Is big not so great?

I have seen enough porn to know that I am not well endowed but must women tell me that I am above average (kinda like Lake Wobegone). What seems to be more important, more important than even skills, is the fit of the genitalia. The little sailor has a big head and a predominate curve. He just snuggles in the right place for some women, fortunately I have a few regulars that have that fit.......and the search goes on.........

Kandy asked...
"So why all the hype on making your cock bigger?"

somewhat similar to why some women want to get implants.
if the cock is really small or the breasts are really small, i can see wanting a larger size - for image, confidence, well being, etc.

but, as frank zappa sung, "anything larger than a mouthful is wasted!!"

to me, BIG BOOBS and BIG COCKS are distractions from everything else we have. they say "look here, forget all that other stuff, just look here!"
at least a guy can use his cock for oral, genital, or anal pleasures.
big breasts are limited in what they can do.
at least, that's how i look at things.

It's an ego thing, IMO. We're taught from bloody puberty on that your penis size is directly proportional to your potency, to your manliness. The bigger you are the better you are in sex, in life, in masculinity.

Utter BS, I know, but still.
... Originally Posted by Texas_Seeker

i keep reading that line, but none of the guys i know well [family, friends] have said any of that. i sure didnt learn it.

what i heard was - do good, get educated, learn about people, be nice.

and most women i've asked said they really really dont want a 9" or 10" or 12" cock. [see The SOPHIE's post in the other thread]

a cock can only take you so far.
and it can also take you over the cliff - bill clinton, elliot spitzer, the secret service agents & military guys in colombia, etc.

I had a good friend once, in this business, who wouldn't see men with preternaturally huge cocks. When she did her screening, she asked about size and would refuse appointments based on it. Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Years ago I once had a provider ask during screening:
"Can it fit inside of a roll of toilet paper?"

After begrudgingly admitting that it could, I was then informed that Greek was on the menu.

Suddenly I didn't feel so bad!

I have a large cock and had two virgins in college that I couldn't have sex with because it was just too big for their first time. The other two virgins I did manage to make work cried. I have been told no anal multiple times and have had women sore and or bleeding from various orifices after nights of sex. Its not all great things.
But have also had girls way out of my league have me as a booty call because they heard I had a big cock and loved it. So there are good and bad but I think the ability to control when you orgasm and go multiple times without a lot of recharge time is the most important things sexually to most women. Basically having a big cock is like anything else, there are good and bad things but lube is key.

Are you one of those ladies? I've done it before. It's hot. Originally Posted by steviewinwood

I can't say I have ever tried...

The word that reaches me is that guys with big cocks don't know how to fuck, but guys with small peckers know how to use every inch they got. Which makes me a tad bit worried that mine is on the high average side.

A couple of thoughts: First, there's some confusing messages for us guys. On the one hand, you hear "real" people (wives, friends, etc) say that phrase "size doesn't mattter'. But on the other hand, there's enough stuff piped in through the media that says the opposite you kind of wonder if all these "real" people are just being nice. A good example is a particular episode of Sex in the City where Samantha actually was in tears because she had to break up with a guy she really liked because he was small. So yeah, we get self conscious.

Second, I think the real issue is compatibility, isn't it? If I remember right, the Kama Sutra has a whole section devoted to the various parings. Vaginae come in different sizes just like penises. So in the end, it's not the size that matters but the ratio

Having said all that, I will admit that I'm ALWAYS self conscious in the shower room at the gym, even though I know it's totally irrational. I have one of those that's very collapsible for easy portability -- it seems to get the job done when erect but damn if it doesn't look rather pathetic when at rest.

I am by no means a fence post, but never had any complaints. I got what I got.

A couple of thoughts: First, there's some confusing messages for us guys. On the one hand, you hear "real" people (wives, friends, etc) say that phrase "size doesn't mattter'. But on the other hand, there's enough stuff piped in through the media that says the opposite you kind of wonder if all these "real" people are just being nice. A good example is a particular episode of Sex in the City where Samantha actually was in tears because she had to break up with a guy she really liked because he was small. So yeah, we get self conscious.

Second, I think the real issue is compatibility, isn't it? If I remember right, the Kama Sutra has a whole section devoted to the various parings. Vaginae come in different sizes just like penises. So in the end, it's not the size that matters but the ratio

Having said all that, I will admit that I'm ALWAYS self conscious in the shower room at the gym, even though I know it's totally irrational. I have one of those that's very collapsible for easy portability -- it seems to get the job done when erect but damn if it doesn't look rather pathetic when at rest. Originally Posted by AlienSoul67

The person who started the idea that "size doesn't matter" was a man.

Size does matter. Perhaps it doesn't matter to a woman who isn't that much into penetration, which these days many are not (much to my ever 'lovin confusion) but it matters.

What often will make it NOT matter (which is where the confusion comes?) is that some men just know how to work it regardless of penis size. A one inch penis isn't going to be able to do anything with me but oral sex.

Average to slightly above average is really the overall best size to be for most. Me? I like a big one. Sure, I'll admit it.

But many of my best lovers have been average. Or slightly smaller. No one will EVER complain about a four inch cock. Or a five inch one.

I've been with men of all sizes and really, it's the individual and HIS cock that matters in terms of what to do. There are larger men who are awful in bed and there are equal number of smaller men who are the same.

I have found that men who care about their performance and overall ability to please a woman are just better to deal with. And when that happens, penis size is a secondary concern, if one at all.

Hope this helps. Some.

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Girth over length anyday...........

Girth over length anyday........... Originally Posted by BBW Katrina

Finally!