private problems being an escort and dating

could a good friend that you can confine in but is too shy to take things further. Also, it could be a client that is extremely nice to you, seems geniue about his comments, and SINGLE!! Originally Posted by shorty

Dating a client? Hell no. Isn't that against the rules? It's a shitstorm waiting to happen...especially if things don't work out. Sorry just saying love.

So because he was a client he could never be MR. Right? What if he took out the trash?

I do. Because thats been my experience with dating them. So I do not date them anymore. Originally Posted by incognito isis

At least it's a good thing that women never play head games... or else things would really be a mess!!

So because he was a client he could never be MR. Right? What if he took out the trash? Originally Posted by rrabbit6926

We see many of those cases each year.. It never ends well. If he left the hobby then of course but I wouldn't date someone that was still active in this hobby. That's nonsense.

Curious if he left the hobby would you ? I take it both have to be out of the hobby for it to work?

I would. He wouldn't have to worry about me being active in the hobby .

Naomi. . . You could still meet someone in the hobby and keep things mutual until you decided to quit. You never know what kinda of connection you may have with a client after hobby life. However, I believe both the lady and gent would have to quit the hobby to make life successful.

I would. He wouldn't have to worry about me being active in the hobby . Originally Posted by Naomi4u

Take a good look at that avatar...I think I'd give up the hobby...in fact, I might never leave the house!!

I don't date. Why would I give up the hobby to date a man for free who plays head games with me? Originally Posted by incognito isis

exactly!!!! that is so perfect!! Except if you are a masochist... which i am clearly not.

Curious if he left the hobby would you ? I take it both have to be out of the hobby for it to work? Originally Posted by rrabbit6926

I don`t believe in leaving the hobby. Once in always in. Thats the same for gents and ladies :-). I would not give up the hobby for a man, excpet he pays me for doing so. I expect a man to be capable of handling that side of me, since i am honest when it comes to it. I don`t wait until someone gets emotionally involved til i tell him the goodies. I tell to a guy before i start dating pretty clear what part of my life is.

Usually, in the polyamorous or kinkster community this isn`t an issue. It becomes an issue with Polyamory wannabe`s that introduce themselves as poly while clearly they aren`t. And it shows.

At least it's a good thing that women never play head games... or else things would really be a mess!! Originally Posted by MrGiz

you are a meanie!!!!!

but with the good comes the bad. guys will treat ladies with respect but the ladies must be willing to blow a stranger within 5 minutes of meeting him , screw within 10 and have us leave when we are done. whle cuddling and conversation is super at 300 per its gotta be done in down time. its ok if everyone understands the ground rules. walking the dog and long beach walks are there in civie relationships as well as the bad moods , bad hair days bad everything. in the hobby not many bad mood days but no alot of hot chocolate while watching a movie either

I do. Because thats been my experience with dating them. So I do not date them anymore. Originally Posted by incognito isis

This thread has makings of Groundhog Day as well

(Do a search, this has been discussed many times as well, Nina)

But usually the issue is the guy having an issue with what you do &/or to the extent you aren't open about it how can you really have something meaningful/longterm, not that you can't find a guy that will treat you well in the civie world. If that is a case I suggest shopping in a different aisle so to speak. Originally Posted by atlcomedy

can you be a sweetheart and help me with some links. I am curious and lazy...:-( only if its easy for you.....:-) thanks

but with the good comes the bad. guys will treat ladies with respect but the ladies must be willing to blow a stranger within 5 minutes of meeting him , screw within 10 and have us leave when we are done. Originally Posted by petiteassman

Darling, i am a natural at that does it happen any different in the real life dating world these days?? (lol)

In a way, I think you are setting unrealistic expectations expecting a real-life guy to be like your clients.
Because we're all the same person.

Everyone is different when you first start dating, the guy is putting his best foot forward and trying to impress you, the lady is being all attentive and pretending to be into all the things that interest him.
After a while, the effort to maintain this facade becomes too much and elements of our real "selves" start showing up and all of a sudden he's not "mister perfect" any more and she's really not that interested in you.

I know that if I kept seeing the same provider, just like when I date a civie, I'd eventually get to know the real them and some of the magic would be gone and you're left with someone who probably takes you for granted to some degree and doesn't flatter you and dote on you like they use to.

By seeing providers/clients instead of dating, you are constantly having first dates or staying in the honeymoon phase of the relationship.
Which I'm not knocking, relationships are hard and it's a lot funner to be with someone who's constantly on their best behavior and treating you like a king.

I'm great at dating.
I'm great at starting relationships.
I just suck at maintaining that intensity on into an actual "relationship".
So, here I am...for now anyway.
Maybe, somewhere out there is someone who will make me want to be the "best me" all the time and she'll want to be the "best her" for me.
Who knows?