Yes, I understand what you are saying. I get annoyed by that
too. I'm not one to talk because I never succeeded at any job
until I became self employed in this illicit trade. I find it so ironic that I attract conservative voting clients and friends, who still accept me for the weird liberal that I am.
My dad was an ultra conservative Republican and my mom a liberal Democrat. One day, my sister got a call on Saturday morning. A young client from her office told my sister that she spent all her money on cigarettes and would my sister please bring her some formula for her baby. My sister says yes and gets ready to head for the store. I was really disgusted and started condemning the mom for being so irresponsible. My sister looked at me and said in a mean tone: "I'm not here to judge anyone. I am just grateful that she trusted me enough to ask me for my help. If she had not, her kid would be the one to suffer".
I always remembered that. And I always appreciated being exposed to both sides of very complex issues.