Is the hobby good for married couples?

Yes, absolutely. It sanitizes marriages. The only bad thing about it is, that it`s very male-centered, I wonder what women do to sanitize their marriage?
That is one thought I have. It?s a bit unfair on the wives. Because the industry caters mostly to males. But I might be wrong. Interesting discussion

This might help clarify :

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=551484

Join a swingers club or BDSM club. More free ass and less drama.

You are priceless for considering this for your husband Originally Posted by jughead1171

Thanks! Not just for him though for both of us

This might help clarify :

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=551484 Originally Posted by pyramider

Eh, that's not us. He has low t issues so not giving him any isn't the issue. I am the cumslut, whore, and tramp in the relationship with him .

I'm the one who signed up for p411

I'm the one that picked the girl out and got the thumbs up from him

I'm the one that scheduled the session.

It gets my own curiosity with women out of the way. So it's not just for him. It's for us.

I find it sad many men hide it from their SOs anyway. I guess that is what makes are relationship different from most.

I would think just the opposite.....swinging is pretty much spontaneous ...and its finding the perfect couple to swing with and its much more personal....hobby ..you can pick the lady you want to use and lay down the rules and theres no drama or the other partner to satisfy..
Now if you want a MMF then the swing scene may be better for that Originally Posted by wildwooly1

I thought the same thing about swinging.

I don't want to swap. I don't want to fuck any guy but him. So, I think swinging would be out of the question.

I am going to chime in again. When two people are secure in the idea it can be a lot of fun. The couple always has to have their boundaries....first thing I ask: what are your boundaries? Then the couple has to be in agreement about the "toy". I have had many fun adventures with couples and no, I do not think I ruined any marriages, and know for a fact that when I was in the position to choose a "toy" it was a delightful experience.

As one who partakes of the swinging lifestyle. There's misconception that you *have* to do this or that. You don't have to do anything you two don't want to.
And since you indicated you only want to be fucked by by your spouse.
Would then, you two *hobby* for him to be able to fuck other women? And you do the watching? Or you two hobby together and only he does the fucking of other people?

Reason I ask. Is you want to partake in the hobby for your marriage. Yet you only want to fuck your husband and thus you ruled the swinging lifestyle out. Which, to me as a swinger. I personally feel you would do goo to start off in the swinging lifestyle, where it can be extremely sensual and erotic. And you do NOT have to fuck nor swap with anyone if you don't want to. But the over all erotic aspect of being in that environment is fucking sexy.

Where as the hobby can become an addiction, especially if you allow your husband to fuck other women. And it can be a very expensive addiction that he could or may partake of on his own at some point. Unlike the swinging lifestyle.

So give it some thought and you two communicate with each other before you delve into this adult lifestyle.


Good luck

I thought the same thing about swinging.

I don't want to swap. I don't want to fuck any guy but him. So, I think swinging would be out of the question. Originally Posted by redhead24355

Wicked is right about not having to do anything...when you go to swing club theres no pressure for you to do anything ...you can just watch and decide what you want to do...but if you do partake ...you definately need to find the right person or persons and make sure you have your boundries set...but if you want it more one on one I still think just getting a provider would be best for you ...but try both and see ...you dont have to do anything but visit with either one...except the big difference is that its gonna cost you to visit with a provider...and the provider is more like a professional and may understand better what you are looking for.

Eh, that's not us. He has low t issues so not giving him any isn't the issue. I am the cumslut, whore, and tramp in the relationship with him .
Originally Posted by redhead24355

I stand corrected.

If your husband has low t you need to get him into a doctor and get it increased and stabilized. Once that gets done he should perk up some. Then if you need help swinging and the hobby can fill in. But get the cause fixed before you venture into this arena.

Eh, that's not us. He has low t issues so not giving him any isn't the issue. I am the cumslut, whore, and tramp in the relationship with him .

I'm the one who signed up for p411

I'm the one that picked the girl out and got the thumbs up from him

I'm the one that scheduled the session.

It gets my own curiosity with women out of the way. So it's not just for him. It's for us.

I find it sad many men hide it from their SOs anyway. I guess that is what makes are relationship different from most. Originally Posted by redhead24355

Honey, you are such a wonderful, wonderful wife!

