dates, I will not book my flight until I receive the 50% deposit upfront. Reason being is my travel rates INCLUDE the cost of my ticket. I kind of need it to book since I arrange all my travel arrangements on my own with the gents input.

The only time I have let a gent book my flight is when he had exclusively booked me for a week and we were planning all our other jaunts. I picked the flights according to his arrival and departure schedule and when it came time to pay, he filled in all the payment info.