- I have never, to my knowledge [**], had a lady fail/refuse to provide a reference for me.
- I have never had a lady I offered as a reference contact me to try to "poach" the appointment.
- I have never had a lady I'd seen contact me to complain that I'd seen someone else rather than her.
Yet these practices sound as though they're wide-spread. So,
what am I doing wrong?? Hell, I've even had ladyfriends suggest someone else that I should consider seeing.
Just kidding. I understand that this doesn't mean that the ladies don't want my business. Apparently I'm just lucky (again, to my knowledge) to have chosen ladies who are professional (in a good way) about this business. And of course, with P411 it's no longer much of an issue anyway.
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[**] I hope when you ladies don't hear back from a reference, that you routinely pass along that information to the prospective client. One good way to discourage these practices may be to enlist the clients in providing negative feedback. And it might similarly help to pass the word publicly on who these unprofessional ladies are; if that results in some gentlemen deciding against seeing them, perhaps they will realize the error of their ways. Or perhaps not. *sigh*