Need Advise as a new client !

213674, your situation reminds me of the old joke: "Why is divorce so expensive? Because it's worth it."

If I was as miserable as you apparently are, I'd probably decide it's worth it.

Hope the OP is appreciating this advice, although I bet he didn't think it would take off in this direction.... Originally Posted by TinMan

Been divorced once and the toll on our child has been unimaginable. I have 2 kids with this marriage - NOT gonna go through all that again until they are grown.

Elizabeth, once the last kid popped out, and tubes were tied off, she became a totally different person and I have tried everything. In fact we get along well otherwise except the sex part. Even mentioning it will turn her like jekyll and hyde into a screaming bitch and she flat out has told me I will get laid ONLY when SHE feels like it.. So I just hobby and let her think she is winning the war. Too bad she watches the checking acct like a HAWK or I could have a LOT more fun than I do.

Been divorced once and the toll on our child has been unimaginable. I have 2 kids with this marriage - NOT gonna go through all that again until they are grown.

Elizabeth, once the last kid popped out, and tubes were tied off, she became a totally different person and I have tried everything. In fact we get along well otherwise except the sex part. Even mentioning it will turn her like jekyll and hyde into a screaming bitch and she flat out has told me I will get laid ONLY when SHE feels like it.. So I just hobby and let her think she is winning the war. Too bad she watches the checking acct like a HAWK or I could have a LOT more fun than I do. Originally Posted by 213674

My situation is more like you except that I not yet married to her. I am guessing that the situation will only get worse after marriage because at this point whenever I approach her for sex she says and thinks that I only think about and need sex whenever I am with her.

But as against to this she needs me to hold her in my arms and cuddle her instead of touching her boobs and sex comes a distant last (this will only happen when she is very horny...)

Dude, you've got some serious issues. You should skip escorts and spend your money on a decent psychotherapist. Originally Posted by longtalltexan

No Thanks dude! I would rather spend this money on meeting a provider and maybe if we have some time, I would discuss about my personal issues with her (hence the reason why I have started this thread and thought about visiting Khloe.)

I am trying to debate if I really need to get laid with a provider considering that my GF doesn't give a heck about my sexual feelings and desires...

Dude, you've got some serious issues. You should skip escorts and spend your money on a decent psychotherapist. Originally Posted by longtalltexan

OK, at least some of the advice here has had a sound basis, including my friend Elizabeth.

All that said, recognize that you are paying for a gal to take care of you for an alloted timeframe. She may (hopefully if you choose well she will) take fine care of you and leave you feeling like a new man. But she ain't your girlfriend.

You use the word "WARMTH" in your post. Warmth can mean just the feel of a sweet little thing cuddled up next to you or in some eyes it really means a 4-letter word, LOVE. Don't expect love here, expect sex, perhaps a lady who can provide an illusion of passion, but when you leave her lair, you will return to your former life. At that point, you may decide that your GF is not so bad, or you may be ready to discard her for more romps in bed with different ladies you find here and there. But don't expect to find that special someone to love and honor for all the rest of your days here. Prossibly a bedroom bar will be set so high that no real girl can meet your expectations day in and day out, leaving you fulfilled for an hour, but then very disappointed and disenchanted with the real world the rest of the time.

My advice to new guys who have never tasted the fruit of the hobby is to run, run hard, run fast away from here. For most of us, one bite of the apple and we can never look back to the simpler life. (And it gets very complicated sometimes, as Reese Foster's website so aptly describes her.

http://thecomplicatedbeauty.escort-site.com/ )

Think twice before you leap, and be prepared to totally alter your life if you jump into our strange world. Originally Posted by tigercat

I feel like taking your advise seriously bro! but my sexual desires and my GF's inability to fulfill them keep me driving towards sites like eccie....

Take everyone's advice and dump the GF or just learn to live with being unsatisfied with your relationship. If you have problems sexually now, it will only get worse, and you will be blamed for cheating. If your dumb enough to get married then your on the hook for a lifetime of misery.

Women change once they are in a relationship and change even more once they marry you and then spend the rest of their lives trying to change you into what they wanted against your will. Once you get children involved then your trapped or you drag them through your problems in a nasty divorce.

