Thanks for your input- but...
The third word in my comment was “some” (missed the point). I read all all of them and yes there were a few good suggestions. But my point is if I say “Hey, I was the guy who was punctual and clean and treated you with respect”, I don’t think that will be enough to make her know who I am in most cases.
Originally Posted by DunnJackNoff
People are trying to answer your question, but you want them to tell you something different. Anon and Tia ARE giving you the right kinds of answers, but if you want more of a "how do I ask so they will remember", try this:
--e-mail them the very first time with a well thought out message, not a form-filler request for a date. It doesn't need to be long, but it should give her the info she needs AND is more personal BUT NOT CRUDE.
--after your date, send a short thank you note. Sincere, personal, and again brief and not crude.
--when you want to use her as a reference, do a "respond" to your earlier e-mail above. That, plus how you treated her, will be all you can reasonably do to jog her memory.
If you are fortunate enough to have some dates with ladies from different cities--or some ladies who travel--then ask the lady from Denver if she would be a reference for you to see a lady in Chicago. It reduces any jealousy.
The keys are to act with respect, be real and therefore memorable, and plan ahead. It is an investment in a little though and thoughtfulness much more so than an investment of money.