Provider that wants more now for dumping her.

Good point.

I wouldn't pay her. Originally Posted by tia travels

... What is it that makes you different? It leads me to believe there is more to the story, especially considering you used the term "dump" her. Sounds like a relationship to me...... Originally Posted by Staci Stacked

One of the problems in the hobby is a "relationship". They tend to be awkward in most cases. And they can be expensive in some cases.

Hey oldman. I'm a old man too. Been through the threat thing several times. Best thing I've found is outta sight outta mind. Block her from texting & block the phone calls & go live your life. Amazing how much that helps. I'm gonna pm u a good idea too. She'll wear out.

Very odd. Evidently her latent psycho streak surfaced, but going to LE is not the best action here, unless she escalates. It sounds to me as if she did think you had more than a provider-client business relationship. If you didn't intend that to happen, you might ask yourself what you said or did that encouraged her feeling that way, and try not to repeat the behavior with future providers. If you did establish a more personal association, and the clues are there as others have pointed out, well, you took the same chance any couple takes when linking and then breaking after a substantial period of time. Emotional partings are tough and people handle it differently, with some obvious going on the crazy train. At the moment, just ignore her, but yes, save those texts. I would send them to the mods and post her ECCIE handle in Alerts if she carries on.

Btw, Tucson, there are several methods to get text messages from phone to computer. Some phones are set up to do it already or can be synchronized, some just need additional software downloaded to the device and/or the owner's computer (MobileGo Android Manager for PC and Treasuremytext for example) or hardware (Epraizer Universal Flash and Sim Card Reader/Writer USB) attached. He can contact his cell service or check the manufacturer website, or just go find a geek (or geekette) who knows about text backup.

Very thoughtful response there Fancy. If she's messing with him, there is no reason not to blow it all up publicly on this site.

Or ... he could tell her that he is now her common law pimp and gets 50% of her take.

What kind of relationship did you have that she even knows how to inform your family of your secret hobby? Please tell us so it reminds the others so they don't try it...

You really haven't shared much of anything, just that you have drama and no real info that was worth sharing. If you would have informed the community of who to avoid than you would have "shared info".

Maybe this thread should have been in the ML Originally Posted by KenMonk

Well that would be all well and good if the op had access...

Had issues with a provider that has several reviews on this board last nite. Been seeing her now for bout 3+ years. Now she wants compensation now for dumping her. Paid her for all my time with her plus several extra gifts. Border lines on black mail. I do not have a SO, but being harassed with some info going to other family members. Fell like she has more to lose than me. Wanna go and report this to LE, any input would be appreciated. Originally Posted by oldman49

If you're going to put it out here, why not come clean with a name? I always get a kick out of this "unnamed crap"...if you want to keep her name out of the discussion, then don't post about it in public....sheesshh..

wow bad move on ur part never mix business with pleasure unless ur ready for the repercussions. taking this to LE is putting so many in jeopardy cause they aren't just gonna stop with u, they will take over all ur personal things and then it's gonna become a ripple affect to the rest of us. I hope you have learned that this is a big no no unless you were her sugar daddy and your not telling us that part...

However best of luck with this.
XOXO, Lindsay

Sounds like the OP forgot a key point, even in the longer term runs with provider.....yes it is a relationship, but it is a business relationship!!!!!.

How in the heck did she gain knowledge of family members. More importantly, how in the heck did she get to the point where she even felt she could strong arm you.

You have been given some good advice in this thread. But going forward, you really need to totally re-evaluate how you handle urself in future meeting with other providers.

Also, I agree with Malwoody, if a person decides to make a post out in public and then does not name the provider, IMO, it comes off as being rather whiney.

Best of luck...and remember, life can be a big poker game...don't let her bluff ya, with just a pair of 4's!

I don't know the whole situation, but I'm curious about something...you said she has a lot of good reviews here and I assume she's well known. Why aren't any of the other guys posting warnings on here about her doing this to them? What is it that makes you different? It leads me to believe there is more to the story, especially considering you used the term "dump" her. Sounds like a relationship to me...but that's just my .02

Hope I didn't offend you, but you brought it to the board, so I assume you wanted feedback. Originally Posted by Staci Stacked

There always has to be a first time.

I am getting feedback thru the private PM chanel.

Glad to hear that you are getting some solid advice, via PM!

Don't want you to think that I was rubbing any salt into ur wounds. That was not at all my intentions, sorry if it came out that way. I figure you would get some solid advice on your current situation, from others. Just wanted to throw out some thoughts, to perhaps help you out in future hobby fun.

But bottom line, best of luck to you!

Not having a SO, really leaves you in the driver's position

Lots of good points made on the issues but I am thinking this goes deeper than the hobby side. In any relationship there is a potential for trouble. I started a different thread that ties in. In any transaction, knowledge is power. Some men and women like to share and that sharing can cause problems in the area of reliablility.
I have an ex that condomized me since I could not count to 11. That knowledge kept me straving in a dead marriage for nearly 40 years (not an ASP). SHE USED ME and it cost me nearly 150k to get ride of her. I had a roomate for 5 years who talked me out of killing myself but when she disappeared, it ended up costing me $20k(an ASP). I had a another roomate, cost me nearly $22k to look like her dead husband and I spent 100's of hours do work for her for free before it became apparent that is was over (not an ASP). It is a realtity, a matter of fact that there are givers and takers in the world and some times those cross over. Men are not really any better or different than women on this score. Trust is hard to realize and hard to honor. Yes, may ASPs are good "fakers" and many lonely guys can be taken advantage of in the hobby. BUT there are signs on the road of life. In the hobby or out it happens all the time. Step by step, day by day, read the signs on the road of life. Remember there is always an accident or a missed turn now and then but there will be other signs that tell the other side of the story. So keep the sunnyside up and the dirty side down. Anyone can fake it and take it. It takes an honest person to share the whole truth and share that truth.

If you know as much about the other person as they know about you, the balance of power is there. That is where the trust comes in....on both sides of the county line! So be careful with you say and when you say it. Mixing business and pleasure happens all the time. I suggest that you make sure it is a 2 way street. And check your PMs for one more!

OP spill the details. You aren't giving us everything...