Back to your original question, it really depends on the attitude of both of you. You seem to be the one who's interested, so I'm not worried about you. But either he's a) going to be down, and find the option of a third party a good idea in the future, b) feel weird about you enjoying this so much, or c) go behind your back and enjoy someone on his own. In any scenario, you've got to be prepared for his reaction.

I feel when you pay for company, there's less of a chance of emotion involved. Safety protocols and boundaries should automatically be respected. You would explain the scenario you expect as a bare minimum, with the option for it to expand into something more, and then you go home. Either you like it or you don't. Hopefully the lady you chose has a great attitude, and is really into showing you and your hubby a great time, I can't see anything going wrong.

Kudos to you for wanting to explore!

We started in the Lifestyle and found that it pretty much sucks. A lot of people much older than we are whose pictures are inaccurate as hell!! We never found that elusive unicorn out there, but here (Hobby) we are guaranteed to play with a hot chick!

I stand corrected.

If your husband has low t you need to get him into a doctor and get it increased and stabilized. Once that gets done he should perk up some. Then if you need help swinging and the hobby can fill in. But get the cause fixed before you venture into this arena. Originally Posted by pyramider

He is going to a doctor, on meds, and it has increased..

As one who partakes of the swinging lifestyle. There's misconception that you *have* to do this or that. You don't have to do anything you two don't want to.
And since you indicated you only want to be fucked by by your spouse.
Would then, you two *hobby* for him to be able to fuck other women? And you do the watching? Or you two hobby together and only he does the fucking of other people?

Reason I ask. Is you want to partake in the hobby for your marriage. Yet you only want to fuck your husband and thus you ruled the swinging lifestyle out. Which, to me as a swinger. I personally feel you would do goo to start off in the swinging lifestyle, where it can be extremely sensual and erotic. And you do NOT have to fuck nor swap with anyone if you don't want to. But the over all erotic aspect of being in that environment is fucking sexy.

Where as the hobby can become an addiction, especially if you allow your husband to fuck other women. And it can be a very expensive addiction that he could or may partake of on his own at some point. Unlike the swinging lifestyle.

So give it some thought and you two communicate with each other before you delve into this adult lifestyle.


Good luck Originally Posted by Wicked Milf

Thanks. I brought up swinging, but he wasn't into the idea really. I guess I'll look into it more. I just said I don't want to fuck other guys, never said no to women.

Hobby for both of us. He doesn't care if he fucks any of them. The idea of his wife with another woman is hott. We just had the session. She made it into a great experience. She was more into me than him and my husband liked that. He didn't want to fuck her at all, but I had him go for it.

He isn't driven by sex so he wouldn't do anything unless I give him the okay too. So you are saying he is more likely to go behind my back in this hobby than the swinging lifestyle?

Thanks. I brought up swinging, but he wasn't into the idea really. I guess I'll look into it more. I just said I don't want to fuck other guys, never said no to women.

Hobby for both of us. He doesn't care if he fucks any of them. The idea of his wife with another woman is hott. We just had the session. She made it into a great experience. She was more into me than him and my husband liked that. He didn't want to fuck her at all, but I had him go for it.

He isn't driven by sex so he wouldn't do anything unless I give him the okay too. So you are saying he is more likely to go behind my back in this hobby than the swinging lifestyle? Originally Posted by redhead24355

You know your husband better than any of us. If he's the 'going behind your back' kind, which way would you rather him do it?

I think your next foray should be at a swingers event, just for comparison's sake. You'll get a feel for the atmosphere, and whether you feel comfortable with it or not. Some people love it. As a single woman, it's great. If I were married, I would probably be a bit more realistic about the emotional aspect. To me, there's a difference between adventurous and a free spirit.

Personally, having been to swingers events broadening my horizons and with clients, if I were married I would want my husband to pay a woman. That way he's coming back home when he's done, and there's less of a chance of the affair being more than him scratching an itch. This I understand, and wish more married women understood this about their husbands.

Because my feelings lie somewhere between the traditional and the adventurous, I wouldn't consider myself a swinger. When I'm in a relationship, there is NEVER a reason for me to have sex with anyone else. But there's nothing like a threesome every once in a while! Since bringing friends into my relationships is a no-no, I would do as you did and hire someone that we both felt attracted to and had the mentality to make it happen. If my husband liked the idea of swinging or I met a man in the swinging world, I would have to put on my big girl panties (or pull them off) and join him, or let him be free to do his thing.