Dom/ sub, and he doesnt know what that is.

this post goes farther than folks knowing/not knowing about Dom/Sub, so i apologize for taking it a bit off track.

i think the biggest barrier to people being rather open about their intimate & sexual fantasies or desires is that there are toooooooo many people in the USA that will condemn them in some way. tho' folks like mr. "grab em by the pussy" seemingly are immune to condemnation :^(.
and since most people wouldnt want to be condemned or publicly shamed, they wont share their fantasies or desires.

similar to being out in public (store, mall, park, restaurant, gym, etc.) and you see an attractive person, someone you would like to "get to know." it's rather difficult (even more so these days) to a) find out if they are interested in being physically & sexually intimate and b) actually get them to get physically & sexually intimate with you. so, we lust after folks. and then some of us satisfy that lust by visiting providers, asian spas, streetwalkers, legal brothels in nevada or other countries.

in my real world & hobby opinion, the usa is just too prudish to tolerate much less accept people having intimate and casual sex -and- being rather open about it.

I always knew what Dom/Sub lifestyle is. I am a member of Fetlife, just to see how others live. I get pointers too. But never was involved in the Dom/Sub lifestyle.

However, last year, while drunk, I accepted a bet and lost.
I had to visit a Dominatrix as part of the lost bet. I found out later, the bet was a set up and there was no way I could win.

So, I accepted my lost bet, my Hobby friends set me up with a chick from here. A young black Dominatrix.

I posted my first ever Sub/Dom session. It was wild. I did what I was told. I tried my best not to tap out.

I was given a safe word, but forgot it. I survived, she was very into her work and could tell when I became uncomfortable.

I have returned, but mainly for Queening sessions. I love a chick who is into making me stick my tongue in all her holes......

Unique Carpenter good point you make..
Deep, lol, and good. I think many many people these days hide ( somewhat ) behind B O T H ~ personas...although I hope we can be more free IN BOTH ! ....
.... I will never have it all figured out. ha. ( if this didnt make any sense, sorry, i need coffee. :/ ) Originally Posted by Zena

Ah yes Zena, multiple personas is the end result.
Although it does make sense, sometimes, at mid afternoon I switch from coffee to whiskey regardless.

They are known as vanilla people. They are still out there even in today's more open society. Originally Posted by backonthesaddle

Muggles ?