Wow can't believe how many people judge or down BBW WOMEN FOR THERE SIZE AND NOT FOR WHAT THEY ARE IN SIDE! !!!!!!!!!!
African American providers get far less business than white providers.
This doesn't make them bad people. Or even less attractive (some of the most attractive women I've known in the hobby - /wave Genesis Nicole! - have been AA). It does mean that they have less people who are attracted to them sexually for whatever reason.
It's the same with BBW providers. The number of people attracted to BBWs is smaller than the general pool of people. So business will be harder to attract. Simple law of supply and demand.
Move fwd n don't be negative .. u may not be wht every guy wants but .. such is life.. be positive happy .. n quit bringing negative attention to u! !! Some ppl will always feel the need to critique others when wht they hve at home is not any better!! Good luck n play safe!!!
Sweet Lexxxi dd's
African American providers get far less business than white providers.
This doesn't make them bad people. Or even less attractive (some of the most attractive women I've known in the hobby - /wave Genesis Nicole! - have been AA). It does mean that they have less people who are attracted to them sexually for whatever reason.
It's the same with BBW providers. The number of people attracted to BBWs is smaller than the general pool of people. So business will be harder to attract. Simple law of supply and demand.
Originally Posted by Vyt
Well well said!! I know for a fact guys are more likely to see a "curvy" white girl vs a bad ass AA girl. I dont understand it, but such is true. There really is a market out there for every type of girl. Of course the market is bigger for the "young hot body" BUT all girls of all shapes and sized WILL get business! Stay positive!
Hmmm... I am not sure how to say this and not try to come off rude. It's the last thing I want to really do.
I do have to agree wih Whisper's on some of what he has said. (SHOCKING even I surprise myself sometimes)
This is a place people come to fill their sexual fantasies therefore I am pretty sure 99% is based on looks for them. Not the good sweet charming heart you have tucked away. They can go get that on Eharmony (a dating site). Don't get me wrong I am sure if you develop a regular then maybe that comes into play, but not at first. Looks are first in this business then your heart comes into play.
Also what Ztonk mentions is very true as well...."There are many men here who do enjoy the company of ladies such as yourself. And there are many established ladies with a similar body type in town who have a devoted following of gentlemen."
Yes your a BBW and obviously have said and shown that loud and proud, great job, shows you have confidence in yourself.
I am a BBW as well.... You will not find me on here complaining about if anyone wants to see me or not. I also respect the fact that I am a BBW and I do believe in what Whispers says along the lines of...."just because they make in your size does not mean you should wear it". There are just somethings you wont catch me dead in public wearing or in pictures. I'd rather wear things that are flattering to my size. Other's are apparently more comfortable in their skin and some guys like that. I will save that type of stuff BCD for the guys that enjoy a BBW.
If you have and you do...have a lot of reviews under your old handle, why are you complaining about nobody wanting to see you?
The actual problem you might be running into is that under your old handle you had super duper low rates....you changed your name in hopes of what I think to *re-event* yourself and raising your rates. Well with name change it takes awhile for all your regs to find you again, and to get re-established. Also sometimes it's a hard bullet to swallow for some of your regs who were used to paying $40 bucks(I think) for half hour and now $140 bucks for a half hour.
Anyways just focus on you. Regardless if you are a BBW, Spinner, Athletic, Tall, black, white, yellow, green or purple, there will always be someone for everyone. Not everyone's taste are the same.
....... I do have to agree wih Whisper's on some of what he has said. (SHOCKING even I surprise myself sometimes)........
....... and I do believe in what Whispers says along the lines of...."just because they make in your size does not mean you should wear it"
Originally Posted by Sexy Roxanne
My congregation continues to grow!
(Why the hell is there no "happy Dance" smiley?)
VERY ELOQUENTLY SAID MY BEAUTIFUL ROXY GIRL!!!!!
EVERYONE'S FAVORITE FLOWER,
Lilly
HAVE YOU HAD YOUR "LILLY EXPERIENCE" LATELY
Whoa....
let's not push it there buddy, lol
Yes, I am sure several took screen shots of me agreeing...
Thank you Lilly, love ya babe! Coming soon for my FBSM, hehe
Thank you Lilly, love ya babe! Coming soon for my FBSM, hehe
Originally Posted by Sexy Roxanne
You Let Me Know When Chica -
I'VE GOT A BAD ASS FBSM WITH YOUR NAME ALL OVER IT!!!!!!
