Turn out the lights........

Get yourself into a dedicated workout routine. That is the easiest way to naturally kick up your testosterone level. If I don't get regular exercise life really starts to suck. I become sedentery, lifeless and depressed. But, one good workout will have me alert and checking out the porn sites in no time. Regular exercise is not just good for us older folks libido's, it lowers blood pressue and cholesterol, strengthens joints, increases flexibility and basically slows aging. And, hey: I'm all for slowing aging!

I'm in my 50s, and old faithful doesn't respond quite as readily as it used to. More and more lately, I've had sessions booked and when the lady shows up (or I go there) I'm just flat out not in the mood. Originally Posted by barneyrubble

In my mid-60s and have no trouble getting in the mood. Getting further than that can be a challenge ... but I love all aspects of the selection process. The communication and building some rapport with a sexy woman ready to share her charms with me. The warmth and affection of a quality gfe ... love the hobby. Love these beautiful, charming, generous women.

I guess, when those feelings leave ... so will I. That or someone please call FuneralMan for me.

Well, I finally got around to reading the responses to this post. Apparently no one picked up on the nuance I was trying to convey, which is my fault for explaining badly.

My issues aren't physical other than I require more mental stimulation than just a strong breeze of days past. The turnoff for me is the MANY (not all) of the women. Many just don't seem to make an effort to create a sexually charged environment.

Either their incall is messy beyond belief or a no-tell hotel with thugs and pimpy looking guys hanging around the parking lot, not to mention the room itself feels as if it hasn't been cleaned in years. And I am talking about ladies who market themselves as "courtesans", not cheap hookers. If you call a cheap hooker you deserve what you get, IMO.

If I ask them to come to my nice hotel, they show up an hour later than scheduled cause they had to get gas or a Whataburger with onion rings. Onion breath? Yuck. Or worse, cigarette and onion breath. Is it really that difficult to be reasonably on time and looking good?

Or they've added 20 pounds since their last photo shoot and they don't dress remotely like they do on their websites.

This is where I was coming from. Maybe my standards are too high.

Seriously what ladies are you seeing?! And don't the guys describe the ambiance of the incall in the ROS? It would seem you could pick a lady to suit your tastes if you read some reviews. Different things are important to different people, so hey if the ambiance and incall cleanliness are what does it for you I would guess just read until you find what you are looking for.

My incall is so nice and clean you could practically eat off the floor, and the bedroom is fun (toys, sex furniture, nice bed, nice linens). I KNOW THERE ARE OTHER LADIES THAT KEEP THEIR INCALLS LIKE THIS...because who do you think I learned from way back when I started here? I know for a fact that there are decent, high end ladies keeping nice incalls in all age ranges and body types. I have been to some of these incalls and heard about some very nice incalls over pillow talk with my gentlemen friends so I know they exist! And surely of those ladies there are more than a few that will not eat Whataburger before your session, and will work extra hard to create an atmosphere of sexuality if you express your concerns during the booking/screening process.

And as far as the ladies that do use the no-tell hotels, maybe if the freaking Dallas market wasn't so bare bones cheap more girls could afford a decent incall and not have to resort to hotels. Even nice ladies that present themselves well (well mannered, well groomed) and offer above par service have trouble keeping a permanent incall these days (not to derail the thread).

So now with all of that spelled out...I am still wondering what your real trouble is and why the hobby isn't making you happy.

P.S. This post looks way bitchier and finger-pointy in print than I intend it to be. Everything does! Lol. Muah!!!

Well, I finally got around to reading the responses to this post. Apparently no one picked up on the nuance I was trying to convey, which is my fault for explaining badly.

My issues aren't physical other than I require more mental stimulation than just a strong breeze of days past. The turnoff for me is the MANY (not all) of the women. Many just don't seem to make an effort to create a sexually charged environment.

Either their incall is messy beyond belief or a no-tell hotel with thugs and pimpy looking guys hanging around the parking lot, not to mention the room itself feels as if it hasn't been cleaned in years. And I am talking about ladies who market themselves as "courtesans", not cheap hookers. If you call a cheap hooker you deserve what you get, IMO.

If I ask them to come to my nice hotel, they show up an hour later than scheduled cause they had to get gas or a Whataburger with onion rings. Onion breath? Yuck. Or worse, cigarette and onion breath. Is it really that difficult to be reasonably on time and looking good?

