Why are so many providers scared of disabilities?

Lolove's Avatar
Catman to answer your question yes . I'll see him if he contacts me and passed screening etc ?

Kind of odd question when we are all basically saying we would happily see him if he needs legit providers
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I am here Johnson. I always tell my provider upfront that I am in a chair and my condition. I guess not many of them are well versed on just how bad CP can get and how difficult it is for me to transfer from the chair to the bed. I don't know if seeing my contracted legs and one arm scares them off and is not what they expected when I said "I'm in a chair". I have found one provider in the Fort Smith area that was nothing but amazing to me. She is a former CNA, so that really helped. Sadly, she moved out of state so I have lost my one and only provider. I now have to go to AMPs and wonder if they are talking about me when they talk to each other in their language. So to answer everyone's question, yes, when I first contact them after the first two texts, it is told to them that I am in a chair and have CP.
TurdFerguson80's Avatar
I mean you are in Omaha. I guess I could be the cripple Forest Gump and one day I just decided to roll and roll my ass up to Omaha.
Being an ICU RN, I take care of pts that are paraplegic, quadriplegic, have CP, CF, trachs, colostomies, you name it, and as I describe my day, or activities to those that are foreign to my world I often forget how many become squeamish or uncormfortable with my job, so I empathize with your predicament but would emlore you to further describe your situation to potential providers...

I'm definitely not placing blame on you but being in a chair can mean a lot, I've become numb to grabbing a guys penis and shoving a catheter up it, before becoming a nurse, I'm not touching a dudes penis...looking at your thin, contracted legs, possible jerky movements, slurred speech, I don't know but it can be frightening for those un prepared, I'm just saying paint your pic as best you can and I hope the results will be better, thanks for sharing your story...
Lolove's Avatar
Actually In NWA this week so you don't have to roll that ass far
Actually In NWA this week so you don't have to roll that ass far Originally Posted by Lolove

Love it...you ask and you shall receive... you build it and they will cum...gotta love these eccie ladies
TurdFerguson80's Avatar
I wonder if the battery in my chair will last from Fort Smith to NWA? Wonder if my insurance has roadside assistance?
Lolove's Avatar
I wonder if the battery in my chair will last from Fort Smith to NWA? Wonder if my insurance has roadside assistance? Originally Posted by TurdFerguson80
You could risk it .... or....

I do have a rental (unlimited miles *fancy) , I have AAA and a full tank of gas . Nothing is impossible with Bliss ; )
Lolove's Avatar
But back to subject ....

Only recently have I actually had to transfer a gentleman from chair to bed . I'm short and no lie ...weak AF lol . I have no health care background . Not going to lie I was some what intimidated and nervous . . . BUT I had known this beforehand as he had met with one of my girlfriends .

First time attempted I was the worst "nurse " ever ... luckily he is patient and has a great sense of humor ....seems you do too . Just got to find your right match .

Xoxo
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i used to see a guy who had a colospomy bag attached to his belly... he would have it covered with a towel and was very clean.....other providers would not see him...i was only one

i say every guy deserves to be treated like a king..so just go with the flow and have fun!!!
Ft Smith is almost on the way from Fayetteville to Little Rock. FYI
Ft Smith is almost on the way from Fayetteville to Little Rock. FYI Originally Posted by Rockydoc
Just a pit stop away
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Fuck um all!!!
TurdFerguson80's Avatar
Where are you at Johnson? You can help transfer me too. I have a sit-to-stand to make it easier. Oh yeah, wear your scrubs too.
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I am 41 years old and suffer from severe cerebral palsy and have been in a wheelchair for most of my adult life. Since it's hard to find a woman that doesn't mind being in a relationship with a man in a chair, I have had to take up the hobby. I have found that 99% of providers are scared of my wheelchair. I will invite them over, have the donation ready, and the second they see me open the door and in my wheelchair they always remember they forgot something in their car and then speed off. Is this common practice with providers? Can any of you gents suggest one that is more open-minded and caring? Originally Posted by TurdFerguson80
Sweetie I am so sorry this happened to you . I am not sure which providers did this , but I would recommend to connect with more mature providers . They have more experienced with life and have seen more things along the way . I don't think the providers that left ,were not caring , they may of not known what to say or do. But still they should of had better communication skills . You came to the right place here on the board . There are so many loving and caring providers on here that would love to accommodate you .