Proof of a loser? Yes or no?

I once swore I'd never have to pay for pussy. Now, paying for it is the only way I can get it. It sucks, but it is, what it is. Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot

I (many times) swore that some day I'd be able to buy all the pussy I wanted. And now I can.

OP = If you can afford some companionship, you're the winner, not a loser.

I am definitely not going to say that there is anything wrong with hobbying. I have been married for twenty years, was single till I was twenty six, dated around for years. This is a great way to meet some really neat woman, build no strings relationships, have a great time and help stimulate the local economy, lol. You never know, you may meet someone very special in this hobby, it happens,

What if you have the best SO anyone could ever ask for? Funny, Smart, Great looking...keeps in great shape...and will give you whatever you want when you ask. Is it still OK to hobby? Is it wrong to just want something new every now and then? Its not exactly a "need" as put by Athena, but is it still OK? Are there other guys on here who have it as good as me or am I a complete ass? Originally Posted by tx75070

Hmm, I bet most who have not experienced this would say they would never hobby. But many who do would hobby no matter what, its the same ole "grass is greener" scenario. Of course, those of us who have an SO that may be the total opposite...well lets just say the hobby is what keeps us sane.

Here it is on a Friday night...Im getting to picky... i'm 38 and I guess I have no patience for any games and then when I do meet a lady it seems like it all turns into bs. I started out doing this because of the freakiness...but then again I am picky. Sorry...sorry for myself...self pity...Anyones thought? Originally Posted by curious247

I have a thought or two...are you still needin pity?

No problem with buying a little companionship. And whoever said that about "if you want a really young woman..." is probably correct. After a certain age that can be hard to come by naturally.

But, that said, dude, you're 38. Prime years, right? In the natural order of men and women sharing erotic pleasures you should be sampling from 25 to 45...and there is a great deal from which to sample, even in cold, hard Dallas (or its more congenial suburbs). You're doing well to be concerned, I think.


What was it like before you stepped onto the dark side and found all the freaky and fantasy stuff? Was meeting and seducing (or being seduced by) single (or discrete married) women then absent the BS and game playing that now makes it unappealing? This is actually important info if one is to give you a frank answer. (If your true name happens to be Frank it is purely coincidental.)

Regardless, here's what you should be concerned about -- If one loses the ability to function socially (in the broad sense, including fucking) with the opposite sex, then he has lost something that is, arguably, of great value (in terms of producing pleasure and quality of life) and may, indeed, therefore, (by definition) be a loser.

Functioning at its best, adult sexual service can be beneficial. In a time of transition (post-divorce, etc) a sweet hooker can assuage the pain; a random afternoon when...grr, you just need to fuck! before you can relax; or to do some investigation of one's own sexuality to become a more self-informed lover...these sorts of things are well-and-good.

Beware if the thought of having to engage in some level of routine human interaction (in pursuit of pussy or anything else) seems laborious and uninteresting. You may have drifted closer to the edge than you realize.

When I was younger I uses to make fun of old men that would buy a date because they couldnt get one. Now here I am doing it. Geez i am a bum. Kinda pathetic but i'm 38.... Originally Posted by curious247

Good God...you don't think you're...OLD...do you?

38? C'mon brotha. Hell I'm 46 and I'm still in my prime. Never grow old my friend...never grow old. And by all means live life to the fullest.

Some very interesting thoughts on this thread, have often debated the same thing been in the hobby almost a year after being in a relationship I thought had a chance to interest me in marriage for he 1st time in my life. When it ended I came upon this site somehow and have met some wonderful ladies to "help" me through a rough patch. I have learned a lot the opposite sex. Top of the list being with someone who makes you comfortable who can make you laugh relax and enjoy mutual pleasure is what we both seek and if a little cash is exchanged what is the big deal I Ask, as long as safety an discretion are honored.
Dmac has it right never grow old my brotha I am 46 also and enjoy being in some of the best shape of my life.. Enjoy!

I have hobbied between relationships for 25 years and have met some delightful ladies that helped me threw rough patches with breakups, and when I was working too much to chase women at bars and social gatherings. Honestly, the cost/benefit analysis of the time and money involved in looking for a girlfriend and all the uncertainty and potential drama involved, seeking a good provider has a much better ROI. Another added benefit is when you find Ms Right, your experience with providers will give you more experience and confidence in the bedroom. I am better off for having known quality providers.