Great thing about text messages is they never disappear unless you delete them. If you want to defend her fine, but when I upload these screenshots they’ll show why you’re never suppose to take sides without facts.
Originally Posted by SauceBillyjoe
I feel for you because I am of the same ethnicity & I have come across similar experience - now, as part of my pre-screening message, it is ON the FIRST line because I have realized that, most times, they only read the first & last line OR glance the message looking for red-flags (entrapment, etc).
From my perspective, once there was 'mis-communication' in setting an appointment, I would have politely thanked her for the responses & moved on - has never occurred.
Moving past that, if I don't feel welcome on arrival, I turn around and leave. I have done it 2x early in the hobby - on both occasions, on seeing me, the lady says 'Oh, you are Indian' (I politely tell them: Sorry, you feel that way. Yes, my ethnicity is Indian, but, I am an American Citizen & have the proof on me. Then, walk away).
Since I have very limited playtime, now I screen very diligently before setting an appointment (first visit).
Finally, don't think of it as 'taking' sides. If you see my profile, I created my account in early 2016. My first review was not until 2+ years later. Reason: Never felt the need to ask for guidance from peers. However, when I needed guidance (used PMs), the response was that I did not have the credibility needed to get the info. So, to build the credibility, I asked permissions from the ladies/establishment AFTER my 2nd visit and provided my honest evaluation of info that I look for in reviews - very rarely is my BCD activities documented in detail because I like to keep it private & I understand that some activities depend on the chemistry/comfort level between the 2 individuals.
Once my credibility was established (visiting hobbyists pm'ing me for intel), I stopped writing reviews - if a companion requests one, I tell them that I prefer to keep the BCD private.
Anyway, good luck for future encounters & learn from this experience and move on from this one. As you yourself stated in the ROS, this may have been a 'YMMV' situation useful for 'other' Asians.