Death in the Hobby

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Hobbyists: Do you ever wonder what would happen if you died after the appointment? How would you want the provider to handle it? Would you rather them call the police then get the heck out of dodge or stay and be honest since you don't have to worry about going home to a pissed of wife.

I look forward to your responses.

Seems like DallasRain is thoroughly prepared lol Originally Posted by SkylarCruzWantsYou
After the appointment it really wouldn't be an issue for the provider. Now during that’s a different story. I would expect her to get out of dodge. But as a hobbyist who does mostly in calls, it would be her room. I would think she would call the authorities and have my dead ass removed. If she was asked how she knew me? Answer... "hell everyone knows him!" Then move to a new location.

FYI: I want to go on an up stroke so I get a free down stroke!

After the appointment it really wouldn't be an issue for the provider. Now during that’s a different story. I would expect her to get out of dodge. But as a hobbyist who does mostly in calls, it would be her room. I would think she would call the authorities and have my dead ass removed. If she was asked how she knew me? Answer... "hell everyone knows him!" Then move to a new location.

FYI: I want to go on an up stroke so I get a free down stroke!
Originally Posted by Still Looking
good eye SL
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As a nurse of 18 years, I have had to deal with death in many shapes and forms, never as a provider. But your experience would kick in and you will do the correct thing, which is to call 911, and give any care you can until medical help arrives and give them any info they may need. Leaving the scene will just cause many more issues and throw you under suspension. Life is a precious and short enjoy it will you can...............
this is a scary scenario! I'd call 911 and my instincts would make me want to get the hell out of dodge, but I'd stay. I'd be scared as hell!
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If you think your having a heart attack, go the hospital and take the provider with you! LOL

I would never want to be in this situation, but face it. In most cases, we are doing incalls, we are at their location. Where do they go? Their name is on the lease agreement, the hotel register, etc. A 911 call with no one there when authorities arrive is going to require more investigation than to have someone there.

If you avoid the money issues, when LE and medics arrive, the two of you were having consensual (kind of neat how that word has sensual in it) sex and the incident occurred. Sure, it is going to look bad to his family. He was having an affair. But if the cops have to investigate, it will be much worse. A quick autopsy with a heart attack will end the authorities needs to go further. I doubt they want to put the family through anynore grief, and they will have a good laugh back at the station about this provider who had the crap scared out of her.

Of course, doing CPR, etc. are all things that could be done to save the gentleman.

Of course, a half dozen used condoms, several hundred dollars in unmarked bills, and 5-6 different sex toys might just force the cops to look deeper.

In another light, anyone playing games like are often discussed in the Other Realm may have a hold nuther problem to deal with. That rope around the neck, the handcuffs, etc. could turn it from an unfortunate death to a negligent homicide/manslaughter/murder charge.

Finally, if any "FORBIDDEN TOPICS" are involved, then cops have still another issue to address. A simple autopsy may be delayed as blood test results are needed.
Yes...twice.

One guy almost had heart failure while I was spanking him.
We were at the Doubletree at Campbell Center.
He wanted me to call the desk and THEY could call the paramedics.
The manager came up with an oxygen talk after he called the paramedics.
I hid all the toys and the guy gave them HIS information.
They never asked me anything.

The other guy was at the Marriott and was lying on the cold tile floor in the bathroom.
I was standing over his penis peeing on it, and he pointed to his pills on the dresser.
He couldn'y even talk...just point.
Nitroglycerine tabs.
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  • 03-21-2012, 08:57 AM
I disagree. The incident of my death would soon be forgotten by all except my emmediate familly, but life has to go on, and there is no need to complicate another person's life, (and it would), because of something over which she had no controle.

Sure, the incident would have a profound affect on her, but having to endure all of the indignaties that the "authorities" would surley subject her too would do nothing to bring me back, or help her get on with life.