I am not saying having a GF or getting married is the wrong thing to do. What I am saying is if your already unsatisfied and she is only a GF, move on. Hobby freely without lying or sneaking around. Since you have problems now, I doubt it will get any better as most relationship even one's that are sexually compatible turn out otherwise.

My wife and I humped like rabbits before she had her first kid, then she became a prude, blamed me for everything, and acted like she was a saint in her past when she wasnt even close to being one. I have learned to live with it, I should have hobbied instead of spending 20 years of getting hardly anything. Now I feel trapped by age, children, etc.

Hobby if you want, but unless she is okay with it, you are cheating. Don't resent her for your need to cheat, just move on. Don't end up in a blame game.

Although you might be giving some wise advice, you sound REALLY bitter. If you carry that attitude home with you at night, I'm sure her and others would notice which would decrease the amount of pussy that you get ... exponentially.

To the OP: If you find someone nice with a good reputation, the chances of you catching something is almost nil. But like others have mentioned, "no guts, no glory". Much of the appeal of this world is the actual nervousness and butterflies that you get when you're going through the process of choosing, etc. It's part of the thrill.

And the escorts often feel this way as well. I do. I can get REALLY nervous before meeting a new friend/client.

And honestly, a lot of these men who really enjoy playing around might not be playing around (or messing around as much) if they had someone home that was catering to their baser needs. (And thank God for that from my viewpoint)

I rather like the advice that others have given you thus far, even the sour puss above. They have a point. It would be a shame to settle.

There are women out there, and I know a few, who would wear you out sexually before you would tire them. Trust me. You might wish to try to find someone who has a drive that matches your own.

Good luck,
Elisabeth Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Thanks Elisabeth for the advise, I would love to hear more from you and if you can recommend someone who can wear me out

I'm 28, not very tall and strong but have a good built. I have never seen a provider before and do not know how and where to begin. The most important thing for me is safety in terms of both health and surroundings. I Should not have any regrets after the session.

new advice..... don't trust anyone, don't give out ANY real DOX, name, phone, email, anything. I'm not going to tell you all the reasons as it goes much deeper than just the providers but protect yourself at all times.

Never go and see a provider that is unreviewed in a shady area and especially at night.

Never let your money out of your sight until services have been rendered.

Watch what you say on your eccie review as word travels back to the provider.

I could go on for days. I've been jumped, conned, robbed, lied to and you will learn over the years to protect yourself.

new advice..... don't trust anyone, don't give out ANY real DOX, name, phone, email, anything. I'm not going to tell you all the reasons as it goes much deeper than just the providers but protect yourself at all times.

Never go and see a provider that is unreviewed in a shady area and especially at night.

Never let your money out of your sight until services have been rendered.

Watch what you say on your eccie review as word travels back to the provider.

I could go on for days. I've been jumped, conned, robbed, lied to and you will learn over the years to protect yourself. Originally Posted by unteagle

Thanks! do you have any suggestions per my requirements..

ilovegreen, let me cut through the BS and give you some sound advice. Go see T at UBT. Tell her you are new to eccie and saw some nice reviews of her and wanted to meet her. She will give you a L1 that simulates the best L3 you will ever have.

In the process, you will have gotten to spend 30 minutes in the company of one the hottest milfs with one of the sexiest attitudes you will ever encounter. And, because you didn't actually do L3, you won't have to deal with a condom and won't have to worry about taking anything home to your GF.

Trust me on this one, you won't regret it.

there's always a risk albeit low. I have an S.O. as well. I never perform oral for fear of std but did once and worried sick for a week as I got sick at the same time with a sore throat. I never engage in sex. Feels like cheating where bbbj doesn't to me. Guess I have my own weird rules.

ilovegreen, let me cut through the BS and give you some sound advice. Go see T at UBT. Tell her you are new to eccie and saw some nice reviews of her and wanted to meet her. She will give you a L1 that simulates the best L3 you will ever have.

In the process, you will have gotten to spend 30 minutes in the company of one the hottest milfs with one of the sexiest attitudes you will ever encounter. And, because you didn't actually do L3, you won't have to deal with a condom and won't have to worry about taking anything home to your GF.

