I hobby every couple of months. My problem for a while was that I'd see someone an they'd retire/move/go civilian. Not on account of me, really. And I didn't have P411.
Just present your situation to the ladies you want to see, as suggested. Unless anyone you've seen previously calls you out as a jerk, you should be OK. Ladies on here realize some of us aren't lottery winners or weekly participants, and WILL listen to you. It's how you represent, and how you are, and who your limited track record is with, not how often you play.
Hey, does 4 times a year make me a "regular" or a stalker?