I disagree. The incident of my death would soon be forgotten by all except my emmediate familly, but life has to go on, and there is no need to complicate another person's life, (and it would), because of something over which she had no controle.
Sure, the incident would have a profound affect on her, but having to endure all of the indignaties that the "authorities" would surley subject her too would do nothing to bring me back, or help her get on with life.
Trust me, regardless of how she would feel at the moment, she would thank me later for the consideration I showed her.
Originally Posted by Jackie S
Jackie,
I applaud you for thinking about her and her situation. I don't necessarily agree with your course of action for three reasons:
1. The reaction of the EMS responders, to include the police. I have had 2 situations where the lady I was with had a life threatening medical event. I called 911 and did what I could until they came. In both cases the police completely focused on the lady's condition and getting her to the ER. Fortunately in both cases the ladies are alive because they did get the urgent care they needed.
2. If the police find a dead body and for whatever reason suspect there was someone else there who left (like a female voice calling 911 but the lone victim is male, I would expect they will immediately become suspicious and are more likely to jump to hostile conclusions, thus making any subsequent questioning more difficult.
3. But the most important reason is along the lines of what Charles brought up: the impact later on on your friend. When this happened to my ATF it was the scariest thing I have ever gone through. I thought she was certainly going to die right there. She had a major stroke. It is three year later now and though she is alive and doing far better than I or the doctors had expected, she has some permanent damage. Logically I know I did everything I could have done, but emotionally I still have guilt that I should have done something more or something different. Each time she makes a major step forward in reconstructing her life it makes me smile. I see her whenever I get to Washington, and though she is doing much better, every time I see her that guilt reminds me it will never fully go away. If I had left her I know I would look at myself not with guilt, but with loathing.
Allow her to decide what is the proper reaction if and when something unfortunate happens.