Trust me on this one, you won't regret it. Originally Posted by singleagain45

Singleagain,

Can you provide me with a link to her showcase? I was unable to find anyone named "T" after doing a basic search in eccie

there's always a risk albeit low. I have an S.O. as well. I never perform oral for fear of std but did once and worried sick for a week as I got sick at the same time with a sore throat. I never engage in sex. Feels like cheating where bbbj doesn't to me. Guess I have my own weird rules. Originally Posted by unteagle

I wish I had your discipline. Bbbj is a gateway drug to me.

Some interesting views in this thread some coming from the school of hard knocks. Glad I read it.

A few thoughts. Buy the next Sunday paper and turn to the section honoring couples observing their 50th wedding anniversary with a wedding day picture and a 'today' picture, then reflect on this: Men marry women hoping they will never change, while women marry men with the mission of 'changing' him.

I realize the above paragraph may seem to be a bit twisted, but consider this, there's plenty of wisdom to the saying: The grass is seldom greener on the other side.

I agree too with those who cautioned to give it a lot of thought before jumping into the hobby, for there's only a remote chance of ever returning to the normal side.

Another item to consider: Some say the liberal's goal isn't to reward success. Others will say family law attorney's goal is the same. If you do make a substantial income, it may be better to heed this: If it flies, floats, or fucks - - - RENT IT! If you are affluent, divorses are very expensive regardless if or if not you've been faithful.

I'll now circle the wagons and brace for the onslaughts.

Some interesting views in this thread some coming from the school of hard knocks. Glad I read it.

A few thoughts. Buy the next Sunday paper and turn to the section honoring couples observing their 50th wedding anniversary with a wedding day picture and a 'today' picture, then reflect on this: Men marry women hoping they will never change, while women marry men with the mission of 'changing' him. Originally Posted by Ramjet

A close friend always told me " Women put up with sex for the relationship, Men put up with the relationship for sex." Couldn't be any more accurate than your statement, which is SPOT on!

I realize the above paragraph may seem to be a bit twisted, but consider this, there's plenty of wisdom to the saying: The grass is seldom greener on the other side.

I agree too with those who cautioned to give it a lot of thought before jumping into the hobby, for there's only a remote chance of ever returning to the normal side. Originally Posted by Ramjet

Theres pretty much NO chance! that was my issue. I started hobbying with my first wife when she went batshit crazy. Its WAY to easy to buy a piece of pussy and kick it out when you are done.. I didnt hobby with this wife for many years (didnt need to, she was putting out just fine), but as soon as she started going bonkers and being a cunt all the time, I knew I could just go get some strange that would be 1/1000th of the effort - and I did!

Another item to consider: Some say the liberal's goal isn't to reward success. Others will say family law attorney's goal is the same. If you do make a substantial income, it may be better to heed this: If it flies, floats, or fucks - - - RENT IT! If you are affluent, divorses are very expensive regardless if or if not you've been faithful.

I'll now circle the wagons and brace for the onslaughts. Originally Posted by Ramjet

I have always stood by my opinion that divorce is for rich people because they can afford it. The reason COPS has a whole episode devoted to domestic disputes in the trailer park and another that is just people who've made it on there multiple times (mostly in the trailer park) is because poor folks cant afford it and just keep on doing other shit to spite the spouse because they are miserable!!

A wealthy client of mine lost ALOT of money to his wife who left him. He married a russian girl who screwed him over then left, taking even more money, then remarried the first wife because she was out of money and left the other dude! He never said how much he lost $$ wise but it was enough he never had to give up the house, his cars (prob 20 collectors, high end etc) or anything else... Sorry but If I had that much scratch, I'd NEVER buy again - RENT ONLY!

Thanks Guys for your opinions.

I guess I'm holding off as of now to see a provider for full service and jump into this hobby..

Anyways, my GF had gotten suspicious lately and keeps on calling me whenever I get off from work and asks me where am I at and when 'm coming home...

So, I am yet to get laid and will probably wait till her company sends her out of state/city for a few months and then she would never be able to spy on me till that time.

She has already begun to tell me that she may have to go onsite for some work.....hopefully in the next couple of months

Regarding marriage, I am not going to marry her for the next couple of years until I truly believe that she loves me and not my money..

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