I kinda started a thread about this earlier and it was misconstrued by a few. It is, in a way dangerous, to give away personal information too soon, however, in certain cases, as in myself... When I'm home based I see clients in my personal home. Even if they are P411 certified, etc, I still wanna make sure they are who I was chatting with before our meeting for the first time. It's my home. I see some high profile clients. None have had a problem giving me their id to show name. Truth is, I look at first name and picture, period. And really, how could someone really memorize one's home addy in the beginning of a 1 hr session glancing quickly. I personally have a college degree and can't do that... I have joint custody of my children. My clients know this upfront, as politefully warned that if they are at my home without an appt, there is only ill intentions, etc.. My clients respect this in me because I'm so UTR and they know I'm safe. That's why I have so many regulars and have only so many weekly spots for new clientel. Who knows? LE could grab a client, per say, on a way to a hotel room, and come in place of him. If I don't check id, then I am not only putting myself at risk, but the next client at risk as well.... ie, door getting kicked in later, etc... I don't know, but I've heard some horror stories.. I'm very new to this profession. I'm actually a credited (small time) actress/model that wished I would have figured this out about 10 years eariler when I was in my 20's. Giggles...
Anyways, I'm bored, and on tour, but my point was... please don't put the fear of God in every hobbist. Not every provider is ill intentioned and looking out for more. My ex husband and I were in the lifestyle together, so even though I'm relatively new, it's not weird meeting new people, right?, and I'm in the prime of my peak, right? but I am also safe, and secure, and DO require personal information to ensure that myself and present and future clientel are safe as kittens too.. does it make sense now for some providers to ask for a lot of personal info upfront? I don't ask for job info, etc, but most clients feel comfy enough with me to tell me stuff like that, bc I'm so upfront with them. They usually see a short of an Indy I've filmed, or seen my FB page, or something... I provide as much personal info as I expect out of my clients, if that makes sense...
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Hobbying is a way of keeping our sanity sometimes....don't cha think?
It is also a trap....luring you into a very busted situation.
I see way too many guys offering their personal information (real name, where they work, etc...) and they give it WAY to soon! Lately I've heard some horror stories....and I'm talking the ones that totally devistated ones life.
I know it must seem like a gesture of good faith....and seemingly put into the right persons hands....would not bring harm.
BUT....I am here to say guys....GET OVER IT! This hobby world is a huge ACT. Everyone puts on some type of act and pretends they are who they aren't (for good reason)!
I get uncomfortable if a gentleman offers too much information about himself either before he meets me....or even after about two sessions. I don't need to be the holder of that info !!!
NOW...there are those clients, whom I've known for years (like 2 or more years) and I know everything about them. But the trust was developed over time.
And there again, those clients I've known for years who I still have no clue of their real name or pretty much nil about their personal life. I am comfortable with THAT in a BIG way.
Just be careful my fellow hobbyist.
THINK before you fuck....
Does anyone offer this advise as well, or do you think it BENEFITS you to disclose personal info so that it "brings you closer" to the provider....?
Originally Posted by Torre Tames