Bumping into Provider in Public?

My approach on this is really simple;

if both of us are obviously not with someone else in public, provide a quick non-verbal acknowledgement (i.e. a smile or wink), but never approach her. If she want's to talk, she'll approach me.

If one of us is with someone; no acknowledgement and ignore each other.

I've met a couple of my ATFs in public before and we discussed this afterwards. The rules are the results of those conversations....and seem to work well for all parties.

-T Originally Posted by txswing99

Would you believe this....
I'm with my gal pal(non provider) and this guy I've seen Once or 2wice walks up to me and says
"JUCCI !!!"

I saw him coming over we made eye contact and he still yells out my Name. My working name at that.
Damn shame he should have read your post!

I wouldnt mind a Kind Smile from afar(if I am with someone) but if you see me alone or with a female friend... please come say hi just dont reference anything.... cause this could be my family... not another provider...

Kisses

I'm at a mall late one night and I see a provider I know with a friend of mine. Since neither of them knows that I know both of them, I decide to have a little fun. I make eye contact, first with her (hesitant smile, she knows my sense of humor) and then him (absolute terror; I know his SO). I walk over, completely ignoring him. "Excuse me," I say to her, "but if no one else tells you today, that dress is absolutely gorgeous, and you look stunning in it." She turns her head, winks at me, says "Thank you, sir, how very kind, and no, no one has said anything like that to me today." Off they go. Twenty minutes later I get a text from her: YOU'RE SO BAAAAAD!!!!

I'm at a mall late one night and I see a provider I know with a friend of mine. Since neither of them knows that I know both of them, I decide to have a little fun. I make eye contact, first with her (hesitant smile, she knows my sense of humor) and then him (absolute terror; I know his SO). I walk over, completely ignoring him. "Excuse me," I say to her, "but if no one else tells you today, that dress is absolutely gorgeous, and you look stunning in it." She turns her head, winks at me, says "Thank you, sir, how very kind, and no, no one has said anything like that to me today." Off they go. Twenty minutes later I get a text from her: YOU'RE SO BAAAAAD!!!! Originally Posted by Poet Laureate

that is sooo bad but amazingly fun at the same time i love it

I believe in treating others with respect and I expect the same. Don't walk up to me and I won't walk up to you. The meaning of this business is discretion. Keep it in the bedroom and leave it at that.

If you see me in public and miss my touch then call and make an appointment.

In the past, I've bumped into a couple hobbyists I've met. Here in upstate NY, it's a small world. Anyway, the most unusual circumstance also happened at a gym. I was there, and a hobbyist I had met was also there, along with his wife and teenage daughter!! I go on one of the elliptical machines and start my workout . The next thing I know, the guy, his wife and the daughter all go on the machines surrounding me. So here we are, all 4 of us, side by side working out. Like one big happy family. The wife, the daughter, me and the guy, all working out on the machines together. I have to say, that was the single most awkward moment of my life. Can you imagine what the hobbyist was feeling?? I acted casual, like I didn't know anyone. I didn't blink an eye, but I sure did feel awkward.

I agree with you txswing69....
Couldn't have said it better myself lol!

Any contact at all is just asking for trouble. If I am in HEB and I see someone that I saw BCD and he sees me, even if he doesn't see me, I will turn tail the other way. I don't know who he is there with and he doesn't know if I am there with anyone either. Just because he might "appear" to be alone doesn't mean that he is. His wife or kid might be on another aisle coming back with some orange juice. He does not need the stress of trying to come up with an explanation as to why this girl is talking to him or even worse hugging him. Be smart about things people! His pastors wife might be in the store at the same time and see the interaction. Sure it's none of her business but folks can be nosy and that's not something that you want Mrs. Preachers wife to be asking your wifey at the next ice cream social. "I wonder who that pretty gal was that I saw Bob talking to at the HEB the other day? My they sure seemed close". Egads!

Discretion is imperative!

^^^ EXACTLY. Even for us non-married, no kids, no drama hobbyists...it's better if we keep our hobby life separate and distinct from our "real" life.

