How do you ladies and gents feel about this?
A slight variation on the OP's question, if everyone will indulge me...
Sometimes I have found a touring lady visiting my city who piques my interest, and so I research her. In doing so, I find a price on DC and P411 of 275 but on P411 there is a 25 discount. Also, she has an EROS ad at 225 and an ECCIE special on her showcase for 250. Her website states 300 at home and 350 when touring. Since I decide I want to see her, I send a meeting request through P411.
Should I ask her what is the rate since P411 indicates 275-25?
Do I mention that I found her on EROS at 225?
Do I just opt to pay the highest fee of 350 on her website?
The point of all of this is to indicate that sometimes ladies are as inconsistent between their ad sites regarding rates as they often are regarding age or statistics.
Sometimes the same woman is 27 on EROS but she is simultaneously 25 on P411 and 24 on DC. Her measurements are often just as likely to fluctuate between sites.
These inconsistencies are observed even with well-reviewed and well-known ladies.
Since I don't like to discuss anything about donation in email or by phone, it puts me in a quandry as to what applies, so I typically opt to assume the rate at the site of my choice for contacting her (i.e. simply assume the P411 rate without further question).
But some guys are going to ask, so because of inconsistency in advertised rates, a discussion occurs which may make the provider uncomfortable, or think the guy is trying to negotiate a lower rate.
If ladies would just set their price points at a firm pricing structure and apply that to all ad sites (as well as using the same age and measurements at each of those sites), there would be no need for discussion of rates at all (which is also a safety policy), and any guy wanting to talk about money could simply be ignored.
Anyone who has seen you knows you are a firecracker girl. Stick to your guns, you are worth every penny. If they can't afford it, it is their loss. Maybe they can save up for it. LOL
Thanks Everyone!!!!
I'm NOT upset, was more or less a tad bit irritated (for a short moment)...but honestly..was just really curious how others viewed this type of practice...
the other side of the fence. while that rates menu and everything else is at the discretion of the provider there are times when specials can be beneficial for both parties. there are times when a provider you would love to see simply is not within your price range. a note to tell her you would love to see her and if she ever has any specials to let her know opens the opportunity that might be mutually beneficial. ie sometimes on day of checkout the sp might like to book a quick early am appointment and might be open to a little smaller fee or might be open to a discounted session to fill a last minute cancellation. while haggling and trying to beat someone down is rude just inquiring about possibillities and options if done in a nice and courteous manner sometimes works for both parties. here around buffalo / niagara falls we are lucky to have some great providers in canada that do 100 hh and sometimes that will make the buffalo or rochester girls ammenable to similar things. like i said if asked on the proper respectful manner it should do no harm to ask and could sometimes work out for both
Originally Posted by petiteassman
I frequently offer specials, but they are either not utilized or I get requests for those specials when I am obviously not offereing a "special." That makes me go hmmm.
But the real issue (and I do find this offensive) is a man asking for a special on top of the special you are already offereing or even worse...wanting a 30 minute date when I only offer 1 hour or more, AND then wanting it for less than half the cost of what a 1 hour date would cost.
Thanks OUTDOORSMAN...you ALWAYS dish out such calm sound advice, and it truly is appreciated!
Thanks for the compliment Bluebiker...you are a sweetheart!
Dallas...Honey you are always so laid-back...LOVE YA!!! ...and you are certainly right...It is what it is.
Gimmie that...You may very well be right, but I often offer the "specials" around holidays and such because lets face it...Many gents have SO's / families...They are expected to produce very nice gifts for holidays / birthdays etc, but may not be getting any special gifts at home to...keep them satisfied. We ALL have needs, desires....
My thinking is...It's almost Valentines Day...Hubby goes home with a fantastic gift for wifey. He takes her out on the town, great bottle(s) of wine, dinner, dancing, and don't forget that great gift and flowers. They arrive home late and wifey falls asleep exhausted or even worse...gives hubby just enough to make him not totally regret another expensive Valentines day with nothing new to excite him in return...Hence my specials =) I guess it's my way of giving him what he deserves at a rate he won't choke on first, LOL!
I will certainly consider what you wrote though...you may be on to something! I am NOT an authority on anything!
Licks, Nibbles, and many Passionate Kisses Everywhere - to Everyone!
You don't need to offer a special. You are the special!
To answer your question. I think it is offensive to ask for a special on top of a special and all that jazz. You are the one woman I have seen that treats me better than any other woman in my life. You are always kind, never a clock watcher and have spent much time just chatting like friends with me making every occasion I see you comfortable and special and exciting. I can say that my paying you constitutes you treating me so well, but somehow I see you treating others the same way regardless of whether theyre in the hobby or money is involved. I sometimes wonder why you are even in this hobby you are almost too sweet, then I take you to bed and am reminded. you seem to love it more than me!
Dont cut yourself short with specials and blow off the assholes who think this hobby is negotiable. you are worth far more than you charge and seriously should raise your rates. of course if you do i might be the only one you get to play with, im being selfish now hahaha