I used to have a problem with getting erections till I got on the "blue pill", then that problem was solved. Sometimes, although I'm stiff as a brick, I have a problem with finishing. Once, I didn't finish at all and the provider, a younger one, seemed peeved, although I assured her I still had a good time.
I'm at the age where I can enjoy being with an attractive woman and not feel pressured to pop. I love women's bodies and I think it's worth the price to touch, smell, taste and physically hold a woman. I can have an orgasm anytime I want in front of my computer screen while watching porn but nothing can match the feel of a woman in my arms.
All that being said, I enjoy orgasms when I'm with a woman and I usually manage fine. The secret for me is to not be shy and directly ask the woman to do what I need to finish. Every man has certain things that totally turn him on and he should not be afraid to ask, as long as she is agreeable.
For me, I have very sensitive nipples and I ask the lady to fondle them while she's riding me or giving me a BJ. That usually does the job.