Payment Up Front

I am sorry that it is that way I don't know where you live I live in New Orleans. Wish you all the best.



M.M.

Like most anything else, there’s no one answer that fits every situation. It depends on the lady and the circumstances. There are some that I would feel comfortable sending a deposit or advance payment but a whole lot more that I wouldn’t. I consider each one on a case-by-case basis.

I don’t think you should necessarily rule any of them out based solely on an advance payment requirement. It’s definitely not always a scam. But sometimes it is a scam, so you certainly shouldn’t blindly agree to that every time either. Just have to use a little common sense and exercise good judgment.

There’s some amount of risk on both sides of these transactions. That’s why I try to stick with ladies who have plenty of good reviews and a good reputation. Obviously, the less you know about one, the riskier it is. But sometimes it’s worth taking a calculated risk just to see what happens. Could lead to something good, but you just have to go into it with the right attitude. You might lose that money, but sometimes it’s still worth a try.

I have not done so myself yet, but not knocking anyone that chooses to prepay. If a lady I wish to see requires that, I may have to if my desire for an appointment outweighs my reluctance to prepay.

As a nurse. Those unforseen moments can happen. That's life.
However, the importance of it all was that You communicated and he understood and in the end you two were able to meet. Beyond that. That's between y'all.
It's the character that you both showed, through that ordeal. That's important.

Sometimes, folks in this adult lifestyle don't possess said honest & understanding character.

I had a client pre pay me for a multi hour app't. He was traveling from Kansas City to visit the WW11 Museum and stay at the new hotel Higgin's across the street.
He sent multiple deposits and the day before appointment was to take place, I had eaten a piece of fried chicken from a corner store in New Orleans and caught food poisoning. Then next day I went to the hospital in an ambulance because I was too sick to drive myself. I tried very hard to make the appointment. I decided at the last minute to call an agency owner to ask her to send a lady to meet him for our scheduled dinner reservations at commanders palace.


He was very dismayed and I even sent him pictures of me in the ER in my hospital gown and IV line in my hand. I was in the hospital for a day and 1/2 before discharged.


Luckily he was still in NOLA when I got out, and we were able to meet for breakfast.( I wasn't up for eating). But I still went and at the very least could give him a massage for his troubles and buy him breakfast.
He wouldn't hear of it. He asked me could he catch an Uber and bring me my Christmas gifts he had for me. I expected him to give the gifts away but he was so nice he saved the gifts for me. All but the chocolates, he gave them to the other girl because he is that kind...



He asked me to open the pretty box inside a matching gift bag, and I complied. Inside the box was a Coach purse, my favorite perfume, and the rest of the Money for the session I couldn't make,.
I cried my eyes out. I was so grateful. He said if I didn't feel up to a massage he understood. I was not 100% but I owed him that much. He wouldn't even let me pay for breakfast.



What a real stand up client. So YES some of us ladies who are reputable and receive deposits make our words our bonds....








I was truly blessed for the kind Gen't . He even asked could he come visit me in the hospital.. I told him where I was. He checked on my the whole time I was in there... They are few and far between.(Honest ladies and wonderful Gentlemen).
Happy Holidays Everyone!!


M.M. Originally Posted by Melissa Madyson

It's all about WHOM you men choose to see.
If you're not thinking with the big head.
Rather, you're just chasing a nut with just anyone whom you think will drop her britches for your $. And you didn't read up about her because it was too time consuming for you.
Or she really didn't have ANYTHING about her for you to read. (Rather she just looked like a TOS hottie in the pics she (or he) posted).
And you send her $up front...and get scammed.

That's on y'all. That's NOT on all the truly honest & legit ladies in this LS whom Do honor their word.

Again, it's All about whom you choose to see.

I have paid in advance and actually had it work out a few times but more often than not if you pay before the visit takes place you will never get the visit. What incentive does a girl have to see you once she has your money? Do you think a few guys bitching on hooker boards saying so and so took my money but never came through with her end of the deal will keep other guys from seeing a hot girl? No it will not. Actually its been my experience that if you want to guarantee never having any contact with a hooker ever again all you have to do is send her money in advance. That should guarantee that she will never contact you again or return text/calls/emails/messages.

You would think with what I just said I would never send a girl money in advance. I still do. I just consider it a gift and dont ask for anything in return. If you make it clear when she ask you that you will just send her money to help chances are you will see her again and she will probably treat you better when you do. Originally Posted by BassCat

It's all about WHOM you men choose to see.
If you're not thinking with the big head.
Rather, you're just chasing a nut with just anyone whom you think will drop her britches for your $. And you didn't read up about her because it was too time consuming for you.
Or she really didn't have ANYTHING about her for you to read. (Rather she just looked like a TOS hottie in the pics she (or he) posted).
And you send her $up front...and get scammed.

That's on y'all. That's NOT on all the truly honest & legit ladies in this LS whom Do honor their word.

Again, it's All about whom you choose to see. Originally Posted by Mature Companion

I have to agree with Ms. Companion here. I made myself a promise before I jumped into the hobby to always do as much research as I possibly could on a provider before I set an appointment and never use one site as my sole source of information. Thinking with the little head is how you'll find yourself in regrettable situations. Took me a long time to learn that lesson in the RW.

So I don't have an issue with an upfront deposit at all. Only had to do it a couple of times and it turns out that neither of those sessions happened. The first lady gave me a 48 hour heads up that she had to cancel and offered a full refund of my deposit. I will admit that I did get burned on the second though. It was a complete one off situation and I knew going into it there was a good chance of a no show on this one. Fortunately, there were some things in place to minimize losses and being that the provider had to travel 3 hours to get to our appointment location, a deposit didn't seem unreasonable (refer back to Greyghost's post from earlier on this thread). I felt like the reward outweighed the risk on this one at the time.

Deposits are usually a fraction of the total donation. So do your research, pay the deposit if the lady has a good reputation, and if you lose out on it then count it as a lesson learned and move on. I have a good feeling that if a provider can ask for an upfront deposit, get it, and still have a stellar reputation from multiple sources...then you're going to have one hell of a time when you do get together. I wouldn't let it scare you away from seeing a lady that has piqued your interest. Again though, it's all about the reputation. New provider, no reviews, only on one site, can't get any details from other hobbyest on her...I'd move on.

Plus these ladies have to weed through a ton of bullshit on a daily basis and all we have to do is a little research on our end. Pay the ladies, don't be a dick, and have a good time. Don't let your pecker make all the decisions for you.