My wife

Thank you all!! I am still working on getting her to agree to it.
I know it’s something she wants to do but I think she’s afraid it will cause issues between us

Is this her fantasy or your fantasy? You said both of you have talked about it at for a while, but who's the one who actually brought it up? Just trying to gauge a sense of whether you're pushing her to live out her fantasy and you're just there for the ride, or if she's just being agreeable to something that you've actually been wanting.

Do you (or her) have any experience with non-monogamous play before you met? I can tell you that if you're just dabbling, it can destroy relationships or at least introduce drama/heartache that you didn't forsee. You can say you're not the jealous type, but jealousy is not the only pitfall. There are many others. You both have to be built for this. It can't be faked.

Sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality.

We have talked about it several times. It is both of our fantasies., but she keeps wavering in doing it or not.

Given that I think a lifestyle party is your best bet. It could be totally organic and natural or it might not happen. She could see other couples swapping. There is usually a room where one woman is taking on all comers.

i agree with going to a lifestyle/swingers gathering (club or home - tho the latter takes some time).

there are lots of swingers websites, just websearch for them.

colette is fun but as mention can be clique-ish. doubt you'd get a group of 3-5 guys who she'd be comfortable w/ but ya never know. maybe start w/ another couple and then move on from there.

just make sure that SHE wants to do it for herself and not cos you want her to do it. added pressure is not totally conducive to a deliteful encounter.

good luck!!

The advantage of a lifestyle (either house party or hotel takeover) is she would get to see people like her doing what she has a fantasy about. It's like watching porn makes us horny.

+1 for Fetlife ... I have enjoyed MANY great encounters there with awesome people. It's a whole different ballgame there (in a good way). You just have to put in the time vs. hobbling which requires just a few bucks and very little effort before hand.

For what you're looking for, it's absolutely the best place to start. Since it doesn't involve a felony in this state, most people there are much more open with real life info, actual photos, meet and greets, etc..

The other issue is probably the request of the guys being in their 20s. Not sure of the demographic of this site, but I am guessing most are not in their 20s.

Where can I find more about Colette's? Single guy under 30s that's interested

Where can I find more about Colette's? Single guy under 30s that's interested Originally Posted by SplashBros

https://coletteclubs.com/dallas/

SDC is another swinger site where there are many young single men who will help you form your team. This is a common scenario requested in the “speed dating” section.