Takes time to get off

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  • jan-w
  • 06-30-2011, 03:48 PM
I used to have a problem with getting erections till I got on the "blue pill", then that problem was solved. Sometimes, although I'm stiff as a brick, I have a problem with finishing. Once, I didn't finish at all and the provider, a younger one, seemed peeved, although I assured her I still had a good time.

I'm at the age where I can enjoy being with an attractive woman and not feel pressured to pop. I love women's bodies and I think it's worth the price to touch, smell, taste and physically hold a woman. I can have an orgasm anytime I want in front of my computer screen while watching porn but nothing can match the feel of a woman in my arms.

All that being said, I enjoy orgasms when I'm with a woman and I usually manage fine. The secret for me is to not be shy and directly ask the woman to do what I need to finish. Every man has certain things that totally turn him on and he should not be afraid to ask, as long as she is agreeable.

For me, I have very sensitive nipples and I ask the lady to fondle them while she's riding me or giving me a BJ. That usually does the job.
I sometimes just lose interest right in the middle of things. Could have been rock hard at the beginning, but something between the ears just changes and I pull in the sail. I don't worry about it. I tell you this just to point out that it happens to guys w/o medication problems too. I figure the girls have seen it dozens of times, so no big deal. Next time I may have one that'll cut glass. The dick is a fickle fellow.
See, that's the other thing ladies should not assume! Even if we don't finish, that does not mean we are pleased or satisfied!
It happens sometimes, nothing to get mad about. You are paying for the hour. I had a client the other night who just kept saying it was not going to happen. He said it wasn't my fault & it happens alot. We went over the hour, but guess what... It happend. I was happy and he was even happier!!
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It happens sometimes, nothing to get mad about. You are paying for the hour. I had a client the other night who just kept saying it was not going to happen. He said it wasn't my fault & it happens alot. We went over the hour, but guess what... It happend. I was happy and he was even happier!! Originally Posted by sexy_emily4u
What a sweet heart! LDS (Limp Dick Syndrome) is a tuff deal. An understanding provider is a find for those kind of circumstances!
:th umbup::thumb up:
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I have had clients that blood pressure meds that made the exxpierience very long to get the job done and i thank them for it! being with them is how i learned to take my time and not rush as i used towhen i first started out...sometimes a nice massage with oil and light caresses feathers i think it is possible u just have tohave lits of 4play( creat a big build up) as long as i do that they end up um.... RELIEVED
My $0.02 as well ...

I take the generic version of Zoloft (an anti-depressant) and sometimes have "sexual side effects" like they advertise. That, combined with getting a little older, can cause trouble in the erection and/or finishing department. The strange thing is, it's not every time and it can vary from "no side effects at all" to "I can't get it up at all" to "it gets up fine, but I just can't get there to pop".

I get regular check-ups and KNOW that I do not have any heart issues. This is important. Here's what I've been doing lately. I go to Condom Sense and get a "make enhancement product" they carry called Phuk (yeah, the name, I know). I used to use Stiff Nights, but I dropped it for a few reasons. I also tried the "internet Viagra" from India, but it did nothing AT ALL for me. I'm very happy with the Phuk product. In addition, it doesn't require a doctor visit or a prescription - it's "over-the-counter" - and it can be internet ordered. It does have the same warning about "sudden drop in blood pressure" as Viagra, if you take it with certain heart medications, so be careful there.

Anyway, here's what I like about using this product - it gives me total confidence that I'm going to get full wood like I did when I was 18 when I'm touched / stimulated. Having that confidence and the wonderful feeling of getting / being hard when squeezed / sucked is one if the things I want to enjoy.

This leaves the issue of "popping". This is actually the trickier part. The anti-depressant can make you feel like you're "just about there, but just can't quite get there". There's no magic pill I'm aware of for that. It's still just finding the right combination of everything that is able to get you there. I recently lowered my dosage of the anti-depressant to see if doing so helps in this department, but the jury is still out on that.

Hope this helps someone.

TG
Still Looking!! He wasn't limp!! He just didn't think anything was going to come out!!
They get upset because if you guys don't cum they fear your going to talk shit about us all over the internet with bad reviews!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You also might consider getting your hormones checked. I was having issues and after a few doctors did virtually nothing I went to an osteopathic doctor who discovered I was very low of testosterone, even though I am only 37. So I get weekly shots of that and all is well. Plus you will feel much better in your overall health too! Originally Posted by massagemanusa
+1000

i have a friend who is going thru this same issue and his doctors were real quick to give the "pill". which did nothing. After much talking to his doctor, finally got the harmones checked and low testosterone.

I would ask for a full physical to include lab work. If the doctor won't do the test, there is another option. PM me.
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They get upset because if you guys don't cum they fear your going to talk shit about us all over the internet with bad reviews!!!!!!!!!!!! Originally Posted by incognito isis
You can't worry about what you can't control!
  • Sami
  • 07-01-2011, 08:15 PM
Slowmover now I know better, fickle my ass

Ok back on topic, I have several gents who have health issues,and do understand sometimes it works and sometimes it won't.
If it doesn't well there is always plan b hugging,snuggling,playing taking the mind of of whats not working then what do ya know it can usually happen.
As long as you are happy I am happy

I sometimes just lose interest right in the middle of things. Could have been rock hard at the beginning, but something between the ears just changes and I pull in the sail. I don't worry about it. I tell you this just to point out that it happens to guys w/o medication problems too. I figure the girls have seen it dozens of times, so no big deal. Next time I may have one that'll cut glass. The dick is a fickle fellow. Originally Posted by slowmover
... it might be helpful to just mention it casually during an appointment... Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers
Hmmm, I will have to give that a try:

"hey baby, just wanted to let you know up front that it takes 3 hours of vigorous lovemaking to get me off. Are you cool with that?"
lol.
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Just 'let it go'.

I used to have the bad habit of clenching during sex. You know, when you're trying to delay cumming. If you hold too long too often, it makes cumming very difficult when you want to. I'm thinking there's a numbing effect to doing it too much, though I can't say for sure. No longer being a multi-popper is a byproduct of this as well (don't want to let go too early for an hour appt).

Nowadays I do it way less and can usually release without effect...usually.