MUAH!!!!!
Roxy pretty much sums this up perfectly: People come here to fulfill fantasies. Speaking personally, I rather like BBWs and most (though not all) of the providers I've seen fit in to that category. But not everyone is like me, and nor should they be - that what makes life great in its own way.
Sometimes people want something different, too. I have a thing for redheads, though I have yet to see a redheaded provider; funny thing is, though I like BBWs, my thing would be for a curvy or spinner readhead, not a bbw. My point is some weeks I want to see a blonde BBW, other weeks a brunette spinner. Sometimes an older lady. Sure, there are things about a ladies personality that may keep me coming back - sometimes you just gel with people really well, but it's never part of the initial attraction, and at the end of the day I'm looking to get laid, not make a friend -- I don't have to pay to spend time with my friends.
Sometimes the attraction can even be the price -- I do well for myself, but I'm not made of money. There are ladies that I enjoy seeing that I would not see at a significantly higher price point, and there are ladies which I would continue to see even with some price changes. As a consumer I have a price point for which I expect certain features, and should the product not meet my price point in comparison with its features, then I'll go find another product.
If as Roxy said you've raised your rates and you're getting less customers (and honestly changing your name to do so seems a little dishonest to me, but that's your choice), then that's the consequence of the change, for better or worse. I'm sure there are many providers that could lower their prices and that would make them higher volume, but sometimes that isn't worth the additional cash that it potentially creates, since being lower volume is a value unto itself.
Men are visual. They are paying for a service. Our appearance means everything to our business. As a BBW myself I have no problem with my body. If a man only wants a session with someone with a "perfect" or "slim" body that is fine. Please go to them. There are 10s of 1000s of men in Austin to go around who like all body types.
The main thing is to enjoy yourself and offer a great service.
There's no excuse for guys (or girls) being rude.
However, when I'm looking for an escort, hell, yes, I judge you on your appearance and other "minor" details.
In terms of whether I'm going to engage your services, I'm going to judge you based on appearance, weight, hair color, hair style, physical beauty, bra size, BBBJ vs. CBJ, height, accent, voice, attitude, spelling ability, grammar, session cost, sophistication, "rules," kissing ability, athleticism, who you associate with, bad habits, etc.
If I don't like skinny girls, and you're skinny I AM going to "judge" you by not making use of your services. I'll try not to be rude about it. Why should BBW be any different?
To each their own. There are sgowcases and ads and websites and the only time I would be disappointed with a bbw is if her showcase pics are of a non-bbw and then the door is thrown wide and I see a bbw. That's not right and wastes everyone's time and is a session killer.
But if you advertise as a bbw, then the customer is getting what they want. Good for you and good for him.
The hobby is very visual but thats why they have showcases and websites. Don't want to see bbw's then don't. But don't be disrespectful and rude to them in general, that's just shitty. Socials are a separate issue that deserves another thread.
Big girls need luv'n too.
As my grandfather once told me, never pass up a piece of ass, even if its big ass, because that one you turn your nose up to will the best ass you would have ever gotten in your life.
(Yes my grandfather actually said this little gem)
Have to echo what many said.
As a provider you are allowing men to enjoy your body and typically at most the most superficial aspects of your personality (some demonstration of grace, hospitality and charm). Not really "selling" your body, but certainly sharing it.
So it's about your appearance and demeanor, not your inner self. You could be a gorgeous charming serial killer and do great in this business as long as nobody finds out.
Some other considerations to ponder when planning how to market your services:
MOST men find youth, physical fitness and a certain regularity of facial features attractive. Men who like and even prefer outright fat women are a niche...but they exist. Know your market.
Price is a factor as is a reputation for TCB but it won't matter to people who don't find you physically attractive. It will to people who find you at least a little attractive.
How you are willing to share your body can be a factor. Skills, what you are willing to indulge men in. All that.
But all things considered, being very over weight will limit your market, perhaps severely.
One other thing to consider, there is a huge difference (to me) between fat and in terrible shape/health and "Big and Curvy". You can be 5'6, 200+ pounds with a pretty face (or really good hair and makeup I suppose), big tits, good skin, clean and a noticeably hourglass figure and be very attractive in my mind. Or exactly the same height and weight, round, pallid and sweaty and have nothing of interest to offer (to me). I mention this because even a big girl who will always be a big girl can influence a lot of these things in the medium term and expand her market.