Here's my issue.

I was a tad paranoid when I first started years ago too. Going on about 8 years now(this is my 2nd account, lost my first after a hiatus). Do plenty of research on your lady of choice. See if the regulars here have seen her, established hobbyists. Take the edge off by doing an outcall first, in the comfort of your own hotel/home. This hobby is not without risk, minimize that risk. If you still can’t get over that, then the mongers are right. It may not be for you.

1. Paranoia is good to keep you out of trouble.
2. Pick a few well known's and stick to them.
3. Stay with the ladies over 30 and you will avoid the wackadoodles and try to stay away from the providers that use extended stay hotels.

Enjoy mongering. This has been a blast for the last 25yrs and the MILF's get younger everyday.

We do this every day. If you are super super nervous about all these things, only stick to the stellar ladies(probably older than you are) as your starting point.

... Take the edge off by doing an outcall first, in the comfort of your own hotel/home. This hobby is not without risk, minimize that risk. ... Originally Posted by Manny4Fun

rather than taking the edge off, let her edge you instead

wrt bolded text above ==> NO NO NO, NO NO NO, NO !!!!!!!!!!
inviting a provider to your home is NOT recommended for many Many MANY reasons, esp for a newbie like DallasIron appears to be.

minimize the risk - go see her at her incall.
or get a room at a hotel.

but DONT invite her to your home.

whats the worst that can happen: you get sent to jail. which isnt so bad considering that sex in the slammer is free, plentiful and most jailbirds are likely to be devoted don practitioners. so it's all upside, I'd jump in if I were you... Originally Posted by darkwader

You're a mess, Man

Research is your friend. With proper research, no worries.

Research is your friend. With proper research, no worries. Originally Posted by pistol shot

No one wants logic in these parts sir.

DallasIron,

Take 2 10 mg Valium and chill out.

There's an established well known lady here on the board who has been in my bucket list for 2 + 3 years. Ok. I have researched her from top to bottom, spoke to several Hobbyists about her, seems like we've already met I know so much about her and know what to expect BCD.

What all the Hobbyists told me about her was TRUE. Her (man in the boat) is HUGE. She also has GIANT MEAT CURTAINS which I have no problems with.

Take one look at her in her birthday suit and think is she going to hurt me when we're BCD having fun ? Skerd me... Cause she is built like a brick shit house. Maybe 8% body fat and extremely tight, toned, thoroughbred racehorse quality and the most remarkable 32 DD man made saline boobs with .45 CAL eraser nipples. It Made me step back a step or two.

We met. I worked my Jelly little bit and she said anything you desire baby, I am all yours tonight. Gawd Damn!

DO YOU THINK I WAS SKERD ?

I HAVE BEEN IN THE HOBBY FOR 19 YEARS.. STARTED ON ASPD.

I KICK MYSELF IN THE ASS FOR NOT VISITING THIS LADY SOONER...

THIS WAS THE MOST REMARKABLE SESSION I HAVE HAD IN A LONG TIME WITH A PROVIDER.

GET A NEW HOBBY. START COLLECTING STAMPS. YOU WORRY TOO MUCH.

Research Research Research go with well review ladies
and Well Established and make sure she screens .

I find a provider who I'd want to meet. I contact her, and everything seems perfect, and we schedule a session. However, as much as I'd love to have the session, I can't not think about things like:

What if it's a trap?
What if it's a set-up?
Will LE be there?

Anyone else got through this? How can I overcome it? Experiences? Originally Posted by DallasIron

Hmmmm. Everybody and their little doggie Toto has given absolutely excellent advice.

Well reviewed ladies over 30; ladies who have their own established incalls; get advice from hobbyists who’s posts and reviews you respect; Chung is one of my favorite posters and reviewers! You most definitely will not be able to keep up with him or go to everywhere Chung has gone before (for real!); but he’s one to follow and to PM for advice.

Do RESEARCH on the ladies in question on ALL the sites they advertise on. Google them, PM the lady’s last 3 reviewers. Wish on a star, whatever.

However the only really important piece of info that I really gleaned from this strong, brave, manly man;
was the part where he says he actually contacts my sister providers and has gone through screening and MAKES AN APPOINTMENT and then is not able to go through with the date. NCNS??!!.

Is this true, my brave man? If you make an appointment with a lady and that time is reserved just for you, you can’t just wimp out. I hope you gave the ladies at least a days notice and paid a cancellation fee. Different ladies have different cancellation policies. And since you’re new, word gets around very quickly for providers and clients both; who don’t honor scheduled appointments.
And your handle will be mud with any lady worth seeing.

That’s just what I saw, when I read that. If that’s not the case; that you haven’t been scheduling appointments and then not showing up; I apologize.

Otherwise, follow the communities excellent advice and choose a well reviewed provider with a great reputation. There are many in DFW depending on what location you desire, age range, race, and body type. And always RESEARCH!

Welcome to the party love! You can have soooo much fun here!

I think the paranoia is the same for both sides. Over the years I have learned to embrace the butterflies and go with the flow. Best of luck!

I think the paranoia is the same for both sides. Over the years I have learned to embrace the butterflies and go with the flow. Best of luck! Originally Posted by LadyAnastasia

GREAT POINT, Anastasia! Several ladies have commented to me that it can give them the willies on what to expect at the door. Many have told me that men will show up at the door that are.....(being politically correct here)…. Undesirable, or could be LE or otherwise.

One of my ATF's and I got into this discussion - What if the tables were turned, if the Guy was the provider? She asked me - "How would you be prepared to visit with a smelly, unkept, undesirable lady who showed up at your door?"

For that reason, I NEVER understand why it's not acceptable for the ladies to see a bodyshot (blur the eyes/face if necessary) of us, before meeting.

As far as original question, this is obvious. Visit with well established ladies with good reviews. In my case, I'll sometimes message the guy who posted the review to do more research.

No one wants logic in these parts sir. Originally Posted by Kendall4U

Obviously.

GREAT POINT, Anastasia! Several ladies have commented to me that it can give them the willies on what to expect at the door. Many have told me that men will show up at the door that are.....(being politically correct here)…. Undesirable, or could be LE or otherwise.

One of my ATF's and I got into this discussion - What if the tables were turned, if the Guy was the provider? She asked me - "How would you be prepared to visit with a smelly, unkept, undesirable lady who showed up at your door?"

For that reason, I NEVER understand why it's not acceptable for the ladies to see a bodyshot (blur the eyes/face if necessary) of us, before meeting.

As far as original question, this is obvious. Visit with well established ladies with good reviews. In my case, I'll sometimes message the guy who posted the review to do more research. Originally Posted by SchnellerFahrer

If the tables were turned, then the guys would have to supply pics of themeselves. But, a picture is not going to let you know about that person, if he has good hygeine or if he is LE.

The one thing that the ladies have on us guys is, as long as he is respectful and has great hygeine, she can fake it, i.e., IOP. If a guy does not find a lady attractive, there is no way he can fake it, i.e., maintain much less even get an erection.

Anyway, OP, you have been given good advice about doing research on providers and all, but let's face it, the hobby is risky in more ways than one, and you have to accept those risks if you wish to continue or if there is any doubt, go with your gut.

Research research research. Not only to alleviate anxiety but also to ensure you have a good time. Sometimes I get a little nervous when meeting a new lady but usually because you never know how the chemistry will be.

I think the paranoia is the same for both sides. Over the years I have learned to embrace the butterflies and go with the flow. Best of luck! Originally Posted by LadyAnastasia

I'm more of a dive on in kinda guy, whatever happens will just happen, if anyone has major fears in the hobby, find something else