Trust me, regardless of how she would feel at the moment, she would thank me later for the consideration I showed her. Originally Posted by Jackie S
Jackie,

I applaud you for thinking about her and her situation. I don't necessarily agree with your course of action for three reasons:

1. The reaction of the EMS responders, to include the police. I have had 2 situations where the lady I was with had a life threatening medical event. I called 911 and did what I could until they came. In both cases the police completely focused on the lady's condition and getting her to the ER. Fortunately in both cases the ladies are alive because they did get the urgent care they needed.

2. If the police find a dead body and for whatever reason suspect there was someone else there who left (like a female voice calling 911 but the lone victim is male, I would expect they will immediately become suspicious and are more likely to jump to hostile conclusions, thus making any subsequent questioning more difficult.

3. But the most important reason is along the lines of what Charles brought up: the impact later on on your friend. When this happened to my ATF it was the scariest thing I have ever gone through. I thought she was certainly going to die right there. She had a major stroke. It is three year later now and though she is alive and doing far better than I or the doctors had expected, she has some permanent damage. Logically I know I did everything I could have done, but emotionally I still have guilt that I should have done something more or something different. Each time she makes a major step forward in reconstructing her life it makes me smile. I see her whenever I get to Washington, and though she is doing much better, every time I see her that guilt reminds me it will never fully go away. If I had left her I know I would look at myself not with guilt, but with loathing.

Allow her to decide what is the proper reaction if and when something unfortunate happens.
Yes...twice.

One guy almost had heart failure while I was spanking him.
We were at the Doubletree at Campbell Center.
He wanted me to call the desk and THEY could call the paramedics.
The manager came up with an oxygen talk after he called the paramedics.
I hid all the toys and the guy gave them HIS information.
They never asked me anything.

The other guy was at the Marriott and was lying on the cold tile floor in the bathroom.
I was standing over his penis peeing on it, and he pointed to his pills on the dresser.
He couldn'y even talk...just point.
Nitroglycerine tabs. Originally Posted by *GoddessDallas*
Wow you really got their heart racing, do you think that hobbyist should make providers aware of heart condition or any condition that may get agitated with vigorous or exciting activities? Or do you think that would hinder the experience because might not be giving 100% because she doesn't want any health implications to arise ?
Wow you really got their heart racing, do you think that hobbyist should make providers aware of heart condition or any condition that may get agitated with vigorous or exciting activities? Or do you think that would hinder the experience because might not be giving 100% because she doesn't want any health implications to arise ? Originally Posted by SkylarCruzWantsYou
I think they should! In an appointment i think its important to reveal health info or at least tell her to slow down if you know your heart cant take it!

you know on second thought I did almost had a guy have a heart attack while I was giving him a lap dance, but it would have been on the strip club if he croaked.
I think they should! In an appointment i think its important to reveal health info or at least tell her to slow down if you know your heart cant take it!

you know on second thought I did almost had a guy have a heart attack while I was giving him a lap dance, but it would have been on the strip club if he croaked. Originally Posted by sensualsanaa
I agree I think I would handle a situation better if I was aware of that health risks prior. That doesn't mean I'd be taking it easy on you though, we will still be swinging from the chandeliers but I may have to carry a little something extra in my purse.


I would say we should make that a part of the screening process, but we know how little the guys are willing to tell about themselves sometimes. You have no clue how many guys I've met who say they're name is 'john' or 'mike' -_-

P.S. Skylar, love the default!
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I agree I think I would handle a situation better if I was aware of that health risks prior. That doesn't mean I'd be taking it easy on you though, we will still be swinging from the chandeliers but I may have to carry a little something extra in my purse.

Originally Posted by SkylarCruzWantsYou

Hmmm. . . Does that work on bringing little fella back to life?
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I always said I wanted to die in bed when I'm 90 - shot by a jealous wife who found me there with her 30-year-old hung hubby.
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Hmmm. . . Does that work on bringing little fella back to life? Originally Posted by shorty
I know that I can raise the dead.