Hobbyists falling for providers.

  • Annef
  • 11-18-2011, 05:05 PM
I would not guard against falling in love with someone I met while doing this (provided he was single) any more than I would in any other aspect of my life. I don't grow horns whilst functioning in this capacity. I did date someone I met doing this when I first started out. You do have to be careful how much you talk about it. Guys are pretty territorial. I have to metabolise my experiences, ie, I'm a talker. I should have taken more care not to do that. I could definitely see the strain on his face when it came up. I think that experience is rare. I haven't met anyone else who has really caught my interest that way. I myself will stop when I meet someone if not before. But, this was never meant to be a permanent career move for me. Although, the job does make you lazy. I am a Virgo. I can work until I drop. In my last full time job, I worked crazy hours, went in on weekends, and loved doing it! But after doing this, I don't know. I just started another full time job and I"m all, do I have to go into work AGAIN!! So boring. But, some women do it, this is their job and their relationship is their relationship. I totally admire that and the men who are with them. They have a lot more relationship dexterity than I could probably muster, but kudos!
annie@christophers's Avatar
Are a disturbing amount of stalkers out ther.. I dont think they understand that 'THIS IS A SHOW" It is what YOUR paying to hear. A lot of men abuse me cause they THINK in some way I am the one keeping them from them..lol. I reality its my job to see a problem coming and end it.. thats what the girls pay for . And YES ya'll know who you are ..thats why cc's has a no PERSONAL TALK RULE! Go have fun and LEAVE US IN PEACE TIL NEXT TIME LOL!! If you only KNEW how many stalkers Riley and Amanda have had you would shit! Thank god they are very strong woman..Oh and while on the subject I wanna ask ALL MEN to please NOT feel its OK to just ring a providers bell cause you are in the quarters OR close by!! REALLY!! How fucken rude is THAT? AND EMBARRASED NEVER !!?? GREAT THREAD!! xxoo annie
harley3535's Avatar
I think we all know its the thrill of having "{WHAT YOU KNOW YOU CANT HAVE}". However with that said I have also met alot of {great} gentlemen.... thanks to all xoxo
Gentleman10's Avatar
Trying to rationalize the 'when, where, with who. etc.' is the first step to total failure - you simply can't design a schematic for love. Those of us that have been around the block know this to be true and moreover, mostly from having previously failed in our attempt to control the beast we call love.

My anxiety was released when I stopped trying to connect the dots and plan ahead regarding this topic. Taking each date, each day, and each experience as it/they come and progressing from that point forward. Not forcing something to fit or looking for a quality/trait that simply isn't there - those are the things of true self-improvement.

Insofar as falling for or not falling for a provider - how can you have such a rule and even more so, having rules inherently restricts your own personal growth and ability to nurture others.

So, for example, let's say I met and spent time with X provider, and during our time together I started to develop an attachment beyond our business relationship - I'd simply tell her, listen to her opinion, maybe even try to defend/persuade the 'why we should give it a shot' argument, and go from there. Worse case scenario - she doesn't feel the same and you have to man-up and move-on.

BTW - Happy Thanksgiving to all

Gent
  • Annef
  • 11-19-2011, 09:21 AM
Exactly. It's no different than falling for someone you met at the grocery store. Well, okay, its a little different. Either you can meet in the middle or you can't regarding what both parties want. Same as it ever was.
LilRed's Avatar
I don't think we can choose who we fall for or where we meet them. It usually sneaks up on us before we know it. I am a GFE Provider and I will do my best to make you feel like I am your girlfriend when I am with you. My job is human fulfillment and that means meeting the physical as well as the mental needs of a client during his time with me. But the bottom line is I am a provider and I am doing a job (hopefully well enough that you forget that when you are with me). But it is still just a job at the end of a day.
australian_hell_yun's Avatar
Lil Red. Well put.
Outdoorsman's Avatar
Exactly, LilRed, thank you for your honesty.
I fell for my atf, at least that is what she thinks. Met off of a sugar daddy site. I managed to persuade her to start in the hobby. Moved her in now I pimp her out to all my friends. She is none too happy I am adding to my stable. The young pretty ones bring in more money and are easier on the eyes.
Interesting thread and responses. I think it would take 2 people, comfortable w/ themselves an each other to make it work....but surely possible.
LarryLegend's Avatar
I'm am in total agreement with the outdoorsman!!!
annie@christophers's Avatar
HOWS JACKIE?/NIKKI??? (I wonder if this is hi-jacking a thread ?? ) BAHAHAHA.... fucking total loser.. she laughs at ya EVERYDAY dude..AND made ya do THIS stupid shit... xxoo annieIF WISHES WERE HORSES THEN BEGGERS WOULD RIDE !!
causewaycommuter's Avatar
Annie, I have no idea what your post was about. Let's keep the thread on topic.