Depends on the situation. I've been out publically with providers in the past and have ran into friends in restaurants. Fortunately I have quite a few females that work for me so it has always been easy to dismiss them as nothing more then an employee. This also would not alarm my wife if she heard from them that they ran into me and such and such as she is well aware that take my employees to lunch, dinner a lot both male and female. If I am with my wife then don't even acknowledge me and I will do the same. If I am alone and I run into a provider that is also alone, I'll leave the ball in her court but I do know that most of the ones I see would do nothing more then maybe a smile and wink if even that.

In the past, I've bumped into a couple hobbyists I've met. Here in upstate NY, it's a small world. Anyway, the most unusual circumstance also happened at a gym. I was there, and a hobbyist I had met was also there, along with his wife and teenage daughter!! I go on one of the elliptical machines and start my workout . The next thing I know, the guy, his wife and the daughter all go on the machines surrounding me. So here we are, all 4 of us, side by side working out. Like one big happy family. The wife, the daughter, me and the guy, all working out on the machines together. I have to say, that was the single most awkward moment of my life. Can you imagine what the hobbyist was feeling?? I acted casual, like I didn't know anyone. I didn't blink an eye, but I sure did feel awkward. Originally Posted by Tatiana M.

ROFL talk about the truth being stranger than fiction! Sounds like something straight out of a sit-com. Sometimes you just can't make this stuff up.

I am a strict believer in no contact, no knowing glances in public. But I don't think I could have hung onto my composure in your spot. I think I would have been unable to resist burst out laughing at the absurdity of it all. Wouldn't THAT have gone over well!

I have a couple experiences that were totallllly awkward. The biggest 1- I was doing some house shopping with my MOM of all people and the salesman that helped her AND my BROTHER was a client. Talk about awkward...I tried to play it cool like I didnt know him but he couldve been way more discreet about it for sure. Mom totally figured it out in 2 mins who he was and why he was acting flustered lol.
Thats why I usually avoid going out in public too much and if I do Ill always where sunglasses something to disguise myself. But Id never acknowledge anybody in public even if they would do that to me.

Maybe this question has been covered or considered a bit stupid, so sorry in advance.

I go to a gym that is commonly used by the dancers/providers from the stripclubs around that area. Sure it is great to see sexy ladies working out but the problem is I know alot of people that work at the gym, including family members that go there too.

My question is what to do if you bump into a provider that you know in public, such as at the gym/mall/resturant?

I wouldn't want to impose on their privacy by saying hi because it would send red flags up if someone saw me talking to them. I too also wouldn't want to be a jerk to them. Originally Posted by frankocean187

You aren't stupid for asking a question that you are searching to find the answer to from others insight to put yourself at ease about a particular situation. Research is your friend. The way I look at running into people one knows or has met before is simple and no big deal we both have a secret that should be kept so don't talk about it. You really don't know someone in one hour or 2. Next, when time is being shared secretly it stays locked in a diary in the mind and not to be revisited unless more time is shared secretly in the future as a professional courtesy. All towns are small when you are a social butterfly. Don't allow situations to bully you into feeling bad for who you are. In more than one area of life there are ladies and men who fill gaps that another person couldn't fill or simply isn't being filled. If security is a concern, go about your business and act as if you never met the person. If they address you, fake names are great or no name at all. Then suddenly you remembered somewhere else you should be and leave. Be creative to your personality tha works for you. Hope this helps.

I normally don't run into anyone out in public but I would hope that they would all be discrete and keep it on the down low, especially if I am out with my family or someone else.

My biggest fear has been running into a client that wants to approach me while I am out with another client and them assume its my SO or something like that, but then again it shouldn't matter my private life is my private life.

That being said, last week I somehow went to just the right places and ran into like 4 of my clients. One at a restaurant and all he did was wink (but he was at his wife) , another at the store - just a passing glance, again at a restaurant - a slight nod but I was with someone, then the health food store - he approached called me by name and struck up conversation like he was my best friend ... lol.

I guess it is all part of the risks of the job but I am also not going to hide or stay locked away either.

I ran into a provider I had not seen in a bar once. We struck up a conversation and I realized who she was. She was dressed down in sweats. She wanted to meet me again gave me her number and we dated for a while. She wanted to date a guy outside of her lifestyle. I never let on that I knew she was a provider.