You are all so right. Communication is the key. But for her to achieve climatic orgasms. She must feel relaxed, safe, wanted, and the desire to let go. That is a hard thing to ask anyone women, especially if your provider. Losing control of your body leaves you in a vulnerable state. I do understand this and I respect this. Some women won't even kiss you because it's too personal. These are the women that I do not see. I cannot receive pleasure if I know I'm not giving pleasure. That is just how I am wound. I do understand that some of the ladies I have seen do not allow DATY. That is their preference, and I respect that. But they are passionate kissers. So I just have to change my repertoire. Pull something out of my old bag of tricks you would say. There are plenty of other erogenous zones that can be shown attention and should be. I am always freshly shaved. Smooth and soft like a baby's bottom. I should not leave any marks on you whatsoever.
The two reactions that I'm expecting to get out of you if everything is synced right.
(1.) I leave you feeling like you just got a deep tissue massage and you need to take a nap. A total release of all toxins
OR
(2.) I leave you craving more. My personal favorite.
Let those juices flow!