I am not going to takes sides on this, but rather just point out that part of it seems to be a difference of opinion over what a P411 "OK" means.
It seems the OP believes the "OK" is partially a matter of how enjoyably the encounter went, so since it didn't go well in that aspect she doesn't want to give an OK. I know otherladies who feel the same way, and will only give an OK if it's someone they will see again.
I think for most it means "he was safe, clean, and didn't push against my boundaries". I have had a couple ladies give me OKs even though there was no chemistry and it wasn't a wonderfully toe curling experience for either of us.
I don't think either is wrong, but different expectatins do cause issues at times.
Originally Posted by Old-T
The OP states, "Tried to say it was my fault and that I really had a serious psychological problem."
I think that's a little more involved than just "how enjoyable the encounter went." Obviously, one has to question the safety of a hobbyist who does or says this kind of thing.