what do you think

She was probably just very frustrated that you messed up her schedule/money for the day. You say you've seen her before, so chances are that she may have turned away someone new to see you because return clients are always more stable. Of course her reaction wasn't the best, as you get more flies with honey than vinegar. I would maybe give it a few days and see if she offers up a sincere apology.

Like a few others have said, the cops are everywhere. That's what they do. I see probably a cop every five or ten minutes these days, whether I am at home or up at the incall. They drive through all the apartment complexes at random, and park places and "watch" for no apparent reason. Well the reason is to deter crime, and see it works, worked on you!

If there is one cop or even a group of them at an apartment complex where you are going to meet a lady, I would say please contact her before you bolt. If they are not there for you or her why let it ruin y'all's day? Hopefully they are just there arresting drug dealers, thieves, or child molesters, something I actually DON'T mind paying my taxes for.

But when all is said and done, if you were spooked and feeling freaked out the session probably would've been bad anyway, so you were better off to leave. It is just unfortunate that both of you (you and the lady) had to suffer for nothing.

Hopefully this thread will help ease some of the freak-out factor and can keep this same scenario from happening as much!

i could understand where youre coming from.
rather be safe than sorry.

on the other hand, i could understand where shes coming from.
it "could" have messed up her day. who knows if she lost the $ on the room if you were her only client. who knows that she didnt have other cancels that day. who knows if she had known sooner, she couldve scheduled someone else.

i disagree that she shouldve given him a discount for being spooked.
maybe it was a joke

i wouldve bailed like you did!! nice of you to text her.
i would give you another shot. Originally Posted by MsPrittiKitti

If it was MsPrittiKitti, I would have stayed....

ahhh thank you dahling!!!

jacqueline---youre right! i dont know your writing style. thats why i mentioned maybe it was a joke
my apologies!

Nevermind.


CoHorn, okay I had to giggle at your post. I don't blame you.

I've done almost the exact same thing as the OP. Went to this AAMP location that I'd been to several times before. There was an (empty) cop car parked in the lot right in front of their building. I called to cancel and took off.

Hell, just engage in a simple diversion for the popo . . . Leave a box of donuts out in the open.

So I had an appointment at 530 today. I got to the incall 20 minutes early and there was a police car in front of the complex. I am parked across the street. I wait and at about 520 he gets in his car and leaves. A minute after that he comes accross the street and drives through the parking lot I am in, just watching everyone, including me I think. Then he leaves. Right at 530 when I am supposed to go across the street for my appointment he drives through the parking lot again. It freaks me out so I leave. I text the provider and told her there is a cop car outside and I dont feel safe so I am leaving.

I get a text from the provider 5 minutes later just pissed at me. Saying how the cop was not there for me, that I ruined her whole day and not to text her again as her services where no longer for me. I have seen her before. I do understand that her time is money, I get it, this is a business. I text her apologizing and told her I would make it up to her but no response. I text 3 times, but again, I get it, she doesnt want to see me again. Now understand, I am not going to lose any sleep over it as there are other providers out there , but I feel kind of bad as I like seeing her, even though I have only seen her once I was going to repeat. It sucked that it happened but such is life.

My questions for the ladies is, would you forgive me and see me again or would you say screw you and never see me again?

For the guys, I know I am a pussy but what would have you done? It kind of freaked me out so I bolted. Would have you stayed if you where in that position.

I dont think I have ever posted a thread before so I thought this would be kind of cool. FUCK YA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SLUTS UNITED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Originally Posted by daaaaaman

Absolutely in no way did you do anything wrong, and are CERTAINLY not a pussy! The provider in this instance acted like a big baby and has now lost a good client as a result. If your Spidey Sense was tingling for whatever reason, you may have saved both you and her a lot of legal hassles. If she was being targeted for some reason and wasn't aware, you'd have both been in the $#!+. She should be thank you repeatedly and welcome you back with open arms (regardless of the fact she wasn't in the crosshairs...this time).

If missing one appointment "ruined her day," I would think she needs to plan her business better. ESPECIALLY since you offered to make it up to her. ALL personal service businesses fluctuate, and with the price of every single thing we consume skyrocketing, business has slowed down in every sector. She is foolish to have treated you this way, and you deserve better.

Would the provider have bailed you out of jail? You gotta look out for you.

very good comments from all sides.

mine has to do with what she supposedly told daaaaaaman...
I get a text from the provider 5 minutes later just pissed at me. Saying how the cop was not there for me, that I ruined her whole day and not to text her again as her services where no longer for me.

as was commented by others, if this ruined her whole day, then it seems to me her planning or lack of planning is what ruined her day. if she was solely counting on me to cover her business expenses that day [which really isnt my concern], then sure, my not showing up put a wrinkle in her plans. but they are her plans and she should have identified the risk of no clients on a specific day and had backup plans to deal with that.

one of the last things i want to know from a provider is what she is going to do with the money i pay for her consulting. it's like, do i care what pizza hut is going to do w/ the money i pay them? what my dentist is going to do w/ the money i pay him? NO.

so, i agree that she could have acted more responsibly, but it's all water under the bridge.

and if she acted like that during this kind of situation, how might she act in other situations??

if it were me, i wouldnt want to consult w/ her again.
i've had this happen to me several times. once from a woman when i cancelled a consultation 2.5 days in advance!!

very good comments from all sides.

mine has to do with what she supposedly told daaaaaaman...
I get a text from the provider 5 minutes later just pissed at me. Saying how the cop was not there for me, that I ruined her whole day and not to text her again as her services where no longer for me.

as was commented by others, if this ruined her whole day, then it seems to me her planning or lack of planning is what ruined her day. if she was solely counting on me to cover her business expenses that day [which really isnt my concern], then sure, my not showing up put a wrinkle in her plans. but they are her plans and she should have identified the risk of no clients on a specific day and had backup plans to deal with that.

one of the last things i want to know from a provider is what she is going to do with the money i pay for her consulting. it's like, do i care what pizza hut is going to do w/ the money i pay them? what my dentist is going to do w/ the money i pay him? NO.

so, i agree that she could have acted more responsibly, but it's all water under the bridge.

and if she acted like that during this kind of situation, how might she act in other situations??

if it were me, i wouldnt want to consult w/ her again.
i've had this happen to me several times. once from a woman when i cancelled a consultation 2.5 days in advance!! Originally Posted by pmdelites

Can I have an AMEN?

I'd give ya another chance. I would understand the cop was going in and out of the parking lot, how does she expect you to feel comfortable?? How did she know the cop wasn't there watching you? Did she give you a decent explanation as to why the cop was hangin around?? I say you did the right thing. It's not worth it to get busted. Providers do the same thing alllllll the time when they get bad vibes. Guys should be able to also. It's just part of the business. Now if you did this 2 times in a row, then that would be a different story. But Gee Whiz, you offered to make it up to her. You did your part. She doesn't want to forgive you, thats her loss. PLay and stay safe

AMEN!

Can I have an AMEN? Originally Posted by Lana Warren

Kinda strange she wasn't as curious/nervous about the cop as you were...would think she would have appreciated the heads up, especially if she uses that incall a lot.

AMEN! Originally Posted by just4funindfw

Justie,
You have just now been volunteered head up the collection committee at the next Sunday morning service! Bless you, my child!

I think leaving was the best thing for you to do. I would done the same thing good job