The way to handle it is just say , can you be here by say 11am? Yes? Ok you've got a 15 minute window. If its passed my time limit then just turn around same with incall. Stop letting g them make you wait . Simple. If they aren't in the room or have to " get ready" GTFO and say BYE
Originally Posted by Scoot642
My approach is somewhat different. In college, we were supposed to give the professor a 15-minute window before we could "no-show" him or her and then were free to leave without penalty. Here, under these circumstances, it seems to me that something a little more generous, perhaps 20-30 minutes, would be in order. As has been said, many of these providers seem constantly to be at loose ends in every aspect of their lives.
But after that time window, my approach is to put a clear impact on the economics of the situation. For every 1/2 hour later than that, I've told the provider that $50.00 will be removed from the donation. Hit them in the pocketbook. It can work.
And for a complete no-show, the next appointment will be at a substantial monetary reduction, depending on the individual circumstances. Will some stay away completely? Okay, find another one, instead.
As many here have said, the primary motivation that these providers feel is economic, financial. So, use that to condition them to step up. Not much to lose by trying it. My time IS worth money, and I refuse to be stepped on.
Someone once said to me, "No one is going to piss in my face and tell me its raining." It makes no sense to tolerate, condone, endorse, and worse, reinforce the sort of thing that happened to this OP.
The OP posted that this "encounter" (should have) occurred about a week ago. He'd been reassured by a WK promoter that "she'd make it up to [him]," which others doubted later. I'm wondering if she has? She's had enough time to by now. If so, then that's clearly to her credit, if not, well, that says a lot about her, too. She should've reached out to him by now to fix this.
I don't think that she's necessarily a bad person, just someone who is clearly capable of better and should be strongly encouraged to function that way instead. I'd adjust my donation until she feels the proper motivation. If that doesn't work, then move on to someone else. The more of us who did that, the faster things could improve.