Importance of Eye contact during....

Kind of hard to maintain eye from behind. Originally Posted by pyramider

Here here! I will make eye contact when I am talking to a guy and when doing bbbj...marry me if you expect any more than that! I am not going to gaze lovingly into your eyes and let you stroke my face for Pete's sake! I am selling jokes and bjs...not a fkin honeymoon experience! Some guys are just too damn creepy with all that bs! It's a pay for PLAY, not pay for true love!

Here here! I will make eye contact when I am talking to a guy and when doing bbbj...marry me if you expect any more than that! I am not going to gaze lovingly into your eyes and let you stroke my face for Pete's sake! I am selling jokes and bjs...not a fkin honeymoon experience! Some guys are just too damn creepy with all that bs! It's a pay for PLAY, not pay for true love! Originally Posted by London Rayne

I tend to think most serious hobbyists agree with this. Whether they know it or not, many guys behave like the hobby is a dating service.

Over the years, I've come to realize that the hottest sessions are those during which we BOTH understand why we're there...and can freely talk about it while laughing and talking other things. There is a certain honesty about a session like that. And a fantastic freedom knowing you can go home afterward with no expectations from either party. That, to me, is the hobby. Fun, finance, and freedom.

I tend to think most serious hobbyists agree with this. Whether they know it or not, many guys behave like the hobby is a dating service.

Over the years, I've come to realize that the hottest sessions are those during which we BOTH understand why we're there...and can freely talk about it while laughing and talking other things. There is a certain honesty about a session like that. And a fantastic freedom knowing you can go home afterward with no expectations from either party. That, to me, is the hobby. Fun, finance, and freedom. Originally Posted by WhisperJ

Yes to eye contact! Makes everything hotter! As long as there are breaks between gazes! =)

I always have a paper bag over my girlfriends head with a smiley face drawn on it! J/K!
Eye contact with confidence during BJ is great.

Depends on the "look" that I am getting. One of adoration is great. The one that is creepy is when a guy tends to be trying to look "through" me. Originally Posted by Kymbra

I agree that the type of "look" is important--adoration or sexual connection, vs. just plain staring.

Assuming the "right kind" of eye contact, I think it is very important for GFE. GFE is the only kind of session I am looking for. Also, eye contact during a BJ--where her eyes move between junior and my eyes--adds to the arousal and sensuality.

One of the biggest turn-offs for me is when I look at a woman's face during a sexual activity and she is gazing off in a different direction, looking disinterested.

One of the biggest turn-offs for me is when I look at a woman's face during a sexual activity and she is gazing off in a different direction, looking disinterested. Originally Posted by Skipp

It doesn't mean she is disinterested, she's just thinking about which pair of shoes she's gonna buy with the donation you just gave her.

It doesn't mean she is disinterested, she's just thinking about which pair of shoes she's gonna buy with the donation you just gave her. Originally Posted by boardman

Heh..

I think some people need to understand that all men and women enjoy sex in different ways. Some guys watch when a girl is going down on them, others can't cum unless their eyes are shut and they are clinging to the bed post. Just because someone does not stare at you, does not mean they are not interested or enjoying it. Don't project how YOU think sex should be onto someone else. It's simply not accurate. Some think they should tell others how to react during sex...again, ludicrous. I have had guys who never make a sound but cum in less than 5 min.

I can only get an O from oral...and my eyes are closed. I also kiss with my eyes closed...duh. It's easier to concentrate on the feeling without all the other distractions in the room that fill up your view. When I am alone, I like to watch girl/girl porn to get off. When I am with a guy, I don't want ANY of that around me including toys. We are all different. So either you want the girl to relax and actually enjoy it, or you want her to pretend by doing what you think she should be doing.

I agree with that London. I don't have specific requirements other than preferring msog. I want my time with a woman to flow. You do what you enjoy and I'll do the same, hopefully we enjoy the same things

Heh..

I think some people need to understand that all men and women enjoy sex in different ways. Some guys watch when a girl is going down on them, others can't cum unless their eyes are shut and they are clinging to the bed post. Just because someone does not stare at you, does not mean they are not interested or enjoying it. Don't project how YOU think sex should be onto someone else. It's simply not accurate. Some think they should tell others how to react during sex...again, ludicrous. I have had guys who never make a sound but cum in less than 5 min.

I can only get an O from oral...and my eyes are closed. I also kiss with my eyes closed...duh. It's easier to concentrate on the feeling without all the other distractions in the room that fill up your view. When I am alone, I like to watch girl/girl porn to get off. When I am with a guy, I don't want ANY of that around me including toys. We are all different. So either you want the girl to relax and actually enjoy it, or you want her to pretend by doing what you think she should be doing. Originally Posted by London Rayne

No....no....no....we just want YOU to enjoy. That's ALL that matters.

It really doesnt hurt my feelings if you want to do k9 to avoid it, that happens to be my favorite position lol. Works for me.[/quote]

Hey, that's why God invented mirrors!!

This thread reminds me of the story one hears from time to time about a provider watching TV during the session but the all-too-consumed hobbyist never knows it because he never looks at her to know what she's up to...

Too funny.

k I got to agree w/London Rayne on this to a great extent...I enjoy eye contact to a point. But If I am going to cum I usually need to close my eyes and just focus in on what I am feeling at that moment. But I must admit I do love it when I happen to look up from "below" and see his eyes closed and his face all 'screwed up' in that "OMG" look just before he's about to cum himself, then I am all kinds of happy!
But if your doing the looking up at my face and your making me happy then all your going to see is my eyes squeezed shut as I am focusing on every little thing you might be doing w/your mouth and fingers and tongue hehe.

So how is that for eye contact?

PS I had a subbie who loved locked eye contact as I wallowed away at his arse (as in with a bamboo cane. boy I miss that sometimes) and upper legs. Made for some fun 'marks' and even better contortions on his part to maintain that needed "eye contact" ewg!

I had a session with Mlisa and she made eye contact, so did Lil Red and Sable. Awesome way to spend the afternoon. We never made it to the bed in the other room.

Eye contact says a lot during sex. When they roll back and all you see are the whites, either she is Having an O or it's time to call 911 for the hobbyist and split

I think eye contact is essential for a GFE provider. It doesn't have to be all the time. When a girl is really into daty, she is going to throw back her head and enjoy the sensation.