what to say to wife or SO if you get caught seeing escort

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Well, I went with deny, deny, deny, passed a lie detector test, then was given evidence from PI with photographs and correspondence. Still denied. Went to counseling where a psychologist thought they had a breakthrough and said I had multi-personality disorder, so the married husband thought he was honest and true, but the other personality was a womanizer that kept everything from the loving husband. The psychologist explained the symptoms to the wife and how to treat to keep the loving husband in charge. (Stop the bitchin, lose weight, and give more sex more often). She complied, apologized for thinking I was trying to hurt her, doubting me, etc.


That all sounded right to me, so I went with it.
Well, I went with deny, deny, deny, passed a lie detector test, then was given evidence from PI with photographs and correspondence. Still denied. Went to counseling where a psychologist thought they had a breakthrough and said I had multi-personality disorder, so the married husband thought he was honest and true, but the other personality was a womanizer that kept everything from the loving husband. The psychologist explained the symptoms to the wife and how to treat to keep the loving husband in charge. (Stop the bitchin, lose weight, and give more sex more often). She complied, apologized for thinking I was trying to hurt her, doubting me, etc.


That all sounded right to me, so I went with it. Originally Posted by CantBuyMeLove
We need that shrink on speed dial
Single so not a worry of mine but what if your SO comes away with a dreaded gift down there? How do you deny that if you’re pretty sure she’s faithful?
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Single so not a worry of mine but what if your SO comes away with a dreaded gift down there? How do you deny that if you’re pretty sure she’s faithful? Originally Posted by poon_69

Just gotta Bill Gates that shit and slip her some new "vitamins" to take every 12 hours for the next ten days.
My rule on lying to cover up and indiscretion is that if the thing you're trying to cover up is SO BAD that being caught lying won't make it any worse than it already is, then sure, go ahead and lie.


But if you're reasonably certain that coming clean will make things better, especially in the long run, then it's probably best to do that. I also factor in that generally I'm a pretty shitty liar, so I do it as infrequently as possible.


I've lied about where I was a couple of times. She was maybe a little suspicious, but it clearly passed. As a rule I try to schedule sessions when she won't know I was ever gone. Like when she's out of town, or if I have a day off when she has to work.


The one time I was super nervous was when I came home smelling like perfume. She had planned to meet a friend for happy hour and blew it off. I thought she'd still be out when I got home, but there she was when I walked in the door! I was SO afraid I would get busted, but she wasn't suspicious at all. The dog, however, was totally on to me.
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i especially would like to know TIN Man's opinion Originally Posted by Sherry of DFW
This is creepy
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lol, I hadn’t even read her original post when I replied.

I stick with 32Flavors on this one.
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I think TinMan has a secret admirer/stalker.
The Queen Sophie's Avatar
Well I know of one hobbyist who doesn't need to come up with a lie anymore...

I just woke up to a very angry email from someone's wife who had BCC'd about 25-30 different gals informing "us" she was forwarding ALL of our emails, phone numbers, etc along with pictures and videos to his entire family and work. Oh, and she included about 15 photos and 2 videos of some of the girls...thankfully I was not in any of them. I have never heard of the others and didn't recognize any of the girls the pics/video's .

Apparently one of the girls threatened him back in 2024 and his email was linked to his wife's email and she had "a friend in law enforcement" do some research and that's how she found out.

But I did want to reply and say "well bitch, give your husband some pussy and maybe he wouldn't look for it elsewhere" but I didn't. I just blocked the email and deleted it.

This is just ONE of the reasons I do not EVER send anyone a pic when guys ask for one to "verify I am "real" ...lol. So next time any of ya'll ask for a pic from anyone, keep this in the back of your mind...

But I think the best thing to do is deny, deny, deny. Unless of course she has rock solid proof such as this example..🤣
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Even then I wouldn’t admit anything.

But I would be hiring an attorney at that point. That couple has definitely passed the point of no return.
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Well I know of one hobbyist who doesn't need to come up with a lie anymore...

I just woke up to a very angry email from someone's wife who had BCC'd about 25-30 different gals informing "us" she was forwarding ALL of our emails, phone numbers, etc along with pictures and videos to his entire family and work. Oh, and she included about 15 photos and 2 videos of some of the girls...thankfully I was not in any of them. I have never heard of the others and didn't recognize any of the girls the pics/video's .

Apparently one of the girls threatened him back in 2024 and his email was linked to his wife's email and she had "a friend in law enforcement" do some research and that's how she found out.

But I did want to reply and say "well bitch, give your husband some pussy and maybe he wouldn't look for it elsewhere" but I didn't. I just blocked the email and deleted it.

This is just ONE of the reasons I do not EVER send anyone a pic when guys ask for one to "verify I am "real" ...lol. So next time any of ya'll ask for a pic from anyone, keep this in the back of your mind...

But I think the best thing to do is deny, deny, deny. Unless of course she has rock solid proof such as this example..🤣 Originally Posted by The Queen Sophie
100% This is just ONE of the reasons I do not EVER send anyone a pic when guys ask for one to "verify I am "real" ...lol. So next time any of ya'll ask for a pic from anyone, keep this in the back of your mind...
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I just woke up to a very angry email from someone's wife who had BCC'd about 25-30 different gals informing "us" she was forwarding ALL of our emails, phone numbers, etc along with pictures and videos to his entire family and work. Originally Posted by The Queen Sophie
When someone else's lax OPSEC comes around to fuck you moment
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"You cut me off 28 years ago, and it wasn't too frequent before that. The contract works two ways. If you expect fidelity, you can't impose celibacy."
When the provider answers the phone an a female is on the other end they need to become a Job head hunter real fast AKA Worker locator just finding workers to fill a job.