Or they've added 20 pounds since their last photo shoot and they don't dress remotely like they do on their websites.

This is where I was coming from. Maybe my standards are too high. Originally Posted by barneyrubble

Yes, it does look finger pointy and bitchy. But I do take into account the printed word does not always accurately convey the writer's meaning. And besides, it's OK.

Having said that, I am not going to mention any names. Just know that some, not all, are well-reviewed, well compensated ladies. As for the ROS, sometimes it does talk about ambiance, but sadly, many times it sounds more like a 20 year old gloating about how many times and from how many positions he "banged" said escort (their words, not mine). Reviews serve a purpose, but I've seen many highly reviewed ladies that didn't do it for me. Yes, there is the chemistry issue and that is not to what I refer. There is no accounting for having chemistry with a lady. I get that.

On another note, you are correct. My lack of satisfaction is more my problem than anyone else's. I probably am looking for something a little more meaningful than what is offered here. But being that sex is a great escape, wanting to experiment and try new exotic and erotic things which aren't available to me in my real life, I'll probably never completely abandon this"hobby".

I appreciate the dialog. Thanks.

Wow--what a negative Nellie I am!!!

Sorry, everybody.

Truth is, I have met some really wonderful people in this hobby. Usually, they fade away. It's that sense of abandonment that has me feeling negative lately.

My bad.

"Damn you written word!" Lol, it does always look harsh.

Wow that sucks that the reviews aren't more accurate and are so embellished. I guess that means you have to wade through them with a fine tooth comb taking into account who wrote them, etc. Extra work, yuck!

I see reviews where the lady's lack of cleanliness (body and/or incall) was not in the ROS but right out in the open so I was just thinking if there was an issue with that aspect that it would definitely show up in reviews. I see that sort of thing (actually all sorts of things about the ladies) up for discussion anytime I get bored and start skimming reviews so I thought it was just a given.

I know it is difficult for any one of us to abandon the hobby completely, it has so much fun to offer!

I am curious, I wonder if you posted in the ISO section and were very specific about the qualities you were looking for and what is truly important for you if the guys/gals would chime in. I have made one or two absolutely awesome connections from the ISO section. Just a thought.

Xoxo!

Edit: I know what you mean, some great ladies as well as great guys have just drifted away from the hobby, and then you have to make new friends! Heck I even come and go. Glad you have changed your perspective a bit, and I hope you have a wonderful day!

Barney, fellas like you are my favorites. In a perfect world, a client would just want to get to know me and talk, maybe a little touchy feel-ey. It's nothing to be ashamed of, many men your age do experience similar issues. Any professional lady with class will understand this.

It has been said that golf is "played on a five-inch course - the space between your ears."

(Now, forget the "five-inch part") but I think that sex is played in the same area. Our brains are a great sex organ.

Barney, I'm your Flinstone on this. Guys sometimes have to be seduced or feel like there's a seduction going on. It doesn't have to be "making love" but it has to be more than just physical "sex." There's a mental aspect - a fantasy role play, the atmosphere, the anticipation, a look, a moan, what is said, how it's said, how the lady dresses.

When I go to porn sites to rub one out, I tend to view lesbian videos because typically those involve more seduction, more foreplay. Guy on girl porn these days is basically wham bam thank ya maam stuff. Anyway, my "mental get off" typically involves watching two women having sex. Life's a buffet.

There is a testosterone replacement that you don't have to inject, you apply it topically once daily so you get a nice even level and no spikes or "man PMS." ---If you haven't tried the little blue pill ask your doc about those as well, if all else looks good. Originally Posted by Marla

They also make a patch you can wear on your thigh or rump that will dose you with testosterone. They stick on like a big band-aid. I am on those right now for low-T. The only drawback is they leave a dark ring of adhesive on your ass when you pull them off. I am using some orange solve to take that off each morning before I shower. You put them on at night and leave them on 24 hours .

SSRI antidepressants can knock the shit out of your libido too. Been there and done that! You have to work with your doctor to find the right combination of them that gives you your mojo back.

Ah yes the little blue pill...I am 50 myself and I have come to adore this treasure. Yes you can be 18 again and have a rock hard errection. As Toby Keith put it, I am now as "good once as I ever was!"