Civie relationships and sex

Right now in my life, I prefer good raw unattached PSE SEX. Civie relationships can get messy, full of drama, and, time consuming. Why play with a woman's emotions when you don't love her. I rather p4p and move on.

Right now in my life, I prefer good raw unattached PSE SEX. Civie relationships can get messy, full of drama, and, time consuming. Why play with a woman's emotions when you don't love her. I rather p4p and move on. Originally Posted by thecooldude

Now that is absolutely fabulous fantastic question ... too bad those who do play with emotions of others rarely have basic human decency to ask themselves. Sort of like thieves never wonder if it is wrong to steal.

Right now in my life, I prefer good raw unattached PSE SEX. Civie relationships can get messy, full of drama, and, time consuming. Why play with a woman's emotions when you don't love her? I rather p4p and move on. Originally Posted by thecooldude

Excellent and that is essentially what I was telling a ex-provider friend of mine not too long ago when she asked. I believe it is better to be honest and not use someone for any reason. Besides being time consuming, some are a whole lot more expensive than P4P as free sex is never that.

Neither NSA nor P4P sex can't possibly compare to love making that is part of committed, loving, emotional, deeply cherished relationship .

We are talking about two completely incomparable things here. If I had to make a choice between being a provider and being in relationship like that I would walk way from providing in a heart beat.

Now, if you were to ask if I prefer P4P sex vs NSA civvie sex, P4P wins.

Lina Originally Posted by Sensual Lina

Very, very true Lina. The only thing I will write is I do not believe there is such a thing as NSA civie sex. From my side, the women always want something more even if they start out with the NSA mantra.

Now that is absolutely fabulous fantastic question ... too bad those who do play with emotions of others rarely have basic human decency to ask themselves. Sort of like thieves never wonder if it is wrong to steal. Originally Posted by Sensual Lina

More like hit and run or kidnapping the pootie

Excellent and that is essentially what I was telling a ex-provider friend of mine not too long ago when she asked. I believe it is better to be honest and not use someone for any reason. Besides being time consuming, some are a whole lot more expensive than P4P as free sex is never that. Originally Posted by PhantomofTheOpera

Unfortunately there is a certain type of man that gets off on "getting a girl". It does not matter that the person may be emotionally or otherwise incapable of maintaining healthy LTR. They will say and promise and do everything they can to "get" someone and as soon as she is "gotten" move onto next target.

To these people it is not time consuming, its a hunt. And to be fair, men are not the only ones playing this game.

Very, very true Lina. The only thing I will write is I do not believe there is such a thing as NSA civie sex. From my side, the women always want something more even if they start out with the NSA mantra. Originally Posted by PhantomofTheOpera

With extremely rare exceptions, women are not capable of civvie NSA relationships. Those who say they are - either deluding themselves or pretending to be OK with it in order to "get a guy" (read above).

Lina

More like hit and run or kidnapping the pootie Originally Posted by thecooldude

Ok, i gotta ask (being dumb flatchested russkie who speak no Angliski) ... what is a pootie?

Lina

Ok, i gotta ask (being dumb flatchested russkie who speak no Angliski) ... what is a pootie?

Lina Originally Posted by Sensual Lina

A term used for cat (pussy)

Civie sex is way better than provider sex. When both parties are tested and can do things that you can't do with a provider like giving her a creampie. I only hobby when I'm single and not dating anyone.

.............. From a female standpoint.. i have yet to find a civi that would be just a friend with benefits... nor have i found one that was open minded............ Originally Posted by LusciousLacy

Well since I can't seem to get any civi sex so I need the provider sex. Tough to for me to say if one is better that the other, I guess pros/cons to both. Wish I could find one of those FWB things.

article about dating provider ....

http://www.quora.com/Is-becoming-a-p...od-career-move

Having a fuck buddy is good.

I haven't had a boyfriend in ages. But I would have to honestly say sex with someone I have a real relationship with ( in the sense of boyfriend/girlfriend, the REAL DEAL, not just the 'girlfriend 'experience) is my preference. I'm not saying I haven't had mind blowing sex with clients ( especially regulars who are attractive to me) or mind-blowing one night stands, but for me, a real connection is necessary for the sex to be meaningful and special.


Since I haven't been involved with anyone in a long time and in the past had dated and even married briefly a client, it never worked out. Work got in the way all the time and I ended up having it thrown in my face constantly.

And after the last disastrous relationship, I knew in my heart that as long as I worked as an escort, I cannot have a boyfriend. It's ths sacrifice I chose to make. And while it may seem odd for me to say this, some of my most treasured regular clients, while certainly and obviously not boyfriends, have filled some of the relationship needs that I occasionally do crave. But for the most part, I am loving being single ( five years or longer) and for now, I can get satisfaction from the 'boyfriend experience' LOL the customers give me.

Right now in my life, I prefer good raw unattached PSE SEX. Civie relationships can get messy, full of drama, and, time consuming. Why play with a woman's emotions when you don't love her. I rather p4p and move on. Originally Posted by thecooldude

You had me at Good Raw Unattached PSE sex... <adjusting halo>

You had me at Good Raw Unattached PSE sex... <adjusting halo> Originally Posted by LusciousLacy

Yes I did!! And I'd do it again!!

There is nothing above sex between two persons in love. Now if we are talking about casual sex with a civie, I very much prefer P4P. I don't want someone blowing up my phone every day if there is no feelings. I don't mind texting/talking every now and then, but not every day. Let's be affectionate, share laughter, explore our sex life and call me when you need some more. And, to be honest my performance is wayyy better for P4P than with a civie.