Guys Beware

I’ve been hobbying for a long time. I would never pay a deposit nor wire money to someone for meeting. Cash at the time of the meeting is my only way.

There are way too many frauds, schemers, and rip-off artists to do otherwise.

If that means I can’t see someone, so be it. I’ve got plenty of options. It doesn’t offend me for a lady to ask, just know I’ll politely decline and move on.

What about paying directly to the hotel and being reimbursed upon meeting?

Really!!!!??? You cannot tell people to do what you do. I require deposits because of the high volume of ncns or just someone trying to bullshit me. Again, if you don't like the deposit, see someone who doesn't require this. I know I have spoken to at least 5 men on this thread about this. Quit starting shit, posting bullshit posts and just see someone else. Don't tell someone never to do it. Because I have never fucked anyone over, but I have to protect my gas money that I have wasted, hotel room money went to the toilet multiple times. And y'all are pissed cuz a deposit is necessary. How about grow the fuck up, quit bitching & FIND SOMEONE WHO DOESNT REQUIRE THIS! BUT KC dudes should know, if ya don't like the deposit, quit fucking with us & quit setting up appointments that you don't follow through with!!!!!!!

I love that the op, who has been on here since 2012, has no reviews...maybe that's why she asks for a deposit. Cuz you don't have a reputation at all here..

It's all about me. I am the customer. If I don't get what I want, I shop at a different store. It's that easy. Originally Posted by Warptcuck

no its not all about you, its about Us meaning safety and discretion and security on our sides and that includes the "potential guy showing up and walking out" cause hes scared or the change of mind types of guys with the NCNS's wasting our time that we have put aside for that gent .........have to understand from us ladie's point of view guys, its just like you gents owning your own business's, say your a lawyer, and someone flakes out on hiring you after you put your time in and did your research on whether you want to take the case or not ......... . your out of your TIME and POTENTIAL FUNDS, ....... arent you ??????????
same difference and scenario!!! i like to think of deposits as "retainers" for time put aside just for that gent!!!
do your research on the girl asking for a deposit, ask yourself, is she well reviewed? good reputation in the adult community? etc.... doing your research on a lady before calling her, minimizes your risk of bad situations, scenarios and fraud...

Many REPUTABLE ladies (especially touring ladies) require deposits now due to all of the fuckery and last minute cancels. Most will apply your deposit to your next visit if something comes up on either end. Note: the key word is REPUTABLE. Do your due diligence. Originally Posted by Audrey Astor

keyword REPUTABLE

In 10+ years of being in the hobby I have never sent a deposit. If someone asked for one I would probably move into the next one.

I have way too many regulars who are willing to see me without a deposit.

In 10+ years of being in the hobby I have never sent a deposit. If someone asked for one I would probably move into the next one.

I have way too many regulars who are willing to see me without a deposit. Originally Posted by Fizley

+1

have to understand from us ladie's point of view guys, its just like you gents owning your own business's, say your a lawyer, and someone flakes out on hiring you after you put your time in and did your research on whether you want to take the case or not ......... . your out of your TIME and POTENTIAL FUNDS, ....... arent you ??????????
same difference and scenario!!! i like to think of deposits as "retainers" for time put aside just for that gent!!!
do your research on the girl asking for a deposit, ask yourself, is she well reviewed? good reputation in the adult community? etc.... doing your research on a lady before calling her, minimizes your risk of bad situations, scenarios and fraud... Originally Posted by Randilyn

I am a business owner and I see this like earnest money when bidding on a property. It shows you're a serious buyer and it compensates the seller for the time the property was off the market in case your sale doesn't come through.

However, in a heavy buyer's market with huge elasticity, where buyers can easily find the same or better product/deal elsewhere, sellers have to make the deal better and easier than the other deals out there. (all within the seller's risk/reward or cost/benefit comfort zone). But anything that makes the buyer's process slower, riskier, or complicated will result in the buyer simply going elsewhere with an easy click or text to the next hot spinner (or whatever they like).

Like I said, lots of girls to chose from. You request a deposit before we meet. Your loss. I don't see a bunch of different girls, so I don't have many references. To the girl who requested a deposit: you missed out, big time. Found a girl I like and we net. And I will be seeing her again....and again.... and again.

Have never given/sent a deposit and never plan to. Will just move on. Plenty of other options.

In sixteen years in this hobby, I have only done 1 ncns, and it was because of a traffic accident that hospitalized me for a week. I was on my way to the appointment when a drunk ran a stop sigh and blasted me. I simply scroll past any post requesting an appointment. Lot's of calls for guys to do their "due diligence". My due diligence includes excluding any provider demanding a deposit.

carguy I wish others were as reliable as you

I repeat...

the key word is REPUTABLE

Originally Posted by Phoenixx

Yep

Reputable or not, when there's simply so many other other options out there, if the sale is complicated, buyers will just move on to the next one. I'd be interested to hear how often ladies who ask for a "deposit" are successful? That will tell you all you need to know.

I don't ask for deposit.