Is Sad Tonight and Not Sure Why I Turned to ECCIE

Heartbreak sucks!

Have fun being alone, enjoy time by yourself. Less drama

Have fun being alone Originally Posted by lisa.lisa0302

That's what an ex said to me when she dumped my ass!

sending pm instead

Time...

Really does heal all....

Give time what it needs....


And stay away from match.com. eharmony is so much better for a variety of reasons.

I've done both over the years and thankfully now I have a perfect excuse to not have another broken heart for the next decade. I promised my kiddo I would bring no men into his life till after he was 18. Putting your love and time into making someone else's life better has saved me.

Leave it. Cut the cloth. Sorry, but unless you want this pain to continue, that's what you--not her, you!--have to do. This chick is dear to you and I'm sensitive to that, but she finds it very easy to ignore your feelings and leave you hanging. Not a recipe for sanity. But hang in there, dude.

and fuck her brains out for 2-3 hours.

Hang in there man. It's not an uncommon situation; namely a good guy that's in love with someone that isn't able to commit. I suspect she's well aware that you're a "good" guy and she doesn't want to lose out on that, even though sh'e engaged to someone else that you bleieve isn't "the one" for her. Who the Hell can tell. Move on and find someone that wants to commit to you. She doesn;t strike me as someone that knows what she wants and hopes to keep her hands swirling the bowl so that she can have both of you on the line. I don't know you and no nothing about the facts and circumstances surrounding your relationship or feelings for this girl but I will say this: Cut bait and don't look back. Life will always deliver opportunities. You just have to be prepared to accept them. This woman will lead you on as long as you'll let her because you're a nice guy that's willing to be her safety net. Pacvk up your net and go find some happioness. She's got the rare chance to sleep with someone she barely knows and have a nice guy on the side that isn't demanding. It's time to think of yourself and what's best for you. She's made up her mind and you're just making it easyon her.

A good friend and lover of mine, on and off, is leaving to the East Coast to get married. I met this woman eight years ago on Match.com and we fell in love but she never wanted to commit to me. She got married - divorced and came back to a me a couple of years ago. She has been a close friend and lover many times but she decided to leave town to start a new life with some guy see hardly knows. Why is it that the nice guys like me seem to always get dumped on? Originally Posted by Travelmind

Just a guess, but probably because you allow yourself to get dumped on. If you wanted her for something other than convenient sex, you should have narrowed her options down to committment or nothing and let the chips fall where they may.

We were together the last two nights even with her wearing some sort of engagement ring..

That ought to make you wonder why you would want more than convenient sex. Would you really want someone else saying the same thing about the engagement ring you gave her?

I've got to move on and decide do I want to turn back to Match.com or just play the eccie field and enjoy guiltless sex.

I took the advice of a provider who is also my best friend when she told me that what I wanted wasn't going to be found hobbying and I went civilian. I'll be getting married in the fall because I finally took her advice after arguing with her about how wrong she was.

Time...

Really does heal all....

Give time what it needs.... Originally Posted by LovingKAYLA

The world in which we live would be a nicer place if such platitudes were always true; but, alas, they are not.

hmmmmm, relationship advice from hobbyists and escorts.

Would that qualify as an oxymoron?

You sound like a nice guy that has his shit together. She, on the other hand, sounds like a not-so-nice woman that clearly does not have her act together.
Good riddance to her. There are plenty of quality women out there just waiting for a nice guy like you to come along. H

I could have never imagined this kind of response and I'm reading them from my mobile. I do realize she was not the one and I know she is the male version of the player. I'll respond more later when I'm home at my pc but I appreciate all the feedback. I know the hurt will subside and I'll pick my feet up and move on but it's nice to be able to express feelings and hear honest answers and thought processes.

Sir,

Not a lot more I can say... Be careful here, as the play here can get intense, and with your lines already blurred, can make things a lot worse....

Take a session for what it is, and nothing more....

Sadly, I have to move your thread, but I am sure you will continue to get responses, and I look forward to your post....

PPE

That "nice people finish last" feeling is what most honest, caring and sincere people experience after an unfortunate and painful incident. I really feel for you because it is a feeling that does not fade quickly, if ever.

But listen to me when I say this. Read your two posts again. Print them out and save them. When she contacts you (and she will), pull them out and read them again. Your answers are right there in your own posts. I hope you make the right decision FOR YOU when that time comes.

2 thoughts:

1. Be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it.
2. If you are tired of running into a brick wall, then stop running into it.

Good Luck!

I like the saying, "Time will heal all wounds." Originally Posted by Tara Evans

History demonstrates that "Time will wound all heals" too.