Lets flip the question

since I do outcalls only, I personally find it much harder to slam a door in the face than turn and leave. So, I would say it's easier to do this at an incall than outcall. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I agree. The looks thing however could still be avoided if hey don't match through the peephole don't answer lol. They could always air out your dirty laundry in the hotel hall if you don't pay.

But as far as the upselling yeah yohr screwed at that point once she gets in if you let or allow her to take the money first. To this day I have never had a provider reach fo the money before services. I always leave it clearly visible with no envelopes on the dresser. If she isn't reviewed or has no rep no or only advertises on bp no way in hell ill pay her first. Everytime it was taken before their service leevel suddenly decreased, they cash and dash, or they generally were scammers.

The smoking excuse is a good one too....where they do a little cfs....say they need a smoke break and come back with goons to the door. Or leave a purse as a mental diversion they will be right back.

The way around this and still having the option of "walking away" is to do the same thing she does: tell her what hotel you are at but not give her the room #, say call me when you are parking and I'll meet you and walk you up. If you live in a highrise same thing. Tell her this way she avoids the doorman/security/concierge/etc.

As I said in the other thread if she is as advertised go with it. If not feel free to leave. What I will add is what someone else mentioned: if you are going to her and her place is just a total wreck, you are allergic to something there (cats, mold, her plants) or there are just "shady" folks lingering around you should excuse yourself without feeling bad about it. Particularly when she bills her incall as "discreet, classy, upscale" or similar verbage. Originally Posted by atlcomedy

I mght have to use this option. But most providers want your room number to confirm you are checked in. Even the bp ladies do this. Its also less discreet to walk hand and hand with these ladies to your room in some areas.

I think your idea. Works best for relative unknown bp ladies. The reputable ladies will check room and call to make sure you respond, sometimes if their screening warrants cross referencing the name.

Highlight ..good luck in finding the perfect woman every time cause we live in a perfect world.

Highlight ..good luck in finding the perfect woman every time cause we live in a perfect world. Originally Posted by pickupkid

He's pretty damn good at finding them. He's a man with damn good taste .

if she is that bad...im leaving...definitely half the excitement is the other side of the mirror. if it is not pleasing to my eye....false advertisement...them im gone. i am of no obligation to stick around and pay. now if she is decent....but maybe a lil bigger or older...im staying to see how it turns out. Originally Posted by windowshopper

You and I are on the same page.... I would add her location to the equation as well. If there's riff-raff hangin 'round.... Giz ain't!

And.... I wouldn't go any further than a "lil" bigger!! Age has no where near as much importance to me, as appearance does! At that point, hopefully... I would have already done enough research to determine if she was going to provide the type of fun I'm looking for!

Nice thread. As I mentioned in my other thread I have been turned down before!>>>Oh believe me it's happened before and I was like WTF? I shaved my unibrow for this??
NOOOO i'm adult enough to know people have their taste & preferences!

Highlight ..good luck in finding the perfect woman every time cause we live in a perfect world. Originally Posted by pickupkid

He's pretty damn good at finding them. He's a man with damn good taste . Originally Posted by Naomi4u

I leave nothing to chance....I do find the perfect woman....every time!! It's that important to me and I treat it that way!! Why would you settle for less??

Miss Molly, I cant imagine someone actually turning you away or getting to your door and then just leaving.

I'm going to go with the other option on this. You aren't going to know until actually presented with the situation, so to be able to make decision in advance is intellectually dishonest. I have been in several of these situations and handled them differently each time. Here are 3 off the top of my head. One time, the girl was who she said she was, but her menu was limited. There was no mention of activities prior to arranging the date, so it was pretty much a TOFTT. The girl was hot, so I stayed. All in all had a good time but it could have been better had she offered more options. Second time, I was doing a double. One of the providers had a broken ankle at the time. Through honest mis-communication, I was not told of this and was surprised when the girls showed up. It definitely put a downer on the date, but I was still able to have fun. On the third occasion, the girl totally misrepresented herself. I let her stay for a little bit for some conversation, but she did not get the donation nor were any activities exchanged-- also, no $50 or whatever for "her effort".

One thing I am very cautious about and why I research is the possibility of being set up. You don't know who is behind the door, nor do you know who the girl might have brought along. This has to factor into one's decision when confronted with "expectations".

Finally, one other thing I've learned is that rarely if ever will the photos match the provider 100%. The pics are either old, air brushed, professionally done, or otherwise present the provider in a very favorably. For the most part, I've noticed that most pics hide a providers true age and skin quality (blemishes, stretch marks, photo-shopped tattoos, etc). I'm not knocking providers who do this because I realize it is part of their marketing. On the other hand, I conditioned myself to lower expectations when meeting a provider.

to believe a guy that pays for sex would turn you away. you have a fantastic body

Nice thread. As I mentioned in my other thread I have been turned down before!>>>Oh believe me it's happened before and I was like WTF? I shaved my unibrow for this??
NOOOO i'm adult enough to know people have their taste & preferences!

Originally Posted by Miss Molly

Escorting is not the real world. You can try to find the "perfect" girl but nothing is ever guaranteed. Sometimes personalities just don't mesh. What are ya gunna do? You can try to eliminate the risk, but the truth is escorts aren't your girlfriends. I escort for the money. When you take a financially driven situation the risk of not being compatible will always be there.

I agree with all the comments above regarding issues finding "the perfect" girl. What you are looking for is a "fantasy gf" for the period of the session. You can eliminate a lot of risks but, in the end, you need "on the job" tryouts. For me, it is like hiring an actress for that hour who looks the part and can do and act out what I want. Ideally, she loves the role I want her to play and ideally she also has the personality I would love in a real gf. If all that falls into place, you have the beginning of a special "provider" relationship which I feel is real but very limited.

Just leave. $50 for fake photos or wrong descriptions just pays someone for a lie. Seldom if ever does a session that begins with deception end with anything close to satisfaction.

I'm walking away no questions asked dammit!