When to discuss what?

Babydollsnow - One word .... L.E.

When I screen gents, I actually TALK TO or email back n' forth with their provider references...therefore, making me feel alot safer with the gent that I am potentially going to see. Answering questions at that time, is not a problem for me.

If I have all of my activities listed out there for anyone registered anywhere (ECCIE or P411) to see (including L.E. -because look, we all know that they're there/here)...it's just an invitation for bad news.

While I do see your point, and I agree that the gents do have the right to know what they are going to be getting....it's just my personal choice (for my own safety & peace of mind). Nothing personal against them. If they are interested, and once screening info is verified, then they may feel free to 'ask away'.


Different strokes for different folks.


XOXO,
ItalianaPrincess Originally Posted by ItalianaPrincess

Thank you girl I DO see your point on this tooo and its very interesting....

I guess the point is don't assume things, recently I asked a well known PSE type provider about toy play, she said fine on me not on you. I was very surprised but now I know. I will see her again (and again) but when that kink needs to be ironed out I will go elsewhere.

Am I the only lady around that will not promise a bucket list of activities that is on a list? I'm probably going to confuse some by writing this but I have VERY few boundaries. I sincerely do. My boundary line could be frightening to some. Grin. My p411 "list" is fairly vast and it's not complete.

But that hardly means that I'm willing to do anything with anyone. And I have to meet someone, first, before I know. Again, I'm pretty free-flowing with almost anything. But I'll also freely admit that I've said no to some activities after we've gotten together. For a variety of reasons.

And so that's the way that I answer a question when a guy asks me something along those line. I'm pretty open to most anything, please don't be graphic, and what happens between two people is dependent upon their chemistry and desires at that particular moment in time.

I don't follow a script. Everyone is different. And I will never answer sexually blunt questions before knowing someone. And even if I DO know them and they've screened, they have to ask me in the correct fashion or when I'm feeling frivolous or frisky. I don't care for men to be crude when we first speak.

Elisabeth

Thanks all for your well thought out...erm... thought on the situation.

As for the lady in question she is on P411 and its listed....

Am I the only lady around that will not promise a bucket list of activities that is on a list? Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

You know I've never considered that list a promised menu just more of generally what you can expect. Thus the reason for my concern...


In this case this is more of a one time out of state thing so if the answer is "only for clients i'm comfortable with" I'd like to know before I've set an appointment to avoid disappointed for both me and her purse.


Anyway I think I may try to contact her closer to time and just kind of gently feel out what she is comfortable with. But I was wondering the range of opinions which you guys always provide in great quantity.