Curious, how do you seasoned hobbyist stay anonymous? I mean, when you see a provider, they usually see your ID right?
Originally Posted by jarza
No. Not once have I been asked for I.D. In fact, The only two times I gave references, I did so because it was convenient for me in those two specific instances. The ``screening'' was minimal to the extent that a few pm's back and forth was sufficient and I was never turned down for an appointment. Taking the time to write a good first contact message goes a long way. If you get p411, do it anonymously (if you're really paranoid.) P411 used to have a 6 month trial offer which required you to supply nothing more than two existing p411 providers to vouch for you. I'm not sure if they still do that.
Never give more information than you are comfortable giving out. Don't use your hobby handle anywhere else, not even on another board. You would be surprised how little information is required to pick up enough pieces through google and other search engines to eventually piece things together if your handle is scattered all over the internet. Park in a non - obvious location where you can't be seen getting out of or back into your car and just walk a bit. Don't take any I.D. with you. Do a little research and avoid anyone who seems flakey, no matter what the little head tells you to do. Most importantly, don't be a jerk so that no one has a reason to want to know who you are. (I'll skip the more obvious things like get a hobby phone, and other things which are always mentioned.)
Tin Man posted:
I'm sometimes amazed at the amount of real-life info a lot of gals share with me.
Same here. I was always a multiple hour client and so there was always a lot of time to chat. So...