Hey, complete n00b here, but I've signed up with 411 thinking their verification process would get me atleast in the door, but everyone seems to want that plus refs... I've looked in my area (through p411) and haven't found anyone that indicates willingness to meet someone new... Is it out of line to just message them and ask what options there are? Like the OP said, meeting for lunch prior to any date?
Originally Posted by yep
This whole lunch/meet & greet thing isn't the way in....
Most ladies don't like/won't do it even if it is paid...There are some exceptions but it usually is part of a date that includes BCD time.
Even then it isn't like she'll bypass screening because you went to lunch with her. Believe it or not, there are some cops out there that can pull off charming/non-LE...even make intelligent conversation...for an hour...
Generally speaking the rest of the advice is solid. You should know this topic has been raised a million times. Try seaching on things like "newbie" and/or "screening" for some reading.