Defining terms used in ads.

For me, once you passed my screening I will discuss anything. I'm already planning to show up, if I was wrong about you I'm fucked anyway. Why not talk about stuff? Originally Posted by SillyGirl

MY POINT EXACTY.
I could probably detail a handful or more reasons to never discuss specific details on the telephone at any time (even after a successful appointment in subsequent conversation) . . . However, admittedly, I'm more careful than most. Plus, I would rather discuss things privately, behind closed doors . . . just a personal preference.

Kisses,

- Jackie
What I fail to see is AFTER you go through and pass thier screening process When is it the time to discuss
limits without throwing up red flags?? Originally Posted by big country
Well, not on the fucking phone before you ever meet her! Hey, Jackie, is it OK if I cum on your face the first time?? WTF man, have a little discretion and at least pretend to be a gentleman.

(sorry if I'm a little cranky but bear with me and read on...)

I guess I don't get it. Maybe my needs aren't as complex. You're the client. She's the provider. You both know what you're there for. True there are a lot of variations. 98.327% of them (as shown by Canadian Researchers) you can talk for a month and not know until you both get naked and crawl into bed so why talk about it?

If you have a good time expect more and better next time.

If you don't move down the list of names.

I might ask if she'd like me to bring a bottle of wine or brandy for us to enjoy. I might even ask if she'd like anything special, particularly if we've never met. Other than that, go with the flow.

Not really all that much to talk about once you know the donation, time, date, and place.

Sample:

I PM Jackie here and ask to see her on Saturday. She checks me out and says that sounds like fun and she's free Saturday afternoon at 4:00 for a couple of hours. I don't have to call her until Saturday morning or Friday night. Here's the conversation-

Me: Hi Jackie this is KsJack, I sent you a PM about getting together this afternoon.

Jackie: Hi Jack, how are you doing?

Me: I'm doing well. I was just going to make sure you were still going to be available this afternoon and how you'd like me to contact you when I'm ready to leave.

Jackie: I'm looking forward to meeting you this afternoon! (obviously excited as my reputation has preceded me!!) Just give me a call about an hour before so I know you're still coming and I'll give you directions from there.

Me: Sounds great! (I'm excited too because she's so damn HOT). Is there anything I can bring, a bottle of wine or something to snack on? I'd be happy to pick something up.

Jackie: That's very sweet of you but I think I have everything we'll need to have a nice time.

Me: OK, I'll give you a call when I'm ready to come over. I'm looking forward to finally meeting you!

Jackie: Sounds like a plan, I'll be waiting to hear from you around 3:00. Bye hon!

See, nothing to it. I didn't take more than a couple of minutes of her time. I know why I'm going there. She knows why I'm going there. She knows I'm still planning to make the appointment and she can plan on getting ready. I know she's still planning on seeing me so I need to get ready and let her know when I'm ready to leave.

What more do you really need to know? You were supposed to screen her too before you ever contacted her to find out if she was someone you wanted to see. Don't expect her to do your homework for you, she's not asking you to do hers.

Jack
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Lol Ksjack very funny, maybe asking her if she wants some throat yogurt would not get me an appointment! Damn life sucks
I could probably detail a handful or more reasons to never discuss specific details on the telephone at any time (even after a successful appointment in subsequent conversation) . . . However, admittedly, I'm more careful than most. Plus, I would rather discuss things privately, behind closed doors . . . just a personal preference.

Kisses,

- Jackie Originally Posted by Jackie Devlin

Good for you. I don't conduct business over the phone. A flavor for everyone.
KSJack......I'm beginning to adore you more and more.
KSJack......I'm beginning to adore you more and more. Originally Posted by MsElena
See? Don't believe everything you hear. It's also funny how a few minutes on the phone tends to straighten out a lot of misunderstandings...

Jack
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I brought the post from another forum simply to invite discussion from a wider audience. It may well be a "How many angels can dance on the head of a pin" type question, but I think it's a legitimate topic for discussion whether it's ever resolved or not. Muffrider seems to take exception with even presenting the question. Evidently he has it totally figured out. I don't think, however, that asking a provider whether BBBJ and/or DFK is included in her GFE is going to lead to a "5-10 minute conversation". It will likely lead to a 5 second conversation. You've advanced the discussion not a whit by offering what is already known. I appreciate Allie Kat and Stacy's comments - thanks for taking the time to respond. I found Stacy's comment particularly insightful and made me think more about the issue than I had when I originally posted it. Acronyms may get me in the door, but attitude brings me back. Originally Posted by lawyerinjeans
Ok, I'll admit that my post was a bit sardonic. In all seriousness though, I think attempting to define a term like GFE is about as simple as defining the word "income" in the IRC. And while I agree that you won't get much more than dial tone if you start discussing specifics like BBBJ, If what you REALLY want to know is whether she offers BBBJ, then check her website or reviews to see if she offers that.

But if GFE means some inscrutable, subjective, personality trait or enthusiasm during a date, you're not going to get that from a defined term. You'll get a better sense of that kind of thing by talking to her